Help / advice needed Please !

Oldernotwiser

bunny999 wrote: »

While the girl is living with your she will be entitled to child benefit.

After she's had the baby!

septemberblues

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

After she's had the baby!

If she is under 18 there should be child benefit for the OP to claim as she is living with them.

Oldernotwiser

septemberblues wrote: »

If she is under 18 there should be child benefit for the OP to claim as she is living with them.

Bunny999's point was that the GIRL was entitled to child benefit. Anyway, even parents don't get CB when their child has left FT education and there's no indication here that this girl is still studying.

scooby1001

Well if taking her to council and getting them to do something with her is a terrible thing to do then i hold my hands up and say "i am a terrible person i have done that with my son". My son is 18. I first tried to get him into council accommodation at 16 but they were only going to put him into a homeless hostel which due to him having serious mental health issues i knew he would kill himself so i reluctanly agreed to have him back. It did not work out and i took him back to the council and that time he had just turned 17 and they put him into supported loggings(stonham housing it is called and they are put with families). He was there a year and has just moved into his own flat in a complex of flats for young adults with physical/mental health problems where they are kept an eye on by a team. I don't regret for one second doing it because had i not done it i would either be dead myself or my daughter taken into care neither of which i wanted to happen. I stand by saying take her to the council. In the long run it would be best for everyone.

hanny83_2

I sympathise with you Scooby it must've been an incredibly hard time. However, the difference is, you did that because you cared and you made sure that he had a secure place to live. This situation is different as there is an unborn baby involved and it's all too easy for the son to just forget about her and his parents to just ditch her. This girl is someones child that is not around any more to help her or guide her and if she is just dumped at the council office who knows where she will end up?

~Chameleon~

septemberblues wrote: »

If she is under 18 there should be child benefit for the OP to claim as she is living with them.

Not unless the girl is in full-time education which by the sounds of it, she's not.

scooby1001

The thing is the chances are she would be put somewhere that would support her. Maybe the op could look into weather they have stonham in their area or similar. While she is living with them she is not going to get housing benefit etc. They are in a no win situation. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

~Chameleon~

scooby1001 wrote: »

The thing is the chances are she would be put somewhere that would support her.

Yep, most likely a hostel or B&B full of drug addicts and alcoholics. She'd get a lot of support in one of those places! :rolleyes:

These people are presumably acting as a surrogate family to this girl as her own parents are both dead and at a time when she needs their help the most they are talking of casting her out on the street to fend for herself!!! :mad:

Hasn't this poor girl suffered enough stress and trauma in her life so far without adding to it and potentially destroying her in the process

scooby1001

You don't know that it would be a hostel or b&b thats what i am trying to get over. They have not even looked into it.

~Chameleon~

scooby1001 wrote: »

You don't know that it would be a hostel or b&b thats what i am trying to get over. They have not even looked into it.

It's my experience that the majority of homeless pregnant teenagers will end up being placed somewhere like this as they don't tend to be moved into council accommodation or dedicated mother & baby units until after the baby is born, and even then there are very limited places available.