Grrr - blue badge

Crystals_2

Jamla wrote: »

The Spoon Theory i have been given this and is very good . gets people to understand you more ....but out parking today using BB, as been frighten to do so,as even i have good list to show where to park the brain say no ...another story .. parked in toen in disabled bay , but on way back noticed a BB car parked on double yellow lines with a parking ticket on it ! ...why...he forgot to see if chevons ( kerb side yellow lines ) where there ..yes they where ,,poor chap

Can you tell me . please what is this spoon theory?
Thanks

CherylthePeril

LeglessLiam wrote: »

Too right. As an 18 year old amputee who drives a modified Pug 206 auto, my car seems to be like a magnet to the old fogeys whenever I pull up into a disabled space. Are young disabled drivers not allowed to drive modified cars or something?. My car is my pride and joy and the wages I earn (yes, I do manage to work) are spent on the car as I want it to look both smart and individual, so yes it does have a big exhaust and great music system. All the same, using my blue badge, I am just as entitled to park in a disabled space as anyone else. However the grief I get from, most particularly old people, is unbelievable, particularly if I have some friends in the car. They do not even look to see whether I am disabled and/or have a blue badge before they shout that I shouldn't park in the dis bays and give me the evil look. I have even had them banging on my car roof and windows telling me to move my car, and even had them blocking my car in on quite a few occasions. It seems the only way I can get through to them is to tell them to go and park their cars where they belong - in the cemetery. Liam

Liam, being female, 26 and driving a new sporty BMW, I get the same problems. People, particularly the older generation pounce onto me the second I drive into a disabled space. In the recent past I have been verbally abused, hit, blocked in and even had the new car keyed when parked in Tesco's car park not surprisingly after an old biddy of about 70 more or less ordered me to park elsewhere so she could use the space despite the fact I was displaying my blue badge.

I suppose it could be because in their generation severely disabled people were kept institutionalised and locked out of sight whereas younger people have grown up with having disabled people around so are cool with it.

To all the people here who seem to defend old people, I have never ever had any problems or abuse etc from anyone under about 45, but loads from old people. Can you explain why that is?? Are oldies jealous or something?Like Liam, I am employed and like to spend money on my car. So, what is the problem?

Anyway Liam, I love the last line of your post. I must try that myself AFTER I am next abused and shouted at by the grey haired mafia.

Chez

peskie_pixie

Crystals wrote: »

Can you tell me . please what is this spoon theory?
Thanks

It was actually written by a girl with Lupus, but has been used for auto immune, ME, MS, CP and many other illnesses/disabilities


http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/na...poonTheory.pdf

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You cant expect people to be sympathetic when theres so many people driving BB when they shouldnt be. A lady at our dance class has a BB in the car that her daughter uses all the time because she cant afford to buy a car herself. It cant just be me that knows at least five people who shouldnt have a BB but do....

Actually my boss lost his BB last year and moans constantly how much it now costs him to park

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Crystals_2

Thanks Peskie Pixie, I remember reading the spoon theory somewhere before, it is very good way of explaining, the very difficulties, disabled and sick people face every day.

Thank you for the link.

justlikethat_2

calleyw wrote: »

Don't forget that it is not just old people that walk slowly or uses sticks.

Would say that at 46 after a stroke a couple of years ago that it is part of the aging process and the person should not be entitled to a blue badge or any benefits

I think this thread has gone OT and I would say 99% of people that have blue badges are entitled to use them. The same as we don't like being questioned why do you deem it your right to question why someone in there 60's,70's etc is entitled to have one and use it.

Also if we are truthful that a lot of blue badge holders are the passengers so there is no real reason for the driver to park in disabled bay anyway because they can drop off and pick up the passenger at the closet spot to the supermarket/shop. And then park on the other side of the car park.

Yours

Calley

Sorry but I have to disagree with the last part. I need the extra space at the side to transfer my daughter in and out of her wheelchair. She is too young to 'drop off' while I go to look for somewhere else to park and also when we come back with the shopping what do you suggest I do while I fetch the car? It is not as important how far from the door we park but we do need more space.

As far as supermarkets go anyway the main problem that I see are people without any badge using the spaces. In most cases the management have little interest in policing this as frankly there is no money in it for them. Perhaps if they could collect say £60 every time they caught someone parking without being entitled then they might suddenly get interested. The few cases where blue badges are inspected seem to be where car parks are operated by separate companies who know they can make money by fining those without badges.

Antispam

My daughter has blue badge as I am the driver for my daughter. I use it only when she is with us and is going with us into shops etc

I wouldn't dream of dropping her off and then parking else where, why should I?

She has walking problems and balance problems, if she stood up she quiet often falls so we have to walk with her to support her, many times I have had to pick her up from the floor.

LeglessLiam

Babshubbie wrote: »

What an appalling attitude. There seems to be no hope for an end to this antagonism. There are good and bad of all ages.

Excuse me, it is not I who has an appalling attitude. It is the quote 'Grey haired !!!!!' who constantly form pre qualified impressions that as I am an 25 year old in a modified car, I have no right to park in disabled bays and that I can be abused and be subject to having my car blocked in and banged on by them. Surely it is their attitude that is appalling. I find that even trying to explain to them that I am disabled carries no weight - hence my closing comment. I take it you find the actions of these old people acceptable?, or are you indeed of the same ilk?. Perhaps as someone else has pointed out, it is the shameful fact that the older generation were quite happy for disabled people to be institutionalised and kept locked away out of sight that is the issue. Sorry but the world fortunately has moved on . Hence younger people are more comfortable with disability and hence I have never received any comment or criticism from anyone under about 40, ever. Or is it the fact that at 18years old, I am not deemed worthy of owning a car (perhaps the older generation were lucky to have a bike), sorry again but the world has moved on. In multiple disability forums there are masses of complaints by younger disabled people about their treatment by the older disabled fraternity, particularly with regard to the issue of blue badges and parking. I see very little the opposite way on. I think that in itself tells a story. Liam

Babshubbie

Babshubbie wrote: »

I do not believe in abuse and abusive attitudes whatever age or health condition.

I wrote the above earlier. I also not not believe in these generalisations about whether age, gender, disablity or whatever else makes someone a "good" or "bad" person. To suggest that a person who annoys you belongs in a cemetary is an appalling attitude, IMHO.

My core belief is that Blue Badges should be issued with strict regard to mobility, not age and once issued wardens, supermarkets or whatever should enforce their proper use and keep disabled bays free for those Blue Badge holders.

LameWolf

Babshubbie wrote: »

My core belief is that Blue Badges should be issued with strict regard to mobility, not age and once issued wardens, supermarkets or whatever should enforce their proper use and keep disabled bays free for those Blue Badge holders.

Quite so. Someone earlier said that if the BB holder is the passenger, the driver should drop them off then go and park elsewhere; I'm afraid that would not work for me, as I cannot a) get the wheelchair out myself, or b) get out of the car unaided.

Just as an aside, the "gentleman" who had a go at me (or more accurately, at my husband - he couldn't bring himself to look directly at me) for parking in a BB bay yesterday was in (I would estimate) his twenties.....