Should I buy my 4-year-old son pink shoes?

jellyhead

I worried about my boy wanting a Thomas bike for christmas. I thought it was too babyish, and was surprised that they made it in age 4-7. He doesn't even watch Thomas :rotfl: He rides it to nursery, and will still be using it when he goes to school I imagine.

So far nobody at nursery has laughed at it and they've all wanted a go on it. I worried, but kids that age don't seem to laugh or bully, not yet.

Swirlywurly

God what a sad world when adults are telling other adults that their children can't wear certain colours.This is where children learn bullying behaviour from. If he wants pink shoes let him have them and give him the confidence to wear them with pride. If you are going to buy them but will feel uncomfortable then he will pick up on that.

I will never forget wearing a gold skirt to go to brownies. My mum told me not to but I insisted. She told me people may stare and I said "well thats their problem then isn't it?" Because that is what she had taught me.

I regret it now though LOL!

mrcow

I wouldn't buy pink shoes. Trainers perhaps, but I wouldn't spend more than a few quid on them.

Shoes are generally an expensive item to buy for kids and if the novelty wore off and he started to refuse to wear them then you're stuffed.

Why are you picking on the shoes? Why not get him other pink stuff. My son had lots of pink t-shirts etc and still takes "pink teddy" to bed. I wouldn't buy him pink shoes though. His shoes cost £30 and he wear them to school. They'd be against regulation if they were pink.

PolishBigSpender

mrcow wrote: »

His shoes cost £30 and he wear them to school. They'd be against regulation if they were pink.

How terrible. Your son is obviously quite young, yet the school is imposing such things like 'shoe regulations' on such young children.

Again, and I keep saying it - it's no surprise that UK children are so unhappy when even small children have to wear regulation shoes to school.

mrcow

PolishBigSpender wrote: »

How terrible. Your son is obviously quite young, yet the school is imposing such things like 'shoe regulations' on such young children.

Again, and I keep saying it - it's no surprise that UK children are so unhappy when even small children have to wear regulation shoes to school.

He's 7.

And he's not unhappy at all.


He loves the school and so do I.

And the rules are good. Kids need rules, and so do parents! School uniform is a blessing too as it's hard wearing and it's cheap.

busiscoming2

Buy him the pink shoes!

pinksleepybear

Pink (and red) used to be considered a masculine colour - blue was considered more delicate and so was suitable for girls. It wasn't until Hitler forced homosexuals to wear pink labels to identify them in forced labour camps that pink was considered less than butch.

He's only 4 and he likes these shoes, so let him wear them. Pity anyone who teases him, they must be very narrow-minded and insecure.

jamespir

Aaagh wrote: »

With toys he is mad on trains and cars, though if I leave a pair of high heels and a hand bag in the hall then he's in heaven!

yeah and so are most boys of that age doesent mean hes gay or anything i know men of my age who still do the same thing(darn the secrets out now ) its just one of the things kids do as for wanting a pink pair why not compromise and buy a normal styled pair with pink laces or get some like i have that a white and have pink cheqered squares on them

Ettenna

My friend's son is 16, 6' tall, a rugby player and football player and he has a shocking pink pair of boots. He wears pink t-shirts and wants to be a scaffolder He is quite happy wearing pink

bestpud

Gosh, this thread has really made me think!

I personally cannot get my head round a boy wearing pink shoes, at all! But then, when I look at the photo GR has posted, they actually look much better then the picture I have in my head!

I still think, though, if he were my son, I'd go for something other than shoes.

I do not associate pink with being gay. I've always thought (whether they are gay or straight) a man has to be fairly sure of his sexuality to wear pink. Although that is perhaps changing a bit now.

I see no problem with a dressing up box full of girly clothes, and, if he enjoys playing with your handbag, I would definitely get him some of his own.

If he insisted on shoes, I'd definitely make them a full shoe so more boyish in style iyswim?

What type of shoe does he have in mind?