The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

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Sorry, a belated Happy Birthday to MSE AF folks!!!!:j


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mollypolly

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Put me down for 32
Gotta catch up with molly somehow :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Have a great day everyone.

BHB

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Wanna_Bee_Free

115K wrote: »

Only 11 days AF for me this month. :A

No, surely you can't mean only. I've muddled, clawed, scraped, scrabbled, tottered, fallen off, held my head in my hands during the hangovers and I've managed 9. Surely 9 must be loads and loads of AF days... and 11 is even more than 9!!

Feeling a bit weird about today as if I can do it then I've managed my target of 10. Will need to find my positivity bag somewhere and pull something out of it.

Have a good day all.

fluffyb

You can do it WBF One day to go that's all and you will feel sooooo good that you hit your target

winebox

stroppy wrote: »

Thanks WB they are metrodinazole, big ol brown things :eek:

That's the one....don't risk any alcohol at all with these. I was too scared to, I'd had so many warnings from friends who made the mistake of thinking a small one wouldn't hurt.....I hope this works for you too but I found cos I had no choice I was OK being AF for 2 lots of 5 days, though OH got very twitchy over the weekends! I waited 24 hrs after the last one & was OK then to have a drink but was careful!
But do take them!! Sorry if you've posted between 10.37pm last night & now, haven't read all the posts yet but thought I'd jump in with the warning!

jo1972

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Put me down for 32

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Miss P, sorry to hear about last night, that's summat I'd do. I think you've just made me realise that although my danger zone is between 4.30pm and 9.30pm, I still need to be vigilant before and after cos you just don't know when it's gonna strike :eek:

Hope you feel better soon xx

graemecarter

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

I'm sure theres something skewed in my brain. Last night, gone 11 o clock, I went and opened a bottle of wine and drank it in pretty much just over an hour. Then proceeded to have a row with OH when he gently suggested I came to bed.

I think my brain was inserted back to front and upside down. I would do mad, irrational things where alcohol was concerned!! I'm still mad, but not drunk mad. :T
There are 2 issues here it seems
1) Why start drinking past 11pm at night?
2) Why can't you stop when you start?

Both seem irrational, as I am sure you'll agree

WHY do I do this??? I'd managed to avoid it all evening so what happens that suddenly makes us do this??

Hungry, angry, lonely, tired, bored, resentful, anxious, etc
A myriad of reasons.

I know for myself, I behaved like I did due to alcoholism. Other people get hungry, angry, lonely, tired, bored, resentful, anxious, etc and don't seek solace in alcohol. Thus I am alcoholic.

Perhaps I AM an all or nothing person. Maybe completely giving up is the only option for me as I just don't have the ability to stop once I've started.

It took me many years to come to the decision and accept I had an illness of alcoholism. I hated admitting it to myself, as I had many negative connotations with this moniker. I preferred problem drinker.
Now I don't care either way - there is no shame in me being alcoholic

Piglet is off to nursery at 1pm so I'm going to research alcohol free cocktails / drinks on the internet. Think if I can make a nice non-alcoholic drink then I won't miss the alcohol. Thats the theory anyway.

I hope that works for you. When I wanted a drink, I really wanted a proper drink, and alcohol was the only thing that was going to satisfy that thirst

(P.s OH just text saying it "Wasn't pretty" last night. Makes me feel very embarrassed):o

I bet, the shame and embarrassment just cascaded with me. Apologise, move on, and try not to do it again.
People got fed up with me saying sorry (and meaning it) but then a few weeks later doing it all over again. People judge you by your actions, so if you say you are not going to do it again, then stick to it.
I found I would let other people down, and myself down, all the time.
It gets emotionally tiring when that happens.

winebox

Miss_Piggy wrote: »

I remembered Fays post from last week. I've gone through each stage this morning. The feeling carp, the checking texts and e-mails sent, and the apologies.

Funny that, I was thinking about Fay's post as well this morning. Am also feeling a bit, er, delicate. No reason for me to "do it" last night either, OH had wound me right up but even so I sat for ages & reasoned why I didn't want to have a drink & then I did. Ouch to your text from OH. I thought I'd got away with it as was on my own & avoided phones then read my post on HERE at 10.36 last night! Was reading through the posts this morning as if for the first time then saw one that I knew I'd replied to & got that sinking feeling...then read mine

Am going to be AF today so will finish the month on 8.

Positive: double last month
Negative: still crap

wbf you go for it!! you'll feel so great!

Happy...thank you so much for the scoring, fantastic job & btw why do you need a sprocket (that's been lurking in my subconscious!)

NTC you've done good 4 months now, well done :T

Oops gotta go do some work hi all

RecoveringAlcoholic

I think my brain was inserted back to front and upside down.

I liken mine to a washing machine/tumble dryer.

It took me many years to come to the decision and accept I had an illness of alcoholism. I hated admitting it to myself, as I had many negative connotations with this moniker. I preferred problem drinker.
Now I don't care either way - there is no shame in me being alcoholic

Snap.


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maman

Morning everyone, just catching up. I enjoyed my wine with lunch yesterday but then started again in the evening. Didn't really enjoy it, took ages to feel awake this morning. Why???

BHB, so sorry to hear about the little goat but I think you both did well not to have a *** it moment to help you cope.

jo, I think you must have the same thing I had last week. All the symptoms of a very heavy cold and then a dreadful cough. I had a five day antibiotic for chest infection and started to feel better after a couple of days. We need to be careful, there are so many germs floating about on this board. Perhaps we shold all wear masks while typing??

wbf, please try to be AF today and reach your target. Just think how good you'll feel when that jumpy appears just for you!

Stroppy, I worry that if we all tell you to go with the antibiotics you might rebel. Why not think of it as a bit of an extra support to be AF ( like super Kudzu) or like when you have to drive somewhere so just can't drink or visualise the most awful tootache ever. Whatever works for you.

Miss P, I so understand what you did. I've often been out for the evening (AF 'cos driving/working) then got home late and opened a bottle. The 'new' me is trying hard to see an AF evening as a great opportunity to tick a day off my target fairly painlessly. Do you know why you did it? or was it just because you could?

I did't mean this post to go on and on. Thinking of you all. Oh and if we're to have a movie premiere can we wait until I've lost a few pounds? Otherwise I'll need magic knickers to get into posh frock!