It is tough NOW. So how are we coping

mumoftwo

Oh Sammy, cheer up hun, you are doing a great job, how come you don't have free NHS dentist and have to pay so much money to Denplan? Is that a private plan or something?

Thinking of you..

jamanda

Sammy, it isn't you it is THEM. If you can't get a bit of help and back up now I think they should all be ashamed of themselves.

You'll have to get a cape and wear your pants over your jeans at this rate. (or is that Batman)

taplady

Sammy - (((hugs))) sorry you are feeling so down, how insensitive and selfish some people are :mad: you're very good not telling them where to go!:D
I hope this is just your pregnancey hormones playing up and that you're soon feeling brighter and that other people start pulling their weight and stop moaning at you!

missychrissy

Hi Sammy

I don't know why partners can be so unsupportive sometimes. I put up with an unreliable and selfish other half for many years until he left me after nearly 25 years of marriage for a woman 17 years younger than him. I was doing a full time degree at the time whilst bringing up 4 sons in order to achieve a better life and he felt neglected. Why can't they root in there with you to achieve a better life?

I don't put up with anything now. I have found that if you allow people to walk over you - they will! I'm with anguk on this one - tell them how you perceive their behaviour in calm straightforward words and place the problem very firmly with them.

slowandsteady_2

Hi everyone,

Hug's Sammy, your family ought to be helping not hindering you, i hope they soon get that idea! If i were you i would be very tempted to leave more than a dish in the sink for OH to come home too, if he doesnt appreciate how hard you are working even while heavily pregnant then let him do things 'his' way, he will soon realise how hard it is to run a house when he has to do it himself.

Hugs to everyone else who is having difficulties at the moment too. Nothing really very new my end, same old same old! Hubby has had a few days agency work driving for a company delivering windscreens, but nothing else, but its four days wages so cant complain. I have to go back to work after next week, i have a meeting on Monday with manager and HR because i have been off sick long term. I was hoping dh would have found something permanent by now, but bless him he has tried but without much luck, so i have no choice but to go back as we cant manage much longer on sick leave pay. I hope i can cope this time around and dont have a relapse again.

Oh well, suppose i should go and eat something, havent really bothered since this morning, will go and have a rummage in the fridge.

Night x

meanmarie

Sammy...am doing a dance at the idea that your family should feel that they can talk to you and Ben like that...tell them all to get st***ed, including BF....what is he on about, a dish in the sink, is he paying you a huge wage to be his slave??

Forgive rant but you are a capable, thoughtful, wonderful mother and partner and deserve better...hugs

Marie

charlies-aunt

Just started reading 'Austerity Britain' and have the 'Ration Book Cookbook' to read next ...will be passing on hints and tips from the 1940's very soon

Very OS - I've borrowed them from the library!

mardatha

magic! mind and pass on the good bits to us !:D

charlies-aunt

Austerity Britain is fascinating reading, it has made me realise that even my frugal lifestyle would have been considered luxurious by 1940-50's standards But its sad that some of the nicer things that we used to traditionally have such as sharing time with family, being neighbourly and allowing children to be children [rather than mini-adults] seem to have almost disappeared since that time.

Will keep you postedwith the good bits

Primrose

charlie's aunt - yes Austerity Britain is a fascinating book. I borrowed it from the library and found it interesting being reminded of so many things from my childhood which I'd forgotten about (and many things too from which as I child from which I was protected). Amazingly, because everybody else was in the same boat, I never regarded my childhood as deprived in any way. The conditions, (rationing, coal fires, no central heating, no modern household gadgets, no holidays abroad, adults only getting 2 weeks paid holiday a year) were the norm. Perhaps this book should now be compulsory reading for everybody in our current circumstances to remind us that no matter how tough things are going to get, we still have modern living conditions many, many times better than they were in the 1940's and 1950's, especially for women, who enjoy much more financial independence now, and the luxury of TV's, washing machines, microwaves, etc.