Massive family storm brewing

bestpud

RoxieW wrote: »

thank you
I've been so looking forward to xmas and trying to make it special for my two little boys so its the worst time of year for it.

I've got to go and get DD from school but just wanted to say this part hasn't changed.

Things between you and your aunt may but you still have your OH and children and can still enjoy Christmas with them.

Please don't let the other stuff override all the good things you still have.

cobbingstones

I just wanted to add that I think you are a seriously strong and special person who has survived abuse. I admire anyone who chooses to take these pieces of scum to court, and in doing so will hopefully prevent other children from becoming victims. I wish you and all the other people who have experienced this so much.

Good luck with your pregnancy and for the future

MM

SailorSam

There's a lot going on here, so sorry if i have it wrong but the main question seems to be, what to do about your aunt. Particularly at this time when she is so ill. You feel she was the only one that backed you in the past.
A previous poster thought maybe your aunt found it too hard to openly back you, but by 'keeping a foot in both camps', would be there to help any reconciliation between your mum / sisters and yourself, and also she was able to get information that may be of help to you.
I can't help but wonder could it be the other way around, by staying close to you she was able to find out things that were of use to the rest of your family. If she really felt for you, as hard as it would have been, she would have stood at your side in that courtroom. Even now you say, when you talk it is mostly, about 80% of her problems, if she cared she should know it is you that needs to off load your fears.
I think others are right, your main concerns now must be with your husband and children. I agree you should let your aunt know why you feel you have to break contact, but let her know you will always be there in the future.