Put my mind at rest.....

Janepig

DS was 3 on Boxing Day and will be (hopefully :rolleyes:) starting school in September, but he still seems such a baby. That's not me being naiive because he's my "baby" but he really does seem babyish compaired to DD at that age. For instance I was looking through some pics yesterday and DD could draw a face (circle, eyes, nose, mouth, bit of spikey hair) well before she was 3 - DS is nowhere near that!!!

In some ways he's a bit more advanced than she was, he's been dry at night for a while, she was still in pull ups at night in Reception!! He's also marvellous at pulling things apart and putting them back together again!! But speech wise he's not particularly understandable (only by us!), and again, DD could write her name before she went to school, can't see him being able to do that.

I know I'm probably running the gauntlet of the "my child could recite the alphabet backwards at 7 months" brigade here, but do you think I'm worrying over nothing? I think I'm going to start hot-housing him in readyness for September!!!

Jxx

isica1903

Hi Janepig,
I know exactly how you feel. My DS will be 4 in May, he started nursery last september and has come a really long way since then.
Before he started, I thought his speech wasn't very good, I could just about make out what he says but no one else could.
Although he enjoys drawing, play doh etc. he never had the patience to sit and actually do it properly, he would just scribble around a bit. Although in other things he is really good, ie. sports, jigsaws. Now since he started nursery, his speech has improved a huge deal, he's constantly drawing faces etc, coloring in and basically all the things he would never do before.
I personally think boys and girls have a different rate of development, I have a little girl, she's 21 months now and I often think she seems way more advanced than DS was at the same age.
Everyone does things at their own pace, I wouldn't worry about it too much if I were you (i know easier said than done) I'm sure once he starts school you won't recognise him.
isicax

Spendless

Janepig- I have an almost 9yo boy and an almost 6yo girl and in practically everything 1 has been more advanced that the other. DS was 'potty-trained' at a younger age than DD. When I say 'potty trained' he told my MIL he didn't want to wear a nappy anymore aged 2y 5m and that was that.I actually thought that was what potty training entailed till he went to school nursery and other mums put me right- DD made up for it though, almost 3 and her day-nursery had to help! She was dry at nights earlier than ds though.

DS is better at maths and science. DD is better at imagination and talked earlier. A parenting book has told me that is why girls are better at being little biatches -better verbal skills.;)

Don't worry.

Stephb1986_2

Jane dont worry about it i've got 2 cousins ones 17 and can understand him talk his brother is 14 he cant speak a word really and cant read either! my aunt thinks he's perfect!

clu

Spendless wrote: »

DS is better at maths and science. DD is better at imagination and talked earlier. A parenting book has told me that is why girls are better at being little biatches -better verbal skills.;)

Don't worry.

:rotfl: that made me laugh unfortunetly so true!
I wouldn't worry just now OP , children generally all level out with their skills he just has different talents and then may thrive in the nursery environment.

jillymit

I had similar worries about my son many years ago as he was a July baby but my mind was put at rest by a brilliant teacher who told me not to worry about my sons reading, writing, drawing etc. let her worry about all that but to work on trying to get him to be able to take himself to the toilet, wash his hands, take off and put on his own coat, socks and shoes (hopfully on the right feet) as this would make his first few days at school a lot easier for him.
HTH.

Janepig

jillymit wrote: »

I had similar worries about my son many years ago as he was a July baby but my mind was put at rest by a brilliant teacher who told me not to worry about my sons reading, writing, drawing etc. let her worry about all that but to work on trying to get him to be able to take himself to the toilet, wash his hands, put on his own socks and shoes (hopfully on the right feet) as this would make his first few days at school a lot easier for him.
HTH.

That's not a problem, he's Mr Independent who won't let me do anything for him or he shouts "my do it!!". DD is nearly 6 and still has me dressing her!! But at least I don't get tantrums about what I choose for her to wear!

Problem with his writing, or use of a pencil/crayons is that he won't sit at the table long enough to do much drawing, whereas DD loves it.

I'm sure it'll be fine, but I can't seem to shake the nagging voice telling me that all's not quite as it seems. But I am a bit of a worrier!

Jxx

msb5262

Hello,
not sure why your son would be starting school in September if he won't be 4 until December...?

Spendless

It's where she lives and the school they attend. Janepigs daughter is a few weeks younger than mine and a couple of years ago, I was really envious her daughter was in f-time school whilst I was running up and down my school 3 times a time cos my daughter only did 2.5 hour sessions.

Janepig

msb5262 wrote: »

Hello,
not sure why your son would be starting school in September if he won't be 4 until December...?

The school he's going to has one intake, in September, and takes them full time (8.40am - 2.50pm) from age 3. And no it's not a private school. And I don't think it's the only school in town that does this either.

Jxx

kr15snw

Its definately a different system to down here! My neice is 4 in November and wont be starting school AT ALL until september 2010 when she is 4 (nearly 5). They also have 1 intake.

So will he do reception for 1 year and then into year 1? Just seems weird that its a year earlier than us.