The Giving Up Smoking Thread!! Part 2

mollie123_2

Thank you geoffgeofftygeoff.

I've just stood outside having a cigarette in the pouring rain, wet, cold and miserable and thought - why...............? This is no life.

Mollie

fiftyeighter_2

Oh thanks Larmy, that was so nice.
Well Mollie i'm with you here so we can start the journey together. I feel exactly like you. I'm so scared, what of i'm not sure. Its good to no theres someone else out there feeling the same as you. But we will do it Mollie. Lets think positive together. I wish you lots of luck. With everyones help here i no we can do it. Hopefully i will see you on here tomorrow.
Just think it will be the start of a new and healthier life for us both. We are in control not that horrible stinky fag. x

irishwexford

Best of luck fiftyeighter and mollie
Will be thinking of you both. Its getting easier for me now as the benefits are outweighing the odd cravings. One day at a time is my motto.;)

Sue-UU

mollie123 wrote: »

At the moment I'm not too sure how I feel. I want to give up smoking so much, yet I'm scared. And I know this sounds mad - it's not going to physically hurt me, so why am I so worrried?

Hi Mollie and fiftyeighter, good to see you both here again today, it shows just how sincere you are, how much you value your lives too!

You both say that you're frightened of quitting, though I suspect it's more a fear of 'letting go'. After all, you've been puffing these things at any time of stress, excitement, when making a phone call, just before going to an interview or meeting. It's been a friend to you all these years at such times - right?:D Wrong!! It's 'Nick':mad: with all it's chemicals, spotting us being weak and starting smoking originally, that has had us locked in it's powers and has done strange things to our brains during all that time, and if I'm not wrong, you, like all of us, have viewed them as "Friends"! Well, it's good to have friends in life, but not of it's the type of friend that kick us outside to puff away in awful weather to get more of it's filth into our lungs; not the type that forces you off to shops at all times of day or night just to buy another packet as you 'can't' do without them. It's this so called friend:mad: that makes you cough madly, then suffer when you get a terrible chest infection but laughs when your Dr says "pack up the fags or they could really do you harm before long!" To add insult to injury, we even let it rob us of our money!!! :eek: Do you want this friend by your side any longer? Of course you don't!! So, kick him out of your life and let him know you have no room for him and will NOT let him control you any longer! :j

Go forward today and do all you plan to keep away from him, you'll possibly even find it far easier than you'd ever thought possible! What a terrific idea to hopefully go forward together with Mollie, fiftyeighter! It would be wonderful to know you both have similar feelings...that you're sharing it all together! It's not at all 'a bit extreme' to have planned your day Mollie, it's great idea and may be just the right way to play it. Whatever you think might work, go for it and try, you'll never know otherwise! If necessary, alter your life a little; what you do straight after getting up, your meals or what you do after them - get straight up and wash up or go for a walk. Alter relaxation times a bit, pick up an old hobby or find a new one and keep mind and hands occupied! Do be careful where alcohol's concerned or it may just make you wobble and do something you'd regret. If you're used to having 'sticks' with a coffee then change to tea, water, juices, squashes...any thing that makes habit times easier to bear. IF cravings come, breathe in deeply several times while holding a beautiful thought or memory in your minds. Clean through the house (great therapy in helping make you feel so clean), go as fast as possible up and down stairs, but try not to reach for fattening snacks. Buy some Ice Poles to suck, have a few nuts, or saltanas. Go for a walk, then gradually pick up the pace to a brisk walk and go for as long as time allows, breathing deeply as much as possible. Little by little your lungs will improve and you'll feel MUCH better and so quickly feel so very proud of yourselves!!! :j

We really look forward to hearing how you've done and no one here cares whether you become ramblers on here or not, and it's true Mollie, there is something very therapeutic about writing things down. We used to have one lady who used her mobile to write texts - even though she never sent them, it took her mind elsewhere and worked for her!

All the very best in quitting forever, but doing so, one day at a time! :j

Sue x

Very well done Sexy Legs, you're doing marvellously!!! :T To you also Irish!!! :T

Great news about your holiday in Egypt SandC, you really deserved it!!! :T

Keep on staying strong everyone, you're doing SO very well and are all doing wonderfully on your journeys! :T Be proud and happy of all you've done so far! Wishing you all well!

Sue x

kasharic

Hi all!
Just wanted to say that I too have recently quit smoking - I tried to kick the nasty habit a few weeks back, but unfortunately relapsed several times since then.
However, I'm back on the patches and have been clean for over 2 days now, and am feeling better than ever!

To all those also on the journey, I truly hope we can all be of encouragement to each other! It's very reassuring to know that there's huge support here for the moments of temptation

greenpixie_2

Hi all

I'm on the path of quitting smoking and glad that i found this thread. I'm only 22 but have been smoking for about 8 years now.

I've never really seen it as to much of a problem except for the past 2 and a half years. Its the boy that i want to quit for. I know that you should never quit for someone but its not completely for him, i know he accepts that i smoke. I did before i met him, he's never tried to make me quit, i just know that he disaproves. He's the person that has never ever had a cigarette before in his life.

But now i have decided myself that it is time to quit, i'm at uni and i'm skint all the time. It'd be nice to be able to treat myself rather than have to pay out for cigarettes all the time. I know that i've said that i'm doing it for him, but we've decided to move in together after i finish uni. I don't want to smoke in a house with him seeing that he is a non smoker and i want to get past the frustrating stage before we move in together. I think that might put too much tension on our relationship with the stress of the move and everything.

I'm not quitting today, i've been cutting down for a while. I don't smoke at home in the family home, i just think that its going to be easier to quit when i'm in that environment so i've decided to quit when i go home on friday. Even though its close to christmas and most people are warned not to give up then but i think i can do this.

I don't really drink, Since i got back to uni my depression got worse and i've just not wanted to drink. I don't mind going to the pub and having one its just i don't go out on an evening where the pubs are crowded. It seems to scare me. But i'd rather drink nice juice anyway. There was a point to that, just i don't normally have that drunken i need a cigarette stage now, well no excuse to do that.

Sorry for the rant and i hope to get to know you all

greenpixie_2

Forgot to mention some other factors as well

At uni i do smoke quite a bit of weed, i think that this is going to be one of the tough things to give up, more than the nicotine. Its just if i did carry on smoking weed and just smoking nicotine when i did this what would stop me from having a sneaky cigarette every now and then.

Its gonna be hard to get out of the routine and the fact that my room at uni is "the smoking room"

Maybe i should just get a shi-sha lol

larmy16

Hi Pixie and welcome.

You will probably find it is the nicotine which is the more addictive. Kick that and you will surely have the strength to kick the weed.??

As someone who took the path of addiction in my younger years, you name it, drugs, drink and alcohol - I only wish I had given up all these things years ago. The benefits of having "peace of mind" ( the only drug which really delivers) far outweighs all those other chemicals I was using on my search to find POM.

Glad you don't drink. That makes it a lot easier.

Just keep posting on here and you will find it a great help in your journey to be hopefully totally chemical free.

SandC

greenpixie wrote: »

Forgot to mention some other factors as well

At uni i do smoke quite a bit of weed, i think that this is going to be one of the tough things to give up, more than the nicotine. Its just if i did carry on smoking weed and just smoking nicotine when i did this what would stop me from having a sneaky cigarette every now and then.

Its gonna be hard to get out of the routine and the fact that my room at uni is "the smoking room"

Maybe i should just get a shi-sha lol

Hiya green. When I went to the Alan Carr clinic the lady who ran it said that if you were a weed smoker then you could easily smoke it using herbal cigarettes. Easier said than done I think as you need to get into your head first that it's not the act of smoking you are addicted to but the nicotine in tobacco (hence why herbal cigarettes never really took off). If you carry on smoking tobacco with weed you are still smoking and you would still have ordinary cigarettes sometimes.

SandC

mollie123 wrote: »

Hello everyone

Thank you all for making me feel so welcome and for all your messages of support - perhaps I've finally found the support network I need!

I've done all the preparation I can to stop smoking and I've decided that I am not going to have a cigarette tomorrow. To say never, ever again just seems so scary so I'm going to be one of those people who literally take it one day at a time.

It may seem a bit extreme, but I've already planned my day for tomorrow and intend to do as many things as I can where I couldn't have a cigarette even if I wanted to - for example to do some Christmas shopping at a large shopping centre after picking up my daughter from school, treating her to MacDonalds, getting home as late as possible and having a nice relaxing bath.

At the moment I'm not too sure how I feel. I want to give up smoking so much, yet I'm scared. And I know this sounds mad - it's not going to physically hurt me, so why am I so worrried?

I intend to come back tomorrow and let you all know how I get on - some how I think I'm going to become a rambler on here, but there's something very theraputic about writing things down.

Once again, many thanks for all your support and well done to everyone who has given up - I really do admire you.

Mollie, it IS scary. We all know how that feels. I worried about there being a big gaping hole in my life and how pointless a glass of wine would be without a fag etc. But turns out there is no gaping whole and a glass of wine is just a glass of wine sitting in the warmth instead of outside in the cold, or sitting in a smoke free living room. I really thought I liked smoking. That's what I get from my smoking friends 'I just like it'. But there came a day when I just thought 'that's it I'm stopping'. As I had tried and failed before I booked myself on an Alan Carr clinic - knowing there is a money back guarantee and that it would cost me just a bit more than a month's worth of fags it had to be worth it. It was.

It's not daft to feel scared. Nicotine does that to us.