What's the most basic service you can get away with.... bit long

Lucyxx

whitewing wrote: »

Aaaawwwww. They'd be so cute - you have to have a big wedding - everyone will look at them anyway!

lol my 5 year old DD would be in her element (as she was when she was a bridesmaid in September just gone, she's very into her weddings lol) but my 2 year old DS would be a bloomin nightmare!!!

Sometimes I cope with situations by everyone turning the attention on them, like I also hate opening presents infront of people, so now I have children it's perfect as no one watches me!!

jinky67

Lucy you do what ever suits you hun.
i aint into the big wedding thing either and when i do get married it will be as small aservice as poss.
Like you I hate the whole centre of attention thing so if i get my way it will be us and the kids and thats it really.

it is your day no-one elses have it your way

smartie12

We had a lovely ceremony at the registry office with not very many people and my DS gave me away:D


The ceremony was loads better than I expected:j



The most important thing I learnt from doing the whole wedding thing is that its YOUR day.... do what YOU want!!!;)

jinky67

congrats to you smartie and your new bubbly hubby

MsChazzer

More reassurance to say do what you want and what makes you happy. We're having about 70 people to ours but we're dispensing with some of the traditional things like seating plans, fancy cars and speeches - although we will both say a few words of thanks.

I've found the website offbeatbride.com to be really helpful as an antidote to all the 'you must do x and x for your perfect day' wedding sites and magazines you see out there (this forum is a good antidote too!). Most of the weddings featured on it are American and have lots of guests but there are some international and very small weddings on there as well that are really lovely to read about.

GemmaB78

Yet more reassurance to do what YOU want.

My OH intend to do the deal whilst on holiday in the States. No-one will know, and then we'll surprise everyone and have a big party when we get back. Like others, I hate being the centre of attention and the thought of being on show for a full day fills me with dread. It's also a hell of a lot of money to spend on feeding people. My family is mahoosive, and outnumbers the OHs by a ratio of about 4:1. And then there's the inevitable family politics. The most important thing is you and your OH vowing to be together through thick and thin. The rest is just trimmings.

CurlyTop

Hi Lucy

I would say the same as all the other MSE'rs except to add, that my and my DH had been together for nearly 13years and eventually last year we decided to tie the know. Only thing was, that I am the same as you, hate being the centre of attention, family being what it is I wasn't in the mood for who sits with who and who doesn't, venues, flower picking etc. I eventually decided to opt for Vegas and to be honest, we chose well.

We were married at the Graceland Chapel which is one of the last chapels on the strip. You can choose your wedding package to fit your bill. The package includes flowers, buttonhole, limousine pick up and drop off, use of the chapel, services of a photographer, photographs of the big day (Elvis is optional). There was only me and he and whilst I know that my dad would have loved to have been there, I'm not a fan of my step mum.

The wedding package we chose cost about £200 pound. Witnesses are supplied by the chapel. You have to get your licence which is £30 first and then you are good to go (we printed the forms off at home in advance). We paid the minister £30 and the limo driver £30. 7 night stay in hotel with flights cost us £1100. You don't need to provide documents if you are a divorcee, no blood tests needed and no minimum stay required before you tie the knot. We thought it was value for money.

Glad to say that we were married on 23 November but unfortunately, my dad was taken into hospital, the day after we returned home and then he passed away the day after. We are going to go for a meal with my brother, his wife and my nieces in the next couple of weeks, as none of us have felt much like celebrating since dad died and I am not in to parties anyway.

At the end of the day, you have to do what you want to do, not want other people want you to do. You get one crack at this, so make sure it is the best choice for you and your hubby. Go forth, enjoy, be happy.

Minxy_Bella

One of the best weddings I've ever been to was a couple of friends who just had a few friends and their kids at the registry office and afterwards randomly picked an Italian restaurant which we all piled into.

It was spontaneous, wild and a sheer joy!

It's not what I want for my wedding (second one coming up lol) but it worked for them and that is all that matters.

I hope you have a lovely day whatever you decide.

tori.k

i dont blame you at all,just go do it the way you want to....we !!!!!!ed off to Mauritius,the hotel provided witnesses, we already done the house/children bit and ive watched my siblings have the farce of (cant sit them together they've been at war for 20 yrs etc etc) tho are you sure you dont want the works??? your post sounds as if the hassles that make you not want to? and it would be horrid to regret not having the wedding you want, invite those who mean the most and !!!!!! the rest if they,re upset with you anyway one more slight wont kill....its h2b/your day celebrate the way you want.....good luck x