Work Colleague...annoying!!

glossgal

It sounds to me like he fancies you and is just 'testing the water'-bear in mind you've not worked there long so he really doesn't know much about you presumably. If you took 100 people 'in relationships' I'm sure there would be several catagories ie some deeply in love and some waiting for the chance to jump ship! He's probably trying to see which catagory you fall into. Don't get me wrong, I think this is a dumb tactic and I've been in a similar position and I know it's uncomfortable.

A new collegue of mine who I was nice to became very overbearing very quickly-got to the stage I'd have to shut my office door and if he knocked on and I didn't answer he would get a cob on! He then sent me a valentines day text a few months after joining the company which totally freaked me out! he dropped major hints that it was him who'd sent it and I just played dumb as if I didn't have a clue what he was on about. Luckily he settled down and we became good work friends-although he still jumped at the chance to have digs at my OH if I so much as moaned about him at any point! He was also under the impression that any woman who was nice to him fancied him, I just think some men really are this clueless. Anyways, my advice would be to ignore him in a non nasty way-turn down social invites for a bit, mention your OH a lot..he'll get bored I'm sure!

chuckley

dislike/hate - whatever u dont like the guy.

so again WHY do u have him on facebook (where he can see all ur info) and also MSN?! u have iinvited sum1 u dont like into ur private life and then u post on a forum how this dude is annoying u?! if u dont like sum1 DONT give them ur msn or add/accept them on facebook!

smacks of stupidity to me!!!!!

daveboy

I'd simply mention the Protection from Harassment Act 1997.

That piece of legislation even put me off talking to women at one point.

beccam

chuckley wrote: »

dislike/hate - whatever u dont like the guy.

so again WHY do u have him on facebook (where he can see all ur info) and also MSN?! u have iinvited sum1 u dont like into ur private life and then u post on a forum how this dude is annoying u?! if u dont like sum1 DONT give them ur msn or add/accept them on facebook!

smacks of stupidity to me!!!!!

She accepted friend requests from him before he became a weirdo stalker!! In most cases you then delete them but if you work with the guy and he was your mentor when you started it's a bit trickier.
I read that she originally thought he was an OK guy but he has since become an annoyance. Smacks of stupidity when posts are misinterpreted!!!:rolleyes:

beccam

daveboy wrote: »

I'd simply mention the Protection from Harassment Act 1997.

That piece of legislation even put me off talking to women at one point.

:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :T :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Does it include internet chat and facebook hounding in that piece of legislation??;)

lufcgirl

Yeah...exactly. I DID like him, he was cool, and knew everyone, had a good knowledge of the job. It was when I added him that the stalkerish type things started. I can't just delete him as we have mutual friends on facebook so he'll wonder why I've done that, and MSN I'm sure he knows of a way to see whose blocked you.

As for today at work..I think it was within 6 minutes of his shift starting he was messaging me. In the end I just ingored it as I was busy and wasn't up for talking about how much he disliked my favourite bands. Think he got the message eventually...or heres hoping...

MessyMum

A really similar thing just happened to a girl in my office, this guy was totally fine at first and was then constantly messaging, texting, internal PMing her etc. He even insisted on picking her up and bringing her to our xmas do, he used the excuse that it was on his way, she felt she couldn't say no as he is one of the supervisors.
Anyways, at the Xmas party her boyfriend met her there, they were all over each other and then had a big snog on the dance floor, today at work she has not had any messages and hadn't even spoken to her (fingers crossed he doesn't again)
I would go over the top with your fella at your works do and fingers crossed weirdo will get the message :0)

lufcgirl

I'm hoping that works, because it's the only slightly subtle way I can think of of him realising that I'm not interested. I know what you mean about lifts, he offered me a lift home at 3am after some event at work and felt I couldn't refuse and was quite scared! And then invited me to gatherings with his friends I don't know and firework displays at his house...it got quite weird. Now it's calmed down but it's still there

chuckley

beccam wrote: »

She accepted friend requests from him before he became a weirdo stalker!! In most cases you then delete them but if you work with the guy and he was your mentor when you started it's a bit trickier.
I read that she originally thought he was an OK guy but he has since become an annoyance. Smacks of stupidity when posts are misinterpreted!!!:rolleyes:

never mix facebook and msn wid da office.