Taken CSA 9 years to let me know I owe 43K - Help!!!

ekkygirl

alison999 wrote: »

Read my post again. I did not ANYWHERE in my post say or even hint at the baby not being wanted.

OK:rolleyes:

kelloggs36

jacklink wrote: »

one consolation

'I also found out that she had changed my daughter’s surnames to her new husband’s name which I did not give my consent to and would like to find out if this has been done legally. I registered both the births so it’s my name of their birth certificates.'

she has done this illegally, take her to court she will be made to change their names back to their own original names.

she can only change their names with your consent

But not if the child is merely 'known as'

srichards

kelloggs36 wrote: »

I got a passport for my daughter without input from her dad either - I just said I didn't know where he lived on the form (which was true) - he had witheld it to be awkward - so I just got a replacement. There were no questions asked at all. That was however, over 10 years ago so I don't know if things have changed at all since then for passports.

My son is 10, and I renewed his passport Aug 07, so just over a year ago. I didnt put any details of his father in. It was never questioned. But I dont know what is meant by 'qualifying' parents anyway.

srichards

jacklink wrote: »

one consolation

'I also found out that she had changed my daughter’s surnames to her new husband’s name which I did not give my consent to and would like to find out if this has been done legally. I registered both the births so it’s my name of their birth certificates.'

she has done this illegally, take her to court she will be made to change their names back to their own original names.

she can only change their names with your consent

Yeah I think thats correct, they have to at least write to the parent.

I changed my sons surname about 8 years ago when I married. By deed poll.

They wrote to his father, I guess he never replied as it wasnt an issue and my laddos name was changed.

T4i

We were told we needed the farthers permission to change my non-bio daughter.

We wrote to him and he never replied, we got told we couldnt change her name unless he did reply and agree.

Getting a striaght truthful asnwer from this country is like trying to grow a 2nd.........head.

SuziQ

T4i,that is the law I'm afraid,there have been many test cases on this issue and a precedent was set that a child's fathers name was an integral part of their identity-which must seem really daft if that child hasn't seen that father for years!


It does seem to be inconsistent,doesn't it? Around 7 years ago when my husband was still having contact he objected to the name change ie 'known as' with his 2 boys in detling school,and when the school didnt enforce the childrens' legal surname the CAFCAS officer contacted them and told them they had to comply-which they did. The children are now in school in Dorset (although about to be moved yet again) and that school told his ex the children had to be called what was on their birth certificate,which they had to show when they enrolled them. The oldest has since changed his name on his 16th birthday. Ironically he is now stating he hates his step-dad and is making tentative contact with his dad.

There should be continuity around the country though. I feel sorry for all these kids mentioned earlier in this thread,whose names are being changed contstantly depending what uncle they have. It must cause real self image probs and identity crisis according to a lot of the research I have read over the years.