Daughter has decided to quit college can I now close csa claim

Igottawii!!

anewman wrote: »

If her mother refuses to contribute to her studies, how about she possibly moves in with you? If she's over 16 she's an adult. You could probably claim CSA off her then?!

I personally think it's disgusting a mother would let her daughter drop out of college for the sake of a bit of money each week, but unfortunately you can't control how she spends the child support money.

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anewman

Igottawii!! wrote: »

I think this is a very unfair comment -
Don't be so quick to judge.

Many people working for minimum wage barely take home £10,000. It's all too easy to spend that extra £12k on branded things instead of cheap things, to have a bigger mortgage, and other unnecessary luxuries, and blame being unable to help your kids education on finances. Bit of better planning and that £1,500 for the total year would have been *very* easy to put aside. Not being judgemental, being realistic. If there was £64k a year I suspect it would be much the same situation as you'd find a way to spend it.

Loopy_Girl

I would be mortified if my daughter couldn't go to FE as I couldn't give her £30.00 a week...I would defo find ways to find the money and cut back and scrimp and save to make sure she could go. Plenty of time to be working and when you are 16 and doing it so you can stay in school is not one of them. This is education after all and your duties don't stop when the 'free' education stops.

Too many kids these days just jack school in after 4th year so anyone wanting to better themselves should be commended.

savvy

anewman wrote: »

If her mother refuses to contribute to her studies, how about she possibly moves in with you? If she's over 16 she's an adult. You could probably claim CSA off her then?!

I personally think it's disgusting a mother would let her daughter drop out of college for the sake of a bit of money each week, but unfortunately you can't control how she spends the child support money.

AH I was going to suggest this............as a college lecturer I can't tell you how gutting it is to hear of a potential student that actually WANTS to go to college to study and can't!!!! We need more of these guys in our colleges and not the type that go because 'it's easier than going to work' :rolleyes:

markymark10_2

Thanks for all the replies, as some of you have mentioned on here nothing is black & white & there are 2 sides to every story but the situation as i understand it is this,

Her mother & partner have nothing to support other than a heavy bingo & smoking habit & the pay back of over £4000 to the csa for money he failed to pay for his daughter in previous years.

I'm happy to have my daughter living with me, however this would involve her moving away from her friends & other family & this isnt something she wants to do at this time. She already has a part time job at the weekends but as she has to pay for food & towards electricity she doesnt have much money left to do the things she wants to do.

I have been giving her money directly to help her through college but she is aware that I am already paying csa & she wont accept more money from me, she has made the decision that she would be better to work & i'm having to accept that she will go ahead with that decision, what I dont want is to have to pay more money to her mother when maybe that money could go towards a fund which may enable her to go back to her studies at a later date if she chooses to do so.

tamsin1982

if your daughter leaves education the her mother will be £120 a month worse off as she wont receive maintainance, its the same amount it would cost your daughter to carry on with her studies? I know where id rather put my £30 a week!

thats not including the other benefits that will stop, ctc an child ben
I would speak to your ex and make her see its not only best for your daughter but also better for her purse!!

Bagpuss1973

Could she not just get a part time job?

That's how I got through 2 years of college as my parents couldn't afford to sub me...mind you in my day you didn't get a £30 a week handout either but I still managed right through college. You don't need to work that hard to earn that sort of cash.

My OH managed to put himself right through uni without handouts as well....he just worked around his studies and in the holidays...got a decent degree too.

It can be done if she actually wants to do it.

Sorry missed your bit about her having a job....why does she have to pay for food and electricity???? If her mother is charging her then that is outrageous...I know young people may have to pay a little rent but there are limits.

elisebutt65

markymark10 wrote: »

I'm happy to have my daughter living with me, however this would involve her moving away from her friends & other family & this isnt something she wants to do at this time. She already has a part time job at the weekends but as she has to pay for food & towards electricity she doesn't have much money left to do the things she wants to do.

Whaaat!! so the mum gets your maintenance money and the cb and ctc and she still squeezes your daughter for food and leccy money!! She should be ashamed of herself!!I wouldn't dream of charging my kids anything until they had finished their studies!!!!

kittiej

Marky please make sure you write/ phone/ email the CSA and let them know the situation.

A friend of mine is now in the situation of being owed £3600 from overpayments because the CSA didn't bother to check that child benefit had stopped.

He doesn't even know if he will get it back!

kelloggs36

Maybe the daughter is trying it on with her dad? It is possible that she is trying to get more money by exaggerating the situation at home - children can be very manipulative you know!!