Councelling/Therapy

jockettuk

I had councelling a yr after my daughter was born.. they werent sure if it was PND or if it was grief at losing my mum during my pregnancey.. got refered to the hospital for a pre check who then refered me to the correct person .. they were fantastic but i must admit it made me a stronger person to the point that i took no more crap from people and my confidence grew.

brummiebabe

freebie_junkie wrote:

i said not all of then are professional i.e. appropraiet. the first time she met me she asked me (bearing in mind i was very verty ill with hygiene ocd)

"how do you go to teh toilet? do you have sex with your boyfriend?"

is taht professional? no!

i wasnt talkin about ALL nurses etc. just teh ones ive come across at fairfield general hospital's roch house.

plus, before i was chucked out of my rents house i was an in-patient and teh consultant made me sit on teh floor outside her office whilst she spoke to my parents- refused to speak to me despite teh fact i was 20 at teh time, and she told my parents i was a "silly little teenager who is putting it on for attention" and tahts why they kicked me out- i dont really think tahts professional either is it?

another reason why i didnt get teh help i was entitled to was coz i was too scared to see taht consultant again so i kept cancellign the appointments, as tehy made her my out=-patient consultabt despite my making an official complainrt about her methods. is taht professioanl?no.

im sure youre a wonderful and very well qualified nurse, i wasnt passing judgements on yourself, just the awful peopel ive come across in bury.

Really sorry you had such a bad experience!! I just wanted to point out that nurses can also be trained in CBT although won't (necessarily) call themselves a CBT Therapist!

I hope you are doing ok (despite your awful experience!!)

mae

Often there is a fully qualified counsellor in colleges and she has help with the work load from student counsellors. Don't be put off by trainees counsellors they already have alot of traning behind them before they begin to see clients and are very well supported by supervision, on going training and line managers and should be working on the basis of doing the most good and least harm and are often very fresh and keen to get the helping process right. So don't right them off straight away, this route maybe worth exploring becasue its free and generally no waiting lists or maximum amount of sessions.

melancholly

You know what the best thing about this thread? Realising how many people go through counselling - it's so much more common than people would publically admit - I wish I'd been on these boards when I went through it all a few years ago!

freebie_junkie

people get so scared to say they have been to or do see a counsellor because society makes it shameful. its not shameful to get plaster on a broken leg but apparently it is to get a broken brain fixed.

freebie_junkie

brummiebabe wrote:

Really sorry you had such a bad experience!! I just wanted to point out that nurses can also be trained in CBT although won't (necessarily) call themselves a CBT Therapist!

I hope you are doing ok (despite your awful experience!!)

yeah much better now- not all the way, but better! thanks

mae

Unfortunately its seems some people in society still think that going to see a counsellor carries a stigma. However society is changing, in that, years ago family life was much more at home and extended families lived close by and communities were closer although this may still be the same for some peolpe it is not for others and the lack of just having someone to talk to can cause a need to see a counsellor maybe years ago family and community were our 'counsellors'.Sometimes we may feel we need to see a counsellor because our family and friends may judge us if we talked to them or we may not want to burden them. Whatever the reason what can be the harm in talking to someone with a view to feeling better or changing our situation for the better.

freebie_junkie

im nor embarrassed about my OCD if people dont want to speak to me anymore when they know (happened with quite a few of my so-called friends) then thats their problem and theyre not worth knowing anyway!

ALI1973

Ive had CPN and private counselling (for different things), but my CPN was by far the best. He really seemed to care and never put me on the "clock" which in itself was therapy!

Possibly all depends what the counselling is for as to whether its better for NHS or private.

Best wishes to you all and THERAPY WORKS!

Love Ali

Dora_the_Explorer_5

For those people thinking about using a private counsellor it's worth bearing in mind that anyone can call themselves a counsellor.
The questions to ask a private counsellor before deciding whether to use them or not are which bodies are they registered with, what are their supervision arrangements, are they insured, do they have a complaints procedure, what protection their membership of a professional body gives their clients, what ongoing training are they involved in, what therapeutic intervention do they use and what qualification(s) do they have in it. And most importantly of all does the counsellor make you feel ok, comfortable and safe, as not every counsellor will suit every client.