I ranted

scotlady

Tra77 wrote: »

No scotlady don't apologise at all (as SaveTheChearleader says)!!!

You have valid points - and so what if others disagree, you are 100% entitled to your opinion.

Sad to read a little of your story - I really do hope things improve for you. x

Thanks. Dunno how I feel now, just wish I hadnt posted. Now I see why I usually just bottle everything up.

Thanks to those who sent me a PM too.

I'll be fine, I fought worse than this thing in my head, I fought my ex:D

lesley1960

LinasPilibaitisisbatman wrote: »

should have closed your legs if you couldnt afford children

Or

Condoms are cheaper than children :money:

Shame your mother didnt then

asea

scotlady wrote: »

I did say I wasnt judging anyone but sorry if I worded it wrong. I wasnt having a go at ppl who turn to drink. I didnt mean it in that way.

I dont really know what I was directing my anger at but it wasnt average Joe public. I was using that as an example, a wrong one now I see. I am sorry.

As for judging me about having my kids let me just explain a little more.

I had my kids a long time ago now, one is 18, one is 11. When I had them my life was fine, I was with their father and we were ok. For the last 12 yrs I have been abused until I plucked up the courage to walk away from him. Now this is where the problems started, he drank every day, he then came home and took what he wanted from me, sometimes I was ok, sometimes I ended up in hospital. Took me 6yrs to get away from that. Since I got away he aint helped or nothing. I found out he wasnt paying the rent but drinking & gambling.

I never meant my post to sound like I was getting at everyone, I just meant that sometimes ppl wish they could have another alley to go down.

I am honestly sorry for my post now. I feel worse than I did.

I dont want sympathy or nothing, I just want to be able to provide for my 2 boys who done nothing wrong. If I could go back to work trust me I would in a minute.

I have a brain tumor and I dont have anyway to make sure they're gonna be looked after when I go.

Once again I'm sorry.

Gosh - I hope I didn't come across too harshly, that was never meant & if you were offended, I'm sorry. You have been through alot & many people wouldn't be brave enough to have gotten away from such an awful & abusive relationship & to bring up your kids on your own.

You sound like a brilliant & loving Mum and you are doing the best considering the circumstances. I'm sure lots of people in your position would have descended into self destruction or worse but you aren't.

There's no need to apologise either. Everyone IS entitled to their opinion & I can see why you get upset at people drinking. I've seen another side to why people drink & how it can sometimes be for awful reasons, so I've got a different opinion.

I wish you all the best.

Nessa56

lesley1960 wrote: »

Shame your mother didnt then

Fantastic, I wish I had thought of that. (what a nerve !!!!)

Scotlady I think you sound like a very strong lady and as you say, you have coped with worse. I am sure you will be alright hon

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Fag_ash_lil

LinasPilibaitisisbatman wrote: »

should have closed your legs if you couldnt afford children

Or

Condoms are cheaper than children :money:

:mad: :mad:
Those comments are about as helpful as your other comments that you have left people in your other posts ...

terri x

Clive_Woody

scotlady wrote: »

Thank You, I never meant to cause anger or upset. Sorry x

You have absolutely nothing to apologise for, the purpose of these boards is to ask for help, you did that and some ignorant little git decide to have a pop at you. You have every right to come on here, I would rather have people like you on here than those who think it's big and clever to make snide remarks.

It's amazing what children do to your life (sleepless nights aside). It sounds like you have had a tough time, but you have coped and cared for your children brilliantly.

Good luck and all the best....apart from when your lot are playing England at Rugby then I am afraid my feelings towards the Scots change a little for the worse.....but once we've given you another damn good thrashing it's all fine again.

completemess

I cannot believe LinasPilibaitisisbatman take no notice - pathetic!!!

You sound to have had a really tough time.

You might shoot me down for this as you obviously have a very negative view of going bankrupt but, it's your decision that you aren't doing so you shouldn't get angry with other individuals that do. No sane person would ever plan to get into the kind of mess I currently face and yes I hold my hands up bankruptcy does look likely. It upsets me though that someone in a similar position would think so bad of me - I really have no choice as far as I can see and like you am a mother and want my kids to have a good quality of life. Don't get me wrong i'm not drinking either and have had one night out in 6 months as we live on the breadline but please don't judge a book by it's cover.

I hope that your health improves x x

midge61

Hi

Sorry to read of your present situation. You are obviously a strong lady to have dealt with your ex and you have my admiration for that.

I hope you don't mind me asking but are you receiving treatment for the tumour?
If it is cancer (sorry to jump to conclusions if it's not!) you may be eligible for financial support through Macmillan Care

http://www.macmillan.org.uk

Otherwise it might be worth contacting your local welfare rights officer via your council.

Good luck

BigMummaF

I do so agree with you Scotlady...it never fails to amaze me how they can justify spending cash on such things fully knowing there are more desperately important things to pay out for.

I once gave someone money when they said they had none, fully expecting them to get cough medicine for their toddler as it was a Saturday afternoon & the kiddie not really poorly enough to call a doctor for. This...this...two-legged thing came back with a packet of fags!!!!

Anyhoo, just wanted to say that you're not alone in this situation by any stretch...too many of us are there alongside you & I'm afraid there will be many more joining us before much longer. Take care. x

little_miss_moneysaver_3

Hi Scotlady,

I am sure you can get more support if it is a cancerous tumour. Again like above i'm jumping to conclusions. PM me for more info.

I'll just echo what others said, that this site is a fountain of information especially from those in a similar situation. If you're about to lose your home, i don't know if it's council or private, it may be wirth seeking advise of the Citizens Advice Bureau. They may be able to give advice about housing option or if you'd be entitled to a council/housing association house.

But I know how you feel, not so much now but a couple of years I had a friend who would claim to be broke and want money for her two children, only to spend it on fags and wine. In the end I just went round with the food etc in my hand so she couldn't abuse it anymore. It does sometimes amaze me when people claim poverty with a fag in their hand. I doubt I could afford to start smoking, but that's another debate for another time. Just keep your mind on your family.

You sound like such a strong woman who has already fought against so much and won, keep your head up. You know in your own mind you have done the best you can for you and your family. And that is something to be very proud of.

LMMS xxx