Work Colleague...annoying!!

chuckley

i find it hilarious u claim to hate this guy yet have him on facebook...

lufcgirl

If I delete him from facebook then he's going to realise considering theres about 12 mutual friends on there too! It's so so annoying!!

Oh and I don't HATE him, I just dislike the fact everyone seems to think I fancy him when he's like erm...not good looking and I have much better taste!

black_taxi_2

BIG mistake--chatting online-work college--do you remember everything you said.he can easily hav it saved on his computor.

best thing to is --to say IN office--while hes there-and others--you met someone who your comitted too--even if its bull.

hope u havent told him you chat on this website

pinkshoes

chuckley wrote: »

i find it hilarious u claim to hate this guy yet have him on facebook...

She didn't actually say she hated him, and he's on facebook because he was a nice enough guy at first, then turned into a freak!

It's not an easy situation to deal with!!

I've just noticed the freak at my work has tried adding me as a friend on facebook, but I am just ignoring it. I'm quite sure on monday he'll want to know why I didn't accept!! He was very normal at first, but is now a pain in the back side! He joked I could date him, and even when I said I had a b/f he then suggested I date both of them!!! I said he wasn't my type, so he sent a series of emails begging to know why, and wouldn't let it drop, so I told him why, and then he sent some really abusive nasty emails to me, which were unbelivably rude!

See, these things have to be dealt with carefully. I now regret not just ignoring this guy, although he's so obsessive and intense, it would probably take a long time before he'd let it drop!

Paulgonnabedebtfree

lufcgirl wrote: »

If I delete him from facebook then he's going to realise considering theres about 12 mutual friends on there too! It's so so annoying!!

Oh and I don't HATE him, I just dislike the fact everyone seems to think I fancy him when he's like erm...not good looking and I have much better taste!

No need to hope he gets the message. Just give him the message. You can do it without being rude. I'm afraid that some of us guys aren't very good at taking hints. We need it spelled out (politely).
Maybe something like attacking his dangly bits with a nutcracker and saying "Leave me alone you ****** <insert favourite derogatory terem here>".

lufcgirl

lol it's obvious too to anyone that I do have the slightest ever crush on someone I sit near and talk to and mess about with constantly (OH doesn't know about that one!)
I dunno...maybe I will sit him down and tell him eventually, when I get the bottle to be sure that he's not going to turn into some mad stalkerish type guy!

beccam

Just do it in a really jokey friendly kind off way...." oh my goodness you'll never believe what I heard today...people think I fancy you or something is going on between us..." then finish off the convo with something nice like "it's just funny because I'm so in love with OH, I never even notice other guys at all"....

lufcgirl

Once on the chat programme at work he sent a message saying 'oh don't worry about so and so messaging you, he thinks you fancy me lol'. And I just didn't have a clue what to say back, as if I said no I was going to hurt his feelings.

I hate it that people think I fancy him. At the end of the day I'm there to work, not be the subject of playground gossip and a guy being like this in and out of work!

Reds-on-Sea

I sympathise, with some guys, all it takes is for someone to be nice to them and they think you fancy them - been there too many times!
all you can do is your best, let him know in no uncertain terms that you're not interested. I have been in a similar situation. Member of staff got along with ok (same as everyone else) then he started being really nasty, telling me to go get another job, sending me links to monster.com etc, saying hurtful things (i.e. trying to get a response out of me) then dragging me outside to apologise, saying he doesn't want to be horrible to me and trying to get me to admit that I fancied him. I made it very clear in a polite way that I was happy in a relationship etc, and then he turned sooo nasty trying to get me into trouble etc, told me he wanted no contact with me - it was so childish, this guy was like late 30s too. Worst bit was he's IT dept and has access to all my emails etc.

As long as everyone else knows you don't fancy this guy, then he's the one it will reflect badly on.

p.s. they can't tell if you block them on msn

tsstss7

Some blokes really don't need much (or indeed any) encouragement to think that there is something going on. Fact is that you don't have to have a reason not to want to go out with him whether it be that you don't fancy him, have a boyfriend already or are plain just not interested.

Anyway good luck.....my advice would be to ignore him as much as possible and if he does make it obvious he is interested you could always say that you take your career too seriously to ever date a co-worker.

;o)