question to new mums

squigglewithawiggle

how old would your baby have to be before you left him/her with someone else? Including close family, a week, 6 weeks 3 months?

For me, baby was 6 months old and that was reluctantly because I had to return to work

Spendless

about 1 month old and I had no choice but to let sil take him for the day as I started with a s & d bug and husband was working away.

When baby was 7 months I got a p-time evening job and had to leave him with a relative as there was a'gap' between me starting and hubby finishing work.

chalky_75

i would of and did leave my little ones with my mum from very early days.She would have done anything for her grandchildren--- except breastfeed them of course

Violetta_2

10 days but that was cos I was wisked into hospital at deaths door for a week I hated being apart from my new baby, which may be why we hardly ever go out as a couple, 3 times in 3 years, she did go to nursery just before her 1st birthday, which I hated but I had to work. She has never been away overnight.
I don't think it's a bad thing to be apart from your child indeed it's probably good for them to be looked after by others, I wonder if I'm too clingy iykwim.

hayleyc_2

I think DS was about 2 months but it was only for a couple of hrs for a work xmas do. I found going out tended to be more hassle than it was worth because of having to express milk for him etc. He was about 10-11months before he was left with anyone for much longer than that.

Alikay

We left our first baby with my parents when she was 2 weeks old to go out for a meal on our 1st wedding anniversary. Stayed away all of an hour because my let-down reflex errm.. let me down and didn't fancy staying out for dessert in a breast-milk-drenched dress!

Probably left it a couple of months or so before leaving the subsequent babies as it wasn't worth the effort any sooner.

3onitsway

My DS was only about 3 weeks old when I left him with my parents overnight, for a wedding on OH's side.

Took me ages to express enough milk to leave for him - and was left with really sore boobs.

My boobs leaked all over my outfit at the wedding reception.

Half way through the wedding the DJ asked for me to go to the main reception to take a phone call!! So obviously, i paniced!!!! It was mum, i'd forgotted to put any teats on the bottles i'd left! Which made me feel like the most rubbish mum ever!!

Then, to top a great day/night - i woke up in the morning with the hardest, hugest most painful boobs - and had to hobble to mums to feed him!!

sammie383

I left my LO with my Aunite for the day when she was 3 months old, Then I left her with my sister for 2 nights when she was 9 months old as I had to go to my now DH's Passing out parade ( He joined the Army ).

She now at 21months has been going to a childminder since july as I now work PT but shes never left my side apart from those 2 times lol

She was and sometimes still is really stranger aware and doesnt like strangers picking her up ( I.E my friends from work ) she just wants Mummy or Daddy and this is probably our fault for her not being involved with lots of people and being away from us.

fernliebee

My DD is 6 1/2 months old now, I have been out a few times in the eve after she is in bed and daddy hasn't minded staying in for the eve. Each time I have only been out for about 2 hours. The first time she was 5 months. Apart from that I have left her with my mum while I popped over the shop (5 mins) and with a close friend when I popped over shop too. It's my husbands birthday at the end of January and we might leave her with my mum then, but maybe we will take her with us- not fully decided yet!!

I think it's whatever works for you. Most babies will be fine when left if it's with someone they know and love, or are asleep and if they aren't then you can always come home! I didn't think I would find it quite so hard to leave her as I have to be honest though!

Edit: Just realised my post sounded a bit like I thought it was only ok to leave babies with people they know and love, not thinking of nurseries. Most babies in the nursery I worked in were absolutely fine and had a lovely time, and I think they really did love the staff there! I was more thinking about evenings as that is what applies to me!

Milky_Mocha

5 months old. Went back to work and baby was at my home with a close relative and initially also with my Mum.

Magpie.

My daughter was exactly a month old when I left her with my mum as I had to go back to work :sad: