Depression Support Thread

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shazrobo wrote: »

feeling sadtonight. ian has been here all evening so i should be happy, but i'm not.
we had arranged to go out thurs, and he cancelled so he can go to play pool with his mates, which he also does every tues. also would rather see his mates at weekend then spend it with me and kids, is this normal bloke behaviour?

:hello: Shaz,

I hope you are ok today.Ian shouldnt have arranged to see his mates when his commitment was with you.He should have seen his mates another night when he was free and not arranged to see them on Thursday.I hope you are alright,Good for you to ring the Samaritans too well done :T :T :T I am so proud of you.

I am here if you need me always and that goes for anyone on this thread,


love and light,

Katie xxx

Savvy_Sue

shazrobo wrote: »

feeling sadtonight. ian has been here all evening so i should be happy, but i'm not.
we had arranged to go out thurs, and he cancelled so he can go to play pool with his mates, which he also does every tues. also would rather see his mates at weekend then spend it with me and kids, is this normal bloke behaviour?

shaz, I am gutted, I saw your post as I was being booted off the computer so couldn't reply to say that it's not abnormal behaviour IYSWIM. Maybe he feels he's spent a lot of time with you lately and there's something 'extra' going on with his mates, I don't know.

Savvy_Sue

And now, to all of you, I know it's hard but please try not to take everything personally! We're ALL a bit fragile round here, we can't all be nice all the time, but equally we're not all having a go at each other all the time either. If you're upset by something someone says, take a deep breath, re-read Glad's first post, and remember what wvw said which I'm afraid I'll have to paraphrase rather than quote because I'm in a tearing hurry. "It's not me, it's the illness."

98jdougl

Sssssss wrote: »

Hi, have sent you a PM re questionnaire, don't want to upset the mods
have you been back to see the doc or not yet?

well was going to see the doc today (so I thought) but was actually just a nurse (not using the word just in a negative term btw!) who wasn't friendly or chatty at all! Cos she was just taking the blood. Have to make an appointment with him next week to get my results so will speakto him then if I can build up the nerve (don't know why it is so difficult for me to broach the subject!)

whitevanwoman

Morning all - just got up, I won't say "good morning" cos I'm not sure if it is a good morning yet. Actually, have just realised its afternoon, so that's another morning gone - hurray.

Sorry I can't remember who posted it but the issue about the red phone boxes - the government recently published a white paper about community consultation and involvement in decision making - I'll try to dig out some more info - what this means is that your council should really have kept your community informed about decision making etc and taken the community's point of view into account when making decisions. Now this is only a white paper which means that it isn't a law, just a recommendation for best practice but its worth chucking that back at the council and reminding them of their failings. We have a similar situation where I live with a traditional red phone box - we have dodgy mobile reception here so although it isn't used much, it is of value to both locals and visitors. We also have a similar situation with the council closing public toilets without informing the public, the first anyone knew was through the local paper after the decision had been made. It might be worth having a chat with your local paper's reporter to see if they could do a story about your fight to save the phone box - you might even get some donations as a result of it and it would show the council up.

Good luck with your meeting - I hope you read this before the meeting so that you can at least query the lack of community consultation and pretend you know more about it than you actually do!;)

Now then where's that coffee? No poxy decaff, the real full of caffeine, wake me up kind of coffee....
:coffee:


(Thanks to CC Star - I pinched the coffee from your signature - you seemed to have loads of coffee so I didn't think you'd mind if I pinched a cup off you;) )

Sssssss

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

And now, to all of you, I know it's hard but please try not to take everything personally! We're ALL a bit fragile round here, we can't all be nice all the time, but equally we're not all having a go at each other all the time either. If you're upset by something someone says, take a deep breath, re-read Glad's first post, and remember what wvw said which I'm afraid I'll have to paraphrase rather than quote because I'm in a tearing hurry. "It's not me, it's the illness."

on the contrary why bottle things up, if someone says something to upset you say so, I'm so glad rbk made her feelings known thereby gving me the oppurtunity to explain myself and apologise for any misunderstandings.

For over 6 months in a new job I did what you suggested Sue, took all the crap, took a deep breath, until I finally exploded and 2 years on I'm still not the same but one thing I did learn is let it out there and then don't let it eat you away inside.

Jo_R_2

Shaz

My OH used to do that when we first started seeing each other. After plenty (and believe me I mean plenty!) of talking with him, I have realised that me and him simply see things differently. He always says he never arranges to see his mates because he "prefers" to see them than me and the girls, and it's just a 'different' thing rather than preferring his mates over me.

I did however make it abundantly clear that it was out of order to cancel plans then rearrange with mates - that is just rude and I wouldn't be happy about that from my friends, let alone a partner. I explained I had to make plans in advance because of the girls, ie to get a babysitter, and my free nights were scarce to I needed to plan them beforehand.

Thing is, blokes sometimes can be oblivious - speaking from experience, what we see as rude, inconsiderate and so on, they genuinely (believe it or not) do not realise how it comes across and their intentions aren't bad, iyswim?

But then again what do I know LOL!!!

whitevanwoman

shazrobo wrote: »

look forward to seeing your sock monkey, i have often thought of making one, there is a thread about them, but always end up knitting to fill my spare time, either that or shop on ebay, which is becoming addictive lol, just got myself some ugg boots, cant wait til they arrive, they look so cosy
hugs
shaz xxx

Here's the sock monkster (a cross between a sock monkey and a sock monster).

Just finished it. Am really pleased with it :T

I'm a knitter too so I might make it a woolly hat to keep it's baldy head warm.

Any suggestions for a name?


Ugg boots - my sis sent me some from Oz 2 yrs ago and I wear them day in day out, have had to resole them as the sole wore through. Absolutely love them. Bet you can't wait for them, hope they arrive soon x

Stephb1986_2

Hi everyone I hope your all doing ok?

Sorry i've not been around latley im looking into sorting myself out and decided I want some plastic surgery

I hope your all doing well and staying safe.

Steph xx

shazrobo

hi everyone, thanks for all kind words, ian did ask me if i had already booked a babysitter for thursday, and as i hadn't done so yet, he said then dont bother, there's a pool match on that i fancy going to, and i accepted that. then last night, we was talking about the weekend, and he says he goes to all cas tigers matches when he isnt working, and as all the matches are on a sunday, looks like i shall be taking the boys out myself, as i have always done,so no big dewal, so why do i feel low
can see ian's point too, he was badly treated by his ex, pysically, as well as mentally and she stopped him from seeing his mates, and after there split, he told hiself that no woman was ever going to stop him seeing his mates, which i wouldnt do, just guess i was hoping for more family time together the four of us.
still i shall stop moaning, even tho i have only seen him once this week, i know other weeks i see more of him, guess its the way it goes, still cant help thinking be nice to spend some part of the weekend together at some point?

whitevanwoman, love the sock monkey/monster, well done, i'll ask son when he comes in to think of a suggestion for names, i'm rubbish at that lol
cant wait for my ugg boots to come, they weren't cheap, but if they last a couple of years, i shall be well pleased. do you use anything on them to protect them from mud etc, or do u need to buy special cleaning stuff?

hugs all
shaz xxx