Relationship help!

Tiger_greeneyes

You just have to be firm lufcgirl, I know it's hard but what's the alternative, you spend the rest of your life with someone you aren't in love with? That's not fair on anyone. If I was in your position, I'd consider moving my belongings out one day when she's out but wait for her to come home and explain to her that you really can't stay with her. At least it wouldn't be dragged on indefinitely and I'm sure she'll be expecting it.

simpywimpy

You have a responsibility to yourself first of all. This current relationship isn't working. Could you suggest going for a counselling session together (relate or similar) where you can work through a split together? Are there any mutual friends who would mediate for you whilst you sort things out?

If none of this works and you feel blackmailed into staying, wait until she's gone to work/shops and pack up and go.

lufcgirl

It's all done now. We had 'the chat' after I finished work. She guessed basically cos of the amount of time I've been away. She's in the bedroom crying at the moment and don't feel like I can say anything else. Probably the most horrible thing I've had to do in my life!

Angel777

It is never easy and its really good that you have told her.

How are things now? At least you have been honest with her.

Did you manage to talk to her?

I just hope that you can both now move on and find happiness. I do feel for her though.

lufcgirl

Things are a bit strained tbh...but we'll both get over it. She's told her Mum which makes it feel a bit more official. She got a bit upset when I was on the phone to the other girl last night but I needed to talk to her.

Me and the other girl are great at the moment, planning to see each other and generally being quite loved up but not together. Things seem to be looking up and I'm feeling very happy!

loobylou2

It would probably be kinder if you didn't phone the other girl in front of your soon to be ex live in you know!!!! She's probably feeling pretty hurt and upset right now and doing things like that will only make her feel even worse. I know you need to speak to this other girl but please show some tact towards your ex live in. Could you not use a mobile and call the other girl when she's not around? If you are splitting up so you can be with someone else then the least you can do is try to make the split as painless as possible for the girl you are leaving. Sorry if I sound harsh, I don't mean to as I realise that at the end of the day you have to do what will be best for you. I hope things work out for all 3 of you!!!!