hates school

zero_2

hi my daughter has started recepton this sept and really hates it she went to the nursery in the same school she didnt like that either she is very upset every morning seems to be worse now than ever . any advice please

milliebear00001

How old is she? Some children take much longer to settle in than others - how do you approach school with her - are you reluctant to leave? Do you give off vibes of hesitation?! Have you talked to her and her teacher to see if there are any specific issues?

zero_2

she will be 5 in november have spoken to her teacher and she sed she is ok wen i have gone but not quite sure ? she holds on to me wen its time to go in then the teacher takes her in then i have to wave to her from the yard .havent had a phone call or owt like that to say she is upset . even at the wknd if any 1 mentions school she gets upset

hollydays

Maybe stop waving fom the yard. Oh,I do remember this though, It's the parent that finds it hard.x
How long did she go to the nursery for? What reports did you get back fom the nursery about how she was?

milliebear00001

zero wrote: »

she will be 5 in november have spoken to her teacher and she sed she is ok wen i have gone but not quite sure ? she holds on to me wen its time to go in then the teacher takes her in then i have to wave to her from the yard .havent had a phone call or owt like that to say she is upset . even at the wknd if any 1 mentions school she gets upset

Sounds pretty normal to me (I am a teacher)! Lots of kids and parents go through this. She will get there but it might take some time. I suggest you make a appointment to take with her class teacher and explain how worried you are. Tell him/her all you've put down here and let the teacher reassure you. It is likely to be completely true that she's fine after you leave. Seen this LOTS of times!

lab-lover

My dd was exactly the same. screamed when i had to leave her, and i mean screamed. but she said she liked school. this went on for a few days and eventually i got to the bottom of it. it turned out she didnt like the noise at lunchtimes and a couple of times the hood on her coat had been tugged at. sounds funny now but at the time it was a massive thing for her. it really can be something quite simple (to us) but big to them.

after a few days it all settled down and was quite happy about going in but i do sympathise with you but honestly it could be something like ive just mentioned and iam sure you will get to the root of it soon.

gosh - brings back memories.xx

Mojisola

As I understand it, this isn't a recent problem - your daughter wasn't happy all last year either. I think you have to look further than what happens when you leave her in the morning. Some children don't take to school at all - have you thought about home schooling?

Baybee1984

Aw bless her, Im lucky my DS started reception too and loves it.
How does it work when you take her in the classroom, do you just take her in and leave? Or stay a while? I really think this has helped the children settle in in DS's school. We go in at 8.50am and we stay with them till the 2nd bell goes at 9am, either sharing a book or doing an activity such as drawing a picture or practising their name etc. It really helps the children settle in and makes it easier for them to seperate from the parents when its time to leave.

galvanizersbaby

zero wrote: »

hi my daughter has started recepton this sept and really hates it she went to the nursery in the same school she didnt like that either she is very upset every morning seems to be worse now than ever . any advice please

Hi my daughter started in reception a couple of weeks ago too (she previously went to a day nursery) and she has been upset in the mornings.
This seems to have halted this week as we are doing a star chart in the run up to christmas and she recieved a gold star for going in to the classroom nicely and collecting her name from the table without a fuss and her teacher gave her lots of praise so at the moment she is miss independent and is going in by herself at the moment.

Have a word with her teacher and see if she can bring in a drawing or something from home to show her teacher - this worked for my son last year.

My daughter is already asking when she can stop going to school as she has to do writing and she likes to play!
My son wishes every day was a holiday! (don't we all)

I think they go through fits and starts but a word to her teacher could give you some suggestions of how to help her settle in easily.

At 4 they really are still babies I think so it's a lot for them to take on board - hope things improve soon - it's really upsetting x

galvanizersbaby

Baybee1984 wrote: »

Aw bless her, Im lucky my DS started reception too and loves it.
How does it work when you take her in the classroom, do you just take her in and leave? Or stay a while? I really think this has helped the children settle in in DS's school. We go in at 8.50am and we stay with them till the 2nd bell goes at 9am, either sharing a book or doing an activity such as drawing a picture or practising their name etc. It really helps the children settle in and makes it easier for them to seperate from the parents when its time to leave.

It's funny but at our school they say the opposite and encourage the parents to leave asap!
Guess they figure if a child is going to be upset when the parent leaves it makes it worse if they hang around for longer.

Have to admit though I've felt a bit put out when I wanted to stay for a bit but been ushered out by the teaching assistant! :mad:

Krystaltips

Our school don't encourage you to stay... But then don't encourage you to leave too soon either... But DD has been fine since her 2nd day at nursery (screamed the place down the first day!) and I asked her new reception teacher how she was getting on last week and was told it is like she's always been there... Settled right in...

My Aunt had problems with my cousin though. He was quite a shy boy and didn't like school at all... She had problems dropping him off right through reception, yr1 and I think into yr2... He's 9 now and loves going to school, very independant... All children are different and some take longer to settle into different routines than others...