Ive Turned On The Light

Smamfer

lucielle wrote: »

Have you thoguth about writing naughty novels? There are special writers workshops that have this genre.
L

Hadnt thought about it to be honest luc, should give it some thought though the way my mind runs away with itself at times :rotfl:


Now im sat working till 1am, Titanic is on the tele the fire is roaring and payday cant come quick enough.... god i need a job!

xx

lucielle

Yep me to, (a job that is).
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Smamfer

Evening all.

Sat working till 1am dd just gone to bed bf back on nights tonight and got plenty to do while i work,

Found out tonight bf's kids are coming saturday ........ for a week:eek: Oh yes i will become a mother of 3 for the week with a serious lack of money. So tonight i will be meal planning and days out planning. Bf sadly cant get time off work so ill have them day and night whilst trying to work from home... Oh joy!

Thing is as money is Very tight at the moment ill be hunting vigorously for places to take them for a few hours in the day that costs............. nothing! (this is where you jump in with ideas pls lol)

Been job hunting as well, went to the local job centre and is was busier than the local supermarket:eek:. Anyway found a few jobs which could work out and have an interview next wednesday, Its a job i always said i could never do and thats caring for the elderly in their own homes. Isn't it strange i have worked with mental handicap and adhd teenagers and yet the thought of looking after an old person has always been the one thing i couldnt do......... but needs must and at times like this i feel you have to put aside any worries and just get down to it. S o fingers crossed something will come of it.

So thats me for now, Im still not getting any CSA money... ( no shock there :rolleyes: ) but ex has said that he has moved house now back to his folks and next week going to start paying me .....:rotfl: if i had a pound.......

Bf got his csa papers through saying how much he had to pay,,, 30 a week higher than we calculated as his ex said we never have them...( urm hello read above :rolleyes:) Moneys tight im still Wii'ing and think i can actually feel some hips! :rotfl:

Love to all xx

GeorgeUK

I'm sorry, but that still sounds so wrong

im still Wii'ing

Glad to see you're still making progress and hopefully getting some money from ex. Hope one of the jobs pans out okay for you.

Hopeful1

Smamfer wrote: »

Been job hunting as well, went to the local job centre and is was busier than the local supermarket:eek:. Anyway found a few jobs which could work out and have an interview next wednesday, Its a job i always said i could never do and thats caring for the elderly in their own homes. Isn't it strange i have worked with mental handicap and adhd teenagers and yet the thought of looking after an old person has always been the one thing i couldnt do......... but needs must and at times like this i feel you have to put aside any worries and just get down to it. S o fingers crossed something will come of it.

I was exactly same as you. I'd worked in a school with kids with special needs. Many were wheel chair users and needed bedchanges from nursery to 19 years. I was completely adverse to caring for adults tho. Anyhoo, one summer i joined an agency and went around visiting various adults in their homes. There were a few i had to grit my teeth with - usually smells etc BUT I met some lovely people who appreciated a bit of conversation more than anything. I used to do it every hol for a couple of years.

Good luck with job hunt, you deserve something

As for hols, how old are the kids?

If you look on the local council website, they usually have free stuff going on, particularly for the younger ones in libraries and parks.

Museums - can be made fun with trails etc. Our local one had craft events last year.

The good old park!

You could join your local netmums website who always list places to go and things to do in the house.

Utilise the wii!

Local to us is a nature centre that costs next to nothing to visit. Don't know if you have anything similiar by you?

Check Martin's main page for money off vouchers.

Look out for meal deals in pizza hut and places.

Hope that helps for starters

Smamfer

:mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad::mad:

Someone pass me the gun!

Been a while since i have been here so much been going on and it aint all pretty so excuse me while i whinge.

Had bf's kids over for the week took them to Wicksteed park and sandringham and hunstanton just up the road from us, did lots of cooking separating cat fights but all in all a good week, The bf's ex missus playing up constantly which is why my blood is boiling,

As you will have read she told the CSA we never have kids so it cost us £30 more a week, Well then she decided that she didnt want the money direct from us she wanted it through the CSA. The money was due to leave our account on the 10th and she knew this, they say it takes 3 days to reach them then 3 days to reach her... bless her she flies off to Tunisia to herr her new boyfriend for the 3rd time this year ( im sure at our expense) So she gets on phone the other day demanding to know where her money is... anyway BF explained that its easter and they havent took it so prob take it tuesday and then she has to wait as it was HER CHOICE to get it from CSA. Anyway she didnt do her budgeting very well and needs to pay her phone bill..( wihch of course is big as she rings Tunisia) So she moans at him on the phone pulls on his heart strings plays the guilt trip...( eventho she ended the relationship) and now HE is saying he will send her some money and cant understand why im mad!!!!!!!
What is it with men, she is about to take £500 off us due to her lying... we spent nearly £200 which we couldnt really afford when the kids were here making sure they had a nice time, he offered to help with school trips and uniform o n top of CSA money and she just swore at him gave him a hard time but now he is crumbling at her every word and i just feel like walking., i feel while she knows how to make him feel guilty she will always win! ... Am i wrong in not supporting him in his decision????
I dont begrudge those kids a penny but a phone bill is not a necessity in my eyes and that money could be used a hell of a lot better at home!

Rant over

Anyway had a couple of interviews last week, one i didnt get but i didnt want either.. the woman interviewing me for a bar job said i didnt have enough experience...( i ve got my own personal license owned m y own pub for 2 years and managed one for 8 lolol..... her comment was..." im reknown for my heels and when i click my staff know im about" :rotfl: what a twerp!

The other one is a home care worker for the elderly... not something i want to do but in this day and age you have no choice. the moneys not bad and you get paid hourly along with 45p per visit, can opt to get paid weekly or monthly, so just waiting for my references on that to come back and hopefully hear from them soon.,

Im still getting no csa..( i know i know your all surprised) work is picking up a little bit but deffo still need to get something else,. been doing lots of gardening housey things and well thats me really.... needed to get that off my chest.

And breath..... xx

Hopeful1

Hi Smamfer. My sis in law had same thing with my bruv in law and his ex. It took a while for him to click but he got there in the end. My sis in law was incensed too when he used to bow down to the sob stories, but she loved him and stuck by him. She made it quite clear what she thought though. He needs to realise it's like having a child. If you give in to the temper tantrums you're just re-enforcing the behaviour.

Hope you can get it all sorted. It seems a shame to let her ruin what seems to be a good relationship otherwise. Take care hun

Smamfer

Thanks sweetie, i ended up texting him last night as he is on nights basically saying to do what he wants and although i cant support him mentally i understand why he is doing it and know it cant be easy but should it happen again then we have serious issues...

Today will be working for an hour this morning. wasnt due to but it was a bonus hour that needed covering, then hang some washing out, put some more in..Have a look at the jobs online..( well find some jobs online lol) and prob go and take my anger out on some weeds in the garden

Love to all xx

lucielle

Glad to read you are feeling slightly better. Woman who interviewed you for the pub job was probably worried you were too good.
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GeorgeUK

Hi Smamfer. Glad to see you are trying to make him see sense without using a mallet.

He is probably still in the habit of doing what she says, when she says. It would probably work better to ease him out of that mindset rather than give ultimatums (sounds like his ex). It might help if he sees this from a different perspective.

If he sees this as a matter of priority rather than guilt, i think you will be able to make him see sense a little easier. Why is she not asking her boyfriend for money if she is so hard up? She's spending the money on talking to him after all. Does she expect your oh to pay for her to be able to carry on with this guy? Does he realise this is what he's doing?

If he thinks about where she should now actually be on his list of priorities (not the kids, just her), i think he will soon see that she is still taking him for a ride. It might take a little longer for him to do something about it or to work out what he can or should do about it, but for now i think he still has the blinkers on.

Good luck with the old folks.
Hopefully you'll find something else soon.