Can he get access to my kids?

loobylee

Thanks for all your replies everyone.

I only know about this as MIL called me yesterday and said she had recived a text from FIL (they are no longer together - and haven't been for 20yrs) saying that he is changing his will so instead of his children being benificarys the grandchildren will and because if this he thinks he has the right to see them.

MIL says he already has a soliciters appointment for next week.

OH doesn't talk to his mum either so there is no hope of asking her to mediate - she wouldn't anyway she is to scared of FIL - they have been divorced 20yrs and she still does what he says!

He lives over 100 miles away so I do not think he will appear at school - he doesn't know which one, but I will still let them know to be on the safe side.

All advice is appreciated, especially from those who have been in similar situations.

Edited to add: He has a police record for violence and was once tried for manslaughter but he got off - he has alos been on contless anger management courses. This was all about 15 - 20yrs ago though.

Susan_Frost

If mil is so much under the control of fil, just be careful how much you tell her what you are doing, or even your reaction to it all.

Wow, the more you say, the more likely it is that he would have no chance.

loobylee

MIL has in the past asked questions about the kids, like where do they go to school, etc but I honestly thought his dad would never even think to bother us - especially after 11 yrs!

I know he probably won't get contact with them but I am such a worrier - it is driving me mad with all the what ifs

Thanks to everyone for your comments they are much appreciated.