Buying a house in my name - but girlfriend will be living with me.

silvercar

4 years later and she`s 4 stone heavier so I dump her

Please, please, please can you post a picture of you now and you 4 years ago!

Ember999

biblejohn wrote:

Right. Ive actually been through this and so have some of my friends, so i know EXACTLY what she is / isnt entitled to.

Basically if its all in your name then she isnt entitled to a penny. Even if she gives you 400quid a month "rent" towards the bills/mortgage.

The only way she is entitled to anything is if she invests substantially into the house - i.e. pays for work on the property - like adding a conservatry for example. Or, if she has given you a lump sum towards the property. In that case, she may be entitled to a % of the property value comparable to the % she has financially invested in the place.

Unfortunately in this day & age you really need to make sure where you stand before asking a partner to move in with you, as whilst you might be madly in love, you certainly dont want to end up loosing a lot of money should the relationship fail. Its not the most romantic thing to do, but it is the most sensible.

In my case, id been dating a girl for a few months and then I bought a house for myself & moved her in. She had been paying about 500quid a month rent/bills at her own flat, so she paid me £350 a month for living in my house. I did all the cleaning, cooking, washing and paid all the bills - so she had it good. I even bought a car for her. 4 years later and she`s 4 stone heavier so I dump her. Her parents arnt happy so get solicitors in. I consult several myself and the upshot is I didnt have to give her a penny.

As it was, im not entirely cold hearted, so I gave her a couple of grand to help her buy/rent somewhere else. She immediately blew the 2grand on a holiday!

Well rid of you I say and it's for these very reasons in your post that Girlfriends SHOULD be entitled to something for living with you. Poor Girl! 4 years of her life wasted for living with you. I hope someone dumps you one day for being old, fat and bald. Thank Goodness it's not like this in Scotland!

Spendless

black-saturn wrote:

:mad: I cant believe you have a name which mentions the Bible. Why dump your gf because she put weight on? Sounds like she was well rid of you.

If memory serves me correct, it was also the nickname of a Scottish murderer:eek: .

This case shows what I was told each case is judged on its own merit.

biblejohn

black-saturn wrote:

:mad: I cant believe you have a name which mentions the Bible. Why dump your gf because she put weight on? Sounds like she was well rid of you.

silvercar wrote:

Please, please, please can you post a picture of you now and you 4 years ago!

Why? To be honest, im in the best shape of my life. I make an effort to keep myself looking good. I workout regularly, eat healthily, cycle and jog etc... To me its important to make sure I am still attractive to my partner or its a fact of live that they will find someone else.

Nothing against size 18 girls, but if i wanted to date someone who was a size 18 rather than a size 12 then id date someone size 18. Its like going out and buying a sports car then after 4 years its suddenly turned into a transit van. If you wanted a transit you would have got one in the first place.

I would understand it if it was some medical condition, and I know all about "oh you should love the person inside" etc... but at the end of the day you also need to find them attractive physically else you wouldnt be with them.

It wasnt just her weight in my case, as i said in my post, i did all the washing, cooking, cleaning & waited on her hand & foot. All she did was lay in bed until mid-day most days whilst i was at work then sit in front of the telly most days.

Anyway, this is all off topic so can we stick to the original post?

biblejohn

Ember999 wrote:

Well rid of you I say and it's for these very reasons in your post that Girlfriends SHOULD be entitled to something for living with you. Poor Girl! 4 years of her life wasted for living with you. I hope someone dumps you one day for being old, fat and bald. Thank Goodness it's not like this in Scotland!

Why were they wasted? She did very well out of it. She saved herself 150quid a month on what she would have paid if she had her own place. Over 4 years that comes to over 7 grand. I also bought her a car which was 2 grand, plus jewelery which came to about 1 grand. So, taking that into account alone she was 10k better off for living with me. Not only that I helped her develop her own interests and hobbies which previously she didnt have the confidence to do previously. As a result she is a much stronger person, much better of financially and we are still good friends.

I would have been perfectly happy if the ball had been on the other foot, and she had bought a house & i just paid her some rent each month. In fact, in the relationship I had before this one, thats exactly what I did. The girl I was with bought her own place and I lived there paying her something towards it. I was happy in that situation as it meant less risk for me if the property market crashed, it was cheaper than renting elsewhere and I wasnt "tied down" to a property.

So really there are both plus`s and minus`s to being the person owning the house & the person co-habiting. Its swings & roundabouts.