Depression Support Thread

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BizzyBek wrote: »

Just an update - Mum had the bum telescope an everything looks okay - so that's a weight off our minds.

was it a pain in the ar5e :rotfl:

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beachbeth wrote: »

Im so upset today. Had to take my eldest dog, a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel to the vets yesterday with a poorly tummy. They put her on a drip and gave her antibiotics because she was so ill. Sadly she passed away in the night and we can't believe it. I thought it was just a simple upset stomach and now she's gone. My face is swollen from all the crying and Im going to miss her so much.

so sorry a little 's' for sunshine is on it's way to you now

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for the first time this week I've just had an afternoon nap after a up and down week. Had so many wierd dreams in most of them I was beating someone up, suppose you could say I was fighting back, so it's safer to be awake now. Must be the Sagitrarian in me

There was a time when due to the drugs and therapy I was really fighting back in my dreams where as in real life I was always very passive. For a couple of nights I was actually punching in my sleep, one night my poor wife got a punch right in the kisser in the middle of the night, needless to say she slept in the spare room after that for quite a few months.

La-Cara

beachbeth wrote: »

Im so upset today. Had to take my eldest dog, a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel to the vets yesterday with a poorly tummy. They put her on a drip and gave her antibiotics because she was so ill. Sadly she passed away in the night and we can't believe it. I thought it was just a simple upset stomach and now she's gone. My face is swollen from all the crying and Im going to miss her so much.

sorry to hear that (((((hugs))))) xx

geminilady

beachbeth wrote: »

Im so upset today. Had to take my eldest dog, a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel to the vets yesterday with a poorly tummy. They put her on a drip and gave her antibiotics because she was so ill. Sadly she passed away in the night and we can't believe it. I thought it was just a simple upset stomach and now she's gone. My face is swollen from all the crying and Im going to miss her so much.

Sorry about your dog it must have been a big shock when you thought it was just a tummy upset(((hug)))

whitevanwoman

beachbeth wrote: »

Im so upset today. Had to take my eldest dog, a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel to the vets yesterday with a poorly tummy. They put her on a drip and gave her antibiotics because she was so ill. Sadly she passed away in the night and we can't believe it. I thought it was just a simple upset stomach and now she's gone. My face is swollen from all the crying and Im going to miss her so much.

Hi

I'm so sorry for you - losing a beloved pet is as traumatic a loss as losing a family member and it must be awful when it's sudden and unexpected. I lost my elderly dog just before Christmas and I'm still grieving for him and miss him terribly. I was lucky in that I'd had time to prepare myself for him going - he'd had a stroke last summer and although he recovered well, it was a wake up call that his time was nearly up. Even so I spent a week in shock after he went and then several weeks where I cried constantly. Even now thinking or talking about him brings tears to my eyes.

Every emotion you must be feeling at the moment is perfectly ok to feel - I think pet owners find it harder to admit to the depth of their grief for fear that people will not understand or be dismissive of their feelings. I was really surprised to find so many sympathetic people - including my boss, my mechanic and even the shop assistance who asked me if I was ok when I burst into tears in the pet food aisle.

I've not even been able to look at photos of my old fella until just today - I've bought a really nice all-in-one photo frame and clock to put on my bedside table and I've been looking through my old photos for a nice one to put in it. Written on the frame of the photo / clock is "The heartbeat of love" and the tick tock of the clock does sound like a heartbeat and it's quite comforting (there's probably a psychological reason for that and maybe Ab Bounder will tell us). I feel sad but not as empty and in pain as I was feeling a few weeks ago so it does get better with time.

On a practical level, I needed to remove his bed and bowl etc on the same day as I couldn't face the reminders. I've put them away in a box until I'm ready to do something with them. I found that for the first couple of days I needed to do things to take my mind off it and putting his things away and rearranging furniture etc helped. I needed to hoover all his hair up etc as I couldn't face seeing it and doing that kept me busy.

I arranged with the vet to have him cremated and it gave me something to think about - what I was going to do with his ashes. I still haven't decided yet but I went out and bought some rose bush plants and potted them up as I might put his ashes on those. I've also bought some forget-me-not seeds - it seems to help to have things to do in the future lined up. Again thinking about practical stuff helped take my mind off the feeling of loss.

I do hope that you are finding ways of expressing your grief and coping with the loss and I am thinking about you at the moment wishing there was more I could say or something I could do to help.

Slowlyfading - I do think of you and wonder how you are coping. xx

mezer3000

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For a couple of nights I was actually punching in my sleep, one night my poor wife got a punch right in the kisser in the middle of the night, needless to say she slept in the spare room after that for quite a few months.

I'm fortunate that my boyfriend finds it quite funny when I do stuff like that, and all the random stuff i've been yelling in my sleep since I've been on my meds - such as "TEAPOT HAHHAHA" and "NO no steve, don't put that on my computer" - i really would love to know what the hell i was dreaming about at times like this!

LadyMorticia

Hugs beachbeth.

xx

LadyMorticia

Does anyone want to see any of my latest photography? I won't show you the horror and macabre stuff but I'll show you the nice stuff.

Memories Laid To Rest


A Cold And Frosty Morning (This was taken whilst I was in Somerset with Sam)


Creation


Iced Earth (This was taken at Cheddar Gorge on the first morning I was at Sam's. It was all frosty and for the first time in my life I saw icicles )


Goodbye Neverland (Notice the cute little duckie who crept in. Hehe)


Pearls Of Unison


Where Memories Creep


Love Me, Hug Me, Need Me (My newest self portrait, which is also my avatar but this is the full version)



Love to everyone.
xx

beachbeth

Thanks for all your nice messages. Im still in shock because it has happened so suddenly. She was 9, which is old for a Cavvie, and has been looking her age with the grey hair but she had no health problems at all and it was just so unexpected. I have other dogs and they have been a great comfort today. Im sure they know something is wrong and are probably wondering where she is.

Lovely photos, LM. I love photography, although Ive never taken it up in any capacity in the way you have. Are you any good at pictures of animals? Also, how do you do the ones of yourself? Hope this isn't a stupid question.:o