Separated but financially tied

sandra_3086

thanks for all the great advice. Your right I do feel stronger, and I now know I am better off without him, in relation to passing on his new address, does it matter that he refuses to tell me where he is living now?

Becles

I don't know my ex-husbands address. The only way I have of contacting him is a mobile number. If he refuses to tell you, there is nothing you can do about it.

innovate

Sandy, if he doesn't give you an address to forward letters to, he probably feels it gives him an edge over you - he knows just about everything about you, and he has that secret living abode. I'd let him have that sense of 'victory', but I'd watch that he hasn't asked the Post Office to redirect all the mail to his new address!

Relationship breakdowns are always traumatic and it's hard to separate emotions and facts - - even if there's a chance/hope that the two of you reconcile, you should get legal help from the CAB or a lawyer. They will help you protecting your rights whilst you grabble with your emotions. Us folks on an anonymous internet forum can give you moral support and some ideas, but we aren't as good as someone who can give you face to face support. I think you need that because you are in a legal relationship as long as you are married to the guy.

Still - stay strong, the b*****d has cheated on you, not just once, he has deserved (asked to!!) to suffer!!

tempest42

Said it before and will say it again, go buy a diary and keep notes (financial and otherwise ) get a family law solicitor who is also a litigation solicitor, forgive my spelling at all times, get a notepad (suprising what you remember and forget to ask/tell your solicitor), dont be beholden to your solicitor (your employing him/her, remember they aint god (the judge is far nearer that )), Dont give up hope there will be victories and defeat's you need to win the WAR and rememer thats all it is, also read

https://www.terry.co.uk

with your Notepad at the side of you .....

Rgs Dave
Oh and the best of Luck, life does get better, Later

scoobydo_2

hi yes i am sure i used Terry.co.uk for advice when i was going through a divorce . my solicitor was ok but never really adviced just went along with what we had loosely (my ex and I ) had discussed with regards to who got what . I in the end got the house if i didn't touch his pension and no set maintenance through the csa or courts but he does give me £ 320 a month .

alison

sandra_3086

Thank you all for your great advice, which I have taken on board. I know I have a long hard struggle ahead of me, but with my new mse user friends and collegues at home I know I will get through. I have left it too long and now feel that I have to finish this era of my life for good. Thank you all once again. xx

scoobydo_2

good for you . I am now 3 years on from my ex leaving me for an other woman . I have set up as a childminder , taken the kids to florida on my own and am in the processs of having a coservatory put on the house . i ahve been single since he left but now feel so strong and independant ..

alison