creche

Kaz2904

DS always went in fine until he'd been ther for a year. He suddenly stopped wanting to go and would be hanging onto my leg and crying.
I would just push him off (hard mummy) because it would be awful. I'd say see you in a couple of hours, love you, and give him a kiss. I would always say I'll be back as I was leaving.
Preschool said that he was OK once I'd left but after a while he got worse. Pre school said he was sitting alone and reading in the teddy corner and didn't want to play.
I ended up having a discussion with DS and bargaining about cutting his sessions to 5 from 7 each week.
His problem was (backed up by prescool) that his birthday is December so he had been there for nearly 18 months and was bored to tears.
He wanted to be at school from the word go so only tolerated preschool. (Believe it or not he was my shy one!). I made the deal that he had to go 5 sessions as I had to go to bed then (I work nights) but I would cut his sessions if he promised no more fuss from him until he went to school.
This worked for us from the easter holidays.

This would NOT have worked with DD and wasn't necessary with her either. She was an older one but just moaned when she had to go in!

I guess what I'm trying to say is that you and preschool know your child and may be able to figure out a way around it between you. Whatever happens, GOOD LUCK!

pandora205

Just to put a positive spin on separation anxiety - it's a sign that a child is attached to you as a parent and shows you have a strong bond. In the early stages of attending a setting, your child is learning that you come back, which is obvious to any parent but not to a child. The best way to handle it is to go quickly with a bye and see you later and a brief kiss. Stay calm and act as if you are fine and don't prolong the parting, even if you child is clinging to you. Try not to look back and walk out in a brisque way.

It's difficult for any parent to do all of this but it does work eventually. Some children do cry when a parent returns, so once again stay calm and try not to show your emotions. Assuming you are happy with the creche, have faith in the staff and the activities, all will be fine and your child will benefit from mixing with children and all the opportunities on offer.

Paparika

Awww we've all been there.

My DS used to cling to my leg as we went into nursery, and cry his heart out when it was time for me to leave,

The nursery staff have seen this a thousand times and know this is normal and will distract the child, they will grow out of this, and before you know it they don't want you walking them to school ( a fair few years to go with that one for you).

now my DS is 13 and is pained each morning to go to school, but thankfully doesn't cling to my leg begging me to let him stay home hehe.