missed payments since he turned his back on our kids. anyone help?

get_me_debt_free

Hi, I am looking for some advise, we have been battling through court over contact to the kids and there dad, but dad has to be supervised, and now he says he doesnt want to see the kids unless he can have them on his own, my problem is now.. he has stopped paying CSA..
What happeneds now??
I have tried to contact the CSA, but they say i have to ring on monday..
im worried sick how I am going to bring these kids up without help.
can anyone help me?

marksoton

Phone Monday. If he is employed PAYE chances are they will send a DEO to his employer and take the payments at source.

As an NRP i hope your reasons for getting supervised contact are genuine...

get_me_debt_free

yes 100% he is a sex offender,
whats a DEO
and NRP?

marksoton

DEO = deduction of earnings order

If he is directly employed then the CSA can go straight to his employer and take the money before he gets paid.

NRP = Non resident parent

get_me_debt_free

Thanks , he is employed still as far as I know, unless he has been sacked for being a pervert.
kids i feel sorry for as they love dad so much and they dont know whats happened and they cant know till they are old enough, I have even welcomed him in to our home to save going to contact centres but he refuses to see them at all now after fighting for 2 years, If I let my kids go to him social services will take them away... so im not just being petty, if he was normal they would be there every other weekend, I would love time for me, as mch as the kids would love time with dad, but its too much risk.
very sad,

marksoton

Well phone Monday and see what response you get.

AskMeAnything

Hi, sorry I can't offer any constructive advice but having read your situation I just wanted to say how sad I am to read your situation. Keep strong and protect those children, they're precious and so impressionable. Best of luck, I'm sure you'll be fine.;)

get_me_debt_free

marksoton wrote: »

Well phone Monday and see what response you get.

Thanks I will do x

get_me_debt_free

AskMeAnything wrote: »

Hi, sorry I can't offer any constructive advice but having read your situation I just wanted to say how sad I am to read your situation. Keep strong and protect those children, they're precious and so impressionable. Best of luck, I'm sure you'll be fine.;)

Thanks its been a long Battle, but the kids are safe and will never be hurt as long as i have anything to do with it, its just a shame i got a 17k legal bill which will be attached to my house as a standing charge because I am buying my own house! terrible really as all I have been doing is protecting our kids! This country has some funny Laws!:A

Loopy_Girl

I agree with Markoston....defo phone Monday and get things moving. If he has missed 2 payments through the CSA and is employed then they can put a DEO on him. If he has been sacked and is claiming benefits then you can request that £7.00 per week is deducted from them to be paid to you.

He can't emotionally blackmail you (or even sadder, the kids ) by witholding his maintenance as you won't leave them alone with him.

This must have been a horrific time for you and you are doing well for keeping so strong - well done you! x

Loopy_Girl

get_me_debt_free wrote: »

im worried sick how I am going to bring these kids up without help.
can anyone help me?

You'll manage - I promise you;)