Need/want to rant / scream / cry!

kickingkay

Magentasue wrote:

Yes, that's a good idea - have salaries paid into account 1 and have all bill payments come out automatically. Then transfer agreed amount into separate personal accounts. Put all figures on paper and agree it all then get him to agree that only you will have access to account 1 - would that work?

thats what im doing it makes more sense then you both know how much money is your own for shopping and all bills get paid no worriying you just need to make sure he sticks to the budget too
(big hugs to you i know about the whole beating head against brick wall!
im currently working one job and fulltime mum!!!! but as i only work til 4pm say i have offered to get another job to make up the extra cash but my o/h wont here of it says he will never see me, but that doesnt stop him going out on friday night to his mates and going football too!
blue can i ask how do you do it im really knackered when i finish work but if i thought i had to do 3 jobs when my o/h was sat on hi sass i would really be peeved off!!! :mad:
so i take my hat off to you how are you finding the outstanding debt mentally mine is 77k there abouts o/h doesnt even know he choses not to know the figure he might get stressed!
you know where i am if you ever want to have a groan
lol klare x

BWZN93

Hi Bluezone

I dont really have any useful advice - I just wanted to wish you luck getting the OH sorted out.

Enjoy the swimming and coffee and feel free to rant here whenever you need to - ive been there before and this site and the people really cheered me up and kept me going when I felt like everything was crashing down around my ears.

I hope everything works out for you.

Jo xx

bluezone

£Ronnie - cheers for the reply. It probably is just just the momey side getting me down and the feeling of banging my head against a brick wall.

To all of you - It was so cold last night that we ended up not going swimming but we went for a drink and a lengthy chat instead. Much needed me thinks.

bluezone

thanks to all your replies. When I got home I tried to talk again to hubby - he did give me another chq for £500 which I am banking today although he may not be able to give me much more on friday (this is when he usually gives me the chqs).

I have invited my parents round tonight for dinner and will chat to him after they have gone - once he has been lured into a false sense of security! - nasty I know.