Would You Buy For Someone Who Doesn't Say Thank You?

skylight

The god daughter is only 3, so she wouldn't be writing thank you letters at her age.

But its a parental thing, not a 3 year old thing. And I think that not buying something for a 3 year old because of the rudeness of the parents is a bit rude in itself - its not her fault she doesn't have any manners. Not at her age.

But I do understand how infuriating it can be.


The older 2 can go without and you can blame the credit crunch and being forced to cut back. The same excuse a lot of us are using this year!

sarahs999

A book on etiquette?!

robnye

i have 3 daughters, i have always taught them to send thank yous, especially to people who live away and sent gifts, my eldest is now 18, and can do what she likes, but i would still remind her.
yet one of my elder brothers kids have never said thank you to anyone, they are now 17 and 12 and have emigrated..... so no love lost there...!

i try to speak to people when i receive gifts and thank them

at the end of the day a little thank you doesnt cost a lot..... even if it is by email/txt/card/note.....

mrcow

My nephew didn't get a Christmas or birthday present last year and he won't get one this year either. In all the time I've known him, I've never had a thank you for any of the money or gifts that I've sent and as he's now 18, he should know better.

I'll buy for his sisters still as they are still young but I figure with him, if he can't be bothered to say thanks, then he can't be too bothered as to whether he gets a gift or not!

His parents aren't getting anything either as they are the same. Don't really care what they think, it's my money to spend as I wish.

trader_girl

my husbands nephew is an obnoxios , rude and viciously spiteful little git. over the past eleven years i have brought for him at every birthday and christmas without ever getting any kind of thanks. Now (thank you god) he is over 18 and an 'adult' (thats rich), so i will never have to buy for him again (yahhhh.)
Ref ops post imo dont spite the kids because the parents have no manners (wait until there 18l ol)

Shevs

As a child (and still carry on as an adult) when I received a gift, if the person was there I would thank them to their face. If it was sent in the post I would call the day it was received or send a thank you note. It is just polite. Manners dont cost anything.

I agree with other posters, I would by the older 2 a selection box and your goddaughter a pressent. Do the older childrens god parents buy for all 3 children or just their god child?

jackomdj

skylight wrote: »

The god daughter is only 3, so she wouldn't be writing thank you letters at her age.

But its a parental thing, not a 3 year old thing. And I think that not buying something for a 3 year old because of the rudeness of the parents is a bit rude in itself - its not her fault she doesn't have any manners. Not at her age.
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I partly disagree with this - it is a parental thing BUT my DD has just turned 4 & she has helped make the thankyou cards for the past couple of years. This year my youngest will join in with the thankyou's (she will do stickers) & she is only 20 months. This year eldest will write who it is to (tracing my writing) & love Ellie (freehand)

I also have a god daughter & her brother who never say thankyou & it does anoy me sometimes - but I would never not send her anything.

Nicky

scuzz

My Nan used to send money to our neighbour's three grandchildren, but never got a thank you. Eventually she was told (by the neighbour) that £5 is nothing to a child and what are they meant to buy with it:mad::mad: :mad: :mad: That was the end of it. The neighbour still buys for me (I'm 25). It's normally smellies and a fragrance I don't like BUT I still say thank you. It's just manners.

When we were little, we either wrote or called up to say thank you, even if someone had put £1 in with a birthday card.

Could you have a word with the parents of your goddaughter and say you don't mind buying her things, but a little thanks would be appreciated Everyone's different, so maybe they just think it's part of a god parent's job to buy year on year. If they're a true friend, they shouldn't have a problem with you asking for a little thank you note/phone call and if they do, well there's your answer IMHO

MYLITTLESISTERLOLA

My sister ( godmother to my son ) has opened a bank account for my son. She lodges a set amount every month and doesn't buy him anything. Kids get so much from Santa & other relatives it all gets a bit silly. She has said she decides when she takes money out for a treat, like earlier this year when we went to Jamaica to get married she got him some dollars. This suits me fine and I have no objections after all it's one less toy to tidy up !!!
On the subject of thank yous my son has been taught from the day he could speak that you say thank you for everything... in a shop when we buy something he says thank you to the person on the till, he says thank you when people do something for him no matter how small like getting him a drink etc. And as for please if he asks me to do/buy something for him he knows the answer will be no if I don't get the courtsey of a please & a thank you. God knows it doesn't cost anything, I was brought up with manners and my son will be too

P.s. he's only 4

Millie2008_2

Yes!

you could buy the other two a copy of this

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Little-Book-Good-Manners/dp/0954854802/ref=sr_1_7?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1227786214&sr=8-7