Depression Support Thread

Tiff_2

Hi rbk!
Hey there, hun!

rbk wrote:

I'm used to being the odd one out so if you're all happy with how this thread is that is fine. I shall seek other avenues of support.

rbk wrote:

I wish you all well x

I don't think so, missy!

rbk wrote:

I came here to see if Tiff had posted only to see your post..... it's obvious you meant I was one of them. I'm deeply hurt ...and in floods of tears as I write this. Don't you think I torture myself enough as it is in day to day life by thinking I'm not good enough, horrible,.....I don't need to feel isolated on the internet as well..... don't start saying new posters aren't welcome because they are.

I'm so very grateful for your support sweetheart and I don't want you to leave.

There's no reason to leave hunnie, because there's always much more kindness than nastiness on this thread. There's always going to be the odd upset every now and then and even misunderstandings. We've seen it all before haven't we angel?
As long as you know that you've posted honestly and from the heart,guys then you haven't done anything wrong at all. And those that know you, will never judge you and that's what's important.

You are none of the things you listed, rbk and I can understand all too well just how you're feeling. It was nice to get an apology and I hope you feel reassured by it, hunnie. You're a lovely soul and you are welcome here and you are much loved - now don't you make me go get sazzy and the gilly-badgie!

However angel, this situation did do a couple of good things for you - you had a chance to have a good rant and you received messages of support and compassion showing just how much you mean to us here.
*Can I have a rant please? Pretty please, with smarties on top?*

Besides, you can't leave because I haven't received your request in tripli-cat and you're the only one who looks out for my posts......wait a minute, hey - are you the one that warns everyone?!!!
Be kind to yourself hunnie.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

Tiff_2

Hi guys!
How are we, everyone?

I have heard that there are possible signs and symptoms of a spam and troll outbreak in the general area!

It's very similar to foot and mouth, (or foot in mouth!), and symptoms can include provocative posts, rumours that a thread isn't what it used to be, new people aren't welcome, etc. and a general feeling of malaise, anger, disruption and despair.

Due to this very worrying situation, and to allay any fears and panic, I have subjected the thread to a thorough MOT, (Moggy's Operating Test), and the results are in. I would now like to announce my findings...

It's great to have new people here and they are always welcome. The ethos for this thread never changes.
People do come and go, because maybe their health has improved or declined, or their lives needed them to go in a different direction, or they simply needed a break from what can be at times, a very intense thread. It is nice to see the ''old guard'' return to the clan. They may very well have more information on resources as well as more experiences and, as I hope you'll see, it's nice to come back and be welcomed and offered a helping hand if it's needed, or to hear positive news from them.
And we have to remember too, that as glad's post says, we might not be able to read the message in the spirit it was written, or indeed to write one in the correct way.
I think we should be well aware that this thread can now apparently also attract possibleand trolls, which can result in a fractious atmosphere sometimes. When someone's that way inclined, nothing you're going to say will ever change their minds and a verbal conflict and disruption is their goal.

As for me, you know I love a good [strike]scrap[/strike] er debate, as much as the next feline, but I'm learning not to with certain ones that are going to be a waste of my time and your thread space. You know troublemakers when you see them and, on the other hand, you do also have to allow for someone feeling out of sorts.

It's very easy to criticise a whole thread for the odd stray poster. Remember - it's not us that has a problem and it is more the minority than the majority that upset the status quo. The board guides can't read every single post and they have some difficult judgement calls to make. We need to remember that they are here to protect us and help us, not to work against us, and they do a ruddy good job too! This thread wouldn't have survived without some degree of where the line is to be drawn. You can't just post any old how - especially because of the sensitivity of this thread.

Just as we have our choices, others have theirs and they don't have to read or post if they don't like the thread - they can just tiff off, it can be as simple as that.

But we can deal with this, guys! If you've been comfortable here, whether you're new or old, then don't panic and don't be forced to leave what is your thread. And I think it's really wonderful how some of you have felt strong enough to stand up and defend your thread, with it's best intentions at heart!

As our savvy says, if a post upsets us, there's the abuse option and the ignore button. If enough people report them, they and their posts will magically disappear. It's thread magick, y'know! Good, innit?
Failing that, I'll just start issuing Tiffy slaps!

This is all just my humble opinion of course, which doesn't count for anything, anywhere and generally isn't worth the price of a cold cup of tea! I'll try and get back here later guys - that's if anyone is still speaking to me.
Safe journeys, guys.
Much Love,
Tiff xxx

geminilady

rosepink1984 wrote: »

Wow everyone's angry on here today! I'm a bit scared to post here now.

Hi Rosepink :hello: Please do not be scared to post.We do not bite honest ,due to the nature of our illness we can tend to be very sensative and small upsets may get blown out of proportion.Please do not take it personaly most of us are here to try and help and support

geminilady

Tiff. Thanks for taking the time to post especialy when you are going through some hard times.You really are :A.You put into words what so many of us are thinking and i hope you know how much we appreciate it.I will be thinking of you and your family on Tuesday .

absolutebounder

I wasnt going to post for a while, while I removed a few knives from my back but a client sent me this http://www.maniacworld.com/are-you-going-to-finish-strong.html
It is motivational and puts hardship into perspective

beachbeth

I was trying to find out what percentage of us had problems with memory to see how common it was amongst people with depression. However, the discussions about post removal have taken over on this thread.:o

I personally think that someone is being a bit too quick about deleting posts here but can we get back on track and back to our usual discussions?

By the way, I had to think for a minute before I put the word "common" above. The right word for the sentence just wouldn't come!:o

As our savvy says, if a post upsets us, there's the abuse option and the ignore button. If enough people report them, they and their posts will magically disappear. It's thread magick, y'know! Good, innit?
Failing that, I'll just start issuing Tiffy slaps!

Thats true, Tiff. Good idea! You can sort them out!!!:T

Tulip

:hello: Everyone,

Hope all is well,I am fine,had a nice time at Mums,I am relaxing tonight,had a nice bath and soaked in it.


love and light,

Katie xxx

rosepink1984

Hi everybody, just wanted to let you know that my friend texted me friday to apologise. I do feel sorry for her, she has a lot of major health problems and issues from the past to deal with. I wish I could help her more but have to look after myself.
I'm doing ok - had a great day yesterday, went to see my family and had a lovely time - but was worn out today and couldn't do the things I wanted to do which made me feel terrible. I feel like such a failure when that happens. Was really low this afternoon, but feeling more optimistic this evening as have found out how much debt OH has (added to mine it makes an UnGrand total of £12, 250.34! Yikes) and I actually feel better knowing because instead of burying our heads in the sand we can sort it out. He's decided to make more of an effort to advertise (he's self-employed) instead of waiting for work to fall into his lap and has agreed to let me take over the finances.
So it's been a mixed few days. Everytime I think about work next week I feel so stressed. I'm working Tues and Wed, so can rest tomorrow, and I enjoy th work, but I'm so scared of being like I was before (always off ill, and dreading workdays because it was so hard to try to appear not depressed). Does anyone else find working with depression hard? How do you cope when you feel stressed/tired/tearful at work?

Tulip

:hello: Rosepink,

Glad you are well and ok I am off now as I am so tired.

Night! Night! everyone


love and light,

Katie xxx

beachbeth

I know how you feel, Rosepink. I was just the same at work. I worked Mon, Tue and Wed morning for HSBC and I used to feel so relieved once I got to Wednesday and knew that was it until Monday. It was hard to try and keep cheerful and not be in tears. Ive lost count of the amount of times I arrived in my car in tears and had to sit and pull myself together before I went in. It is difficult so don't think you're the only one. Im lucky in that I don't work now and I sometimes wonder how I ever coped.

Im off to bed now so hugs for anyone that needs it and goodnight.:grouphug: :hello: