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fimonkey

Actually I Do feel quite sorry for her and can understand her predicament. A similar thing happened to me when I was a child. I was part of a 2.4 nuclear family, father earnt the main money and looked after the finances, mother was essentially the housewife and looked after my sister and I.

My father died suddenly, and the resultant money left to my mother paid off the mortgage, but then my mother had no clue what to do next! Various financial advisors all gave her different advice and all the time my mother was grieving but also trying to protect her two daughters, plus shoulder their grief.

To make up for the loss of my father, my mother showered my sister and I with gifts and holidays with no thought for the future, and before long (within 18 months) there was no money left. My dear mother then had to pull up her socks and live in the real world, and only then did my sister and I find out the true extent of our financial worries.

In the end we were fine, we survived as you always do. But often a lesson learned has to be learned the hard way, and it may be the case with this lady too, she needs to learn from her own mistakes.

Unfortunately there's no room for sentimentality in finances, (or on these boards either so it would seem).

I wish her well, and hope she manages to keep strong.

guppy

I really can't afford this. I have a BMW X3, but it will have to be sold to cut costs.

I have a great deal of sympathy too...but she's doing her best to change that with adbsurdly self-pitying statements such as the above...

Paley71

"I was at the gym when my mobile rang"


How much is membership to those places?

Kez100

What a load of old tosh...

It was reported yesterday that house prices are falling at their fastest rate since the 1990s property crash. There are already a million unsold homes in Britain - with a tale of misery behind each one.

House prices haven't fallen since 1990's, so there is no option but for the first comment - it isn't anything dramatic. And no, there isn't misery behind every unsold home.

Why does my heart not bled for this woman who still sends her children to private school.

I am sorry he lost her husband but she needs to get a grip on reality.

SoyaBunny

I'm sorry but is this article to be taken seriously? I sympathise with the passing of her husband and being messed around by a buyer or a seller in the property market is frustrating to say the least, but I can not read anything which showed she made an effort to kerb her spending (selling her BMW really doesn't count) nor be realistic and plan for the future not just hers but her children.
Sorry if it sounds harsh but at the end of the day it is just my opinion.

fatpiggy

If they were earning the sort of money to support that lifestyle, I'm afraid they should have been saving plenty, not just spending it. Of course I'm sorry that her husband died, and can appreciate not wanting to take the kids out of a school they are settled in, but they can still see their friends, even if they have to go to another school, and frankly, they could all go into a 3 or 4 bedroom terrace house, it doesn't HAVE to be detached really, does it? My father's father died when my dad was just about 15, but grandma still managed to bring up her two children successfully on her wages.

I have a £5K overdraft and am usually in the red by about £4.2 by the end of the month. I haven't been a spendthrift, but I do have a pet who costs me a fortune in drugs every month, especially since the onset of CASCADE which according to one vet I spoke to, has been the biggest disaster for pet-owners in recent times. But of course, it was a European ruling, so say no more. I had the choice of having my pet put down (she is all I have), or getting into debt. I am working hard to bring it down and finally get rid of it, and I HATE knowing that I am in debt because it is completely anti the way I was brought up, but what else could I do? It is only money at the end of the day, and my pet gives me so much. You learn to survive on never having a holiday, or only buying charity shop clothes etc. She would have paid the ultimate price - with her life.

lynnexxxo

Fatpiggy - Do you know that if you can find your dogs drugs on the net your vet is obliged to write you a prescription - often they are a lot less than the vet charges.

Penny_Rich

I remember reading this article. My monthly take home pay is slightly more than hers - about £60 more - i'm single, childless, and live in a small flat and drive a small car. There is NO WAY i could afford her lifestyle - i'd be up to my neck in debt in weeks! I'm sorry that she has lost her husband, but i'm afraid she needs a serious financial reality check.

scousethife

Its not exactly rocket science is it?

If you cant afford your life then you downsize it, so far she has had 9 months to work this out and still hasnt.

fatpiggy

lynnexxxo wrote: »

Fatpiggy - Do you know that if you can find your dogs drugs on the net your vet is obliged to write you a prescription - often they are a lot less than the vet charges.

Hi Lynnexxo

Unfortunately the drugs (although they are for dogs) are barbiturates, so a controlled substance - even the vet has to jump through hoops in terms of paperwork especially as I have to get them in vast quantities as it isn't a dog but a horse that they are being shovelled into. The cost is 7 times the cost of the identical human drug - that is what Cascade has directly caused. I get a discount from the drug company because I appealed to them, but still it costs me about £275 per month, and that's before the other drugs she has and all her "normal" running costs.

Next time I'm having a goldfish!!