leaving a house in a will but to only one child.when there is two

Sandz

geoffky wrote: »

Bit of a problem with a family member.The mother of two children aged in there 40s and the mother has fell out with one of the children and has had a will written to say that one of the children gets nothing upon her death...the question is i reckon the other child can contest this will and get half..is this right or can she do this? ps its on my wifes side of the family and find it very sad that it came to this but everyone is stubborn and refuses to entertain forgiveness...

This happend to me , but the change over of the deeds of the house was made a few months before my mum died, my brothers name was on the deeds..Then both my mum & dad made a will but of course only their money & household things were in it..

I didnt find this out til a few years later my brother kept it quite..then I went to a solicitor for advise on it , as my mother had been on Morphine ..
I was told if it was done with the Knowledge of my father , I would have to go up against him plus I would have to foot all the bills , which the outcome may still be the same ..so he ended up with a house worth 156 thousand pounds which he sold , plus half of my Fathers monies when he died..then Peed off back to the USA to another house he has ...
Families are great

ruggedtoast

Ah the Chancery Suit! Things are spinning along nicely now Ada, spinning along nicely. Mr Vholes assures me all matters will be settled by Spring.

Yours

Richard Carstone

m_13

ruggedtoast wrote: »

Ah the Chancery Suit! Things are spinning along nicely now Ada, spinning along nicely. Mr Vholes assures me all matters will be settled by Spring.

Yours

Richard Carstone

Ah, Bleak House! There is something to learn from Richard who wastes all his resources on trying to push Jarndyce and Jarndyce to a conclusion on the will but loses all of his money and his health in the process. Indeed when the case of Jarndyce and Jarndyce is at last concluded, the disputed estate has been completely absorbed by the legal fees accrued in the case. A cautionary tale for all those who consider disputing a will.

I was told a relative had left me a share in her house and I've never seen a penny of it but it's not worth losing sleep over although I do occasionally ponder on it.

theartfullodger

Dunno what it is with families and children. If someone wants to leave all their money to one child, or their cat fluffy, or Battersea Dogs Home, or Miss Fifi La-Big-Chest their friend that nobody ever knew-anything-about and the will is drawn up correctly then so be-it. It may sound unfair but that was the decision of the person leaving their own money.##

In my 'umble opinion, that is how it should be.

AFAIK there is nothing in UK law saying you should/have-to/must/really-ought-to-be-fair-to all the kids,..

Should people perhaps feel they should look after themselves, earn their own money ?? Bit of a radical idea I know...

Cheers & best wishes to all, including those who don't agree with me..

Artful

m_13

My parents sent me a picture of their new conservatory with the email subject 'We're spending your inheritance'! I do think it's a bit odd when people leave all their money to their pet but if you have no humans you want to benefit then it's better than the state getting it all.

TTMCMschine

besonders1 wrote: »

I didn't think that you could contest a will usually but I do know how it feels to be cheated as my dad was a victim of "not being the favourite" despite doing everything for my grandma. He got nothing when she died and my auntie who shoved her in a nursing home, got to inherit her house and paid off her mortgage.

So it was your Aunt who had to deal with your Grandmother's care, and not your father? I beleive i will be in a situation when my Grandmother dies, but from your Aunts end. My Grandmother has two children. One hasn't spoken to her for years. The second hasn't spoken to her for five plus years. Neither visited her when she had breast cancer, and neither went to their father's funeral. Despite effort the most i can do is pass on my Grandmother's progress. I moved my Grandmother down to near me as she was falling and not even realising, drinking heavily and not eating. I tried home care, but they didn't turn up. She didn't take her medication. Please understand "shoving" an elderly person into a nursing is not an easy option and if you think people take the descision lightly you are very wrong. If you have ever worked in care (home, hospital and care homes) you will understand how hard it is - much harder than my children.
My Grandmother stayed with us during holidays, and it was the most stressful time of my life. She'd leave medication around the house and her care took far more time than my 2 children (3 and 6) at the time. Every time i leave the care home after i've taken my Grandmother out or visited her it's heartbreaking. She doesn't like it, but life would be very difficult if i looked after her full time, especially when i worked full time. It would have been dangerous. She told me she was leaving everything to her grandchildren. I have been put in a position. I think if she changed her will she wouldn't be of sound mind now, but she hasn't indicated she wants to and i'd rather keep out of it. If you think care of an elderly person is easy. Maybe you just swanned in once a month, but you are wrong, it is a heartbreaking and difficult time, and if people make their wills, you should respect that. I don't care if i get nothing, if her money all goes on her care fine. But i am fully expecting protests when she dies.

bookduck

I have to ask the Princess Di question: she left quite a lot of cash in her will scattered among the disabled and infirm. After an 'alteration' all they ended up with a trinket and for some was a plate!

What went wrong?

pinkshoes

I'd be happy if my parents left their fortune to the British Heart Foundation, or whoever they chose.

I wouldn't even be the slightest bit upset if they blew the lot upon retirement for a 10 year round the world trip, so long as they kept in touch via email, phone and the odd postcard, and hopefully let me know where they were so I could go visit!!

It's their money, they earned it, so they can do what they like with it!

If they gave it all to my brother, and none to me, I still wouldn't be offended, because it's their decision that's important to me, and I'm sure they'd have their reasons for their decision.

Expect nothing, and be eternally thankful if you get anything!

ruggedtoast

m_13 wrote: »

Ah, Bleak House! There is something to learn from Richard who wastes all his resources on trying to push Jarndyce and Jarndyce to a conclusion on the will but loses all of his money and his health in the process. Indeed when the case of Jarndyce and Jarndyce is at last concluded, the disputed estate has been completely absorbed by the legal fees accrued in the case. A cautionary tale for all those who consider disputing a will.

I was told a relative had left me a share in her house and I've never seen a penny of it but it's not worth losing sleep over although I do occasionally ponder on it.

As it goes one of our friends are going through their own Chancery suit. A relative left their side of the family a percentage of some very valuable real estate, but the rest of the family are fighting it tooth and nail, on what sounds like the lamest of technicalities (its all the biological heirs trying to stop the adopted one getting a share, though they were specifically mentioned in the will not to be left out).

It makes no sense as the property is worth a fortune and no ones been able to do anything with it for what must be coming on to two decades of litigation now. The lawyers fees alone must be astronimical and you can be sure those crafty lawyers will keep going as long as possible.

No one wins contesting a will except the lawyers.

besonders1

Problem is if you disinherit someone, it will cause trouble between siblings or the person who get the money may feel as if they're being dishonest to their bother/sister. If I or my parents had fallen out with my family and I was left with the full inheritance then I would still share out the money equally even if a will was made against this as I think it wouldn't feel "right".