It is tough NOW. So how are we coping

sammy_kaye18

Pagan Girl - hugs. Hope you are feeling much better and your hands/knees feel quickly.

I agree with gut feelings and them playing a big part in decision making - I know they do in our household anyway - although depends on your judgement too I suppose. Myself, Im a poor judge of character and am too forgiving whereas my boyfriend very much tends to see people for how and who they are from the get go.

So sad to hear about the two boys who took the 'cat' drugs. was reading it in the paper yesterday and its very scary. My sister is 23 and in her 'younger youth' by which I mean 13 - 18 she took every substance she was offered, whether it was taken, smoked, sniffed although to my knowledge she had never injected but I wouldn't of put that past her. In fact the first day my boyfriend met her she was drunk as a skunk and away in the clouds - great first impression! - although thankfully she had a reality check at 19. She had just had her first daughter, split from the father (who has paranoid schizophrenia and was/is a weed smoker) and still wanted the single 'playgirl' lifestyle so was dragging babe out in her buggy all hours of the night, until I threatened to take and raise her daughter with my son (who was 1 at that time) - at which point she grew up, got clean and now is a loving mum to two little girls. So glad she changed her ways though.

On a lighter subject - we are ok here. Had Mr T delivered last night at 8.15pm because it was cheaper and thankfully most of it is intact still. Hoping to go and see my mother in law today and then tomorrow I'm popping off to town to pick up some cheap baking trays as mine are wrecked so I can do some home baking for the first time in months plus my tesco order didn't include any twink ingredients (although i have golden syrup in the cupboard) so i need to get the rest of them too!

Stupid question - anyone now how to stop pasta from going hard if i cook it the night before and want to take it to work the next day?

Rummer

Morning, I always just prepare the pasta with whatever ingredients or sauce I would like pop it in a tub and into the fridge. Then it is fine to eat either cold or reheated later in the day.

ginnyknit

Hugs to all who are feeling stressed or sad. Living on an inner city council estate I always had the fear that one of my kids would take that wrong turn out of the front gate and join the drugs scene, either with good luck or good management they both resisted and I am grateful everyday that they made the choice. It doesnt mean that kids are weak or bad just that they got drawn in. I really feel for the parents on tv yesterday who had lost their son, i just hope others learn from what happened.

Anyway I think lots of us need a bit of sunshine this week to get us through the struggle.

Pagan girl hope you are ok today, I fell a few weeks ago and didnt find out till I woke up the next day just how many muscles I had pulled.

janb5

Stupid question - anyone now how to stop pasta from going hard if i cook it the night before and want to take it to work the next day?

I`ve added a titch of oil and then seems to stop it clagging together HTH

anguk

janb5 wrote: »

Stupid question - anyone now how to stop pasta from going hard if i cook it the night before and want to take it to work the next day?

I`ve added a titch of oil and then seems to stop it clagging together HTH

I put it in a lock & lock container and that keeps it nice and soft, any airtight container should be okay.

sammy_kaye18

Thanks all for the pasta responses.

Have been shamed by my five year old this morning already and its only 7am!

He just caught me throwing a newspaper in the bin and gave me a 10 minute lecture on recycling and how rubbish kills animals and marine life so he's now asked for a mini recycling unit in the kitchen and said can it be his job to sort everything out into the right boxes so my mission for today is to find some cheap stackable boxes to make him his own mini recycling unit! although was concerned about the food waste one smelling a bit with left overs but think as long as they are bagged up in the box it wont smell and besides the dog eats a lot of the leftovers we have (ie veg/potatoes/meat scraps) . told him i might even go and ask the village allotment club if they have a compost heap he can come and empty it onto.

floss2

Sammy_kaye, have you approached your council about a bigger home? Or are you going to hang on as you are until the kids are bigger?

sammy_kaye18

floss2 wrote: »

Sammy_kaye, have you approached your council about a bigger home? Or are you going to hang on as you are until the kids are bigger?

No we have approached the council about a bigger home - apparently we cant have a little girl and boy in the same room together (we have step son whos 9 on weekends too) so hoping to be moved to a bigger property but am realistic and that may take some time. x

missychrissy

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sammy_kaye18 wrote: »

Thanks all for the pasta responses.

Have been shamed by my five year old this morning already and its only 7am!

He just caught me throwing a newspaper in the bin and gave me a 10 minute lecture on recycling and how rubbish kills animals and marine life so he's now asked for a mini recycling unit in the kitchen and said can it be his job to sort everything out into the right boxes so my mission for today is to find some cheap stackable boxes to make him his own mini recycling unit! although was concerned about the food waste one smelling a bit with left overs but think as long as they are bagged up in the box it wont smell and besides the dog eats a lot of the leftovers we have (ie veg/potatoes/meat scraps) . told him i might even go and ask the village allotment club if they have a compost heap he can come and empty it onto.

Bless! Sounds like you have a little star there.:T

IMadeMyOwnLuck

This `learning from your own mistakes` is a killer when you watch your dd and her dh suffering. You can tell them and hint about staying in the comfort zone but at the same time you have to be careful not to cross into the nagging or interfering zones

The situation here involves 2 people in `good` jobs and 2 little ones at nursery, now the carpet has started to slip from under one of them re salary ( in spite of having a professional job after 5 years at uni). Nice house but most definitely not posh as they were always appreciative of second hand stuff. 2 biggish dogs. Not incredibly tidy as they are just about coping. Trouble is the large mortgage and optimism when they bought.

I have always said to stay in the comfort zone after having worn the t shirt many years ago. So now we have to sit back and see if they can sort themselves out, selling isn`t an option just now

We did a similar thing just once 38 years ago and bought a nice detached house in a close but we could hardly afford the mortgage. We got out after 6 months and went to a semi and managed to `live` again

Children!!!! even in adulthood