Taken CSA 9 years to let me know I owe 43K - Help!!!

SuziQ

kelloggs36 wrote: »

Anybody can be known as what they like as long as it isn't for fraudulent purposes. My daughter told her school that whilst her name was legally her father's she wanted to be known as her step father's name. This worked really well. The only difference is that legal documents (such as exam results etc) are in her legal name but for everyday purposes she was known as her step surname.

The fact is that if this isn't challenged the school can accept the new name. If the father decides to challenge it though,the school have to use the name on the birth certificate. No Loopy,I don't have a link to it-but we were told this be 3 separate solicitors-including the one acting for my husbands ex wife-plus the cafcas officer and the judge at Miadstone court who precided over the case between my husband and his ex (family court)>

Schools do have to accept the change in the way kids are brought up now to some extent but also have to concede to the law-IF a challenge is made,which it seems doesn't happen in a lot of cases.

I think in most cases these days an amicable agreement can be met,but in cases such as my husbands,where his relationship with his children was destroyed and he hasn't been allowed contact for years (and yes-he has ALWAYS paid maintenance and even has paid extra when his ex requested it for school holidays,when his son needed uniform for grammar school etc) you can understand why he is so determined that his youngest child with his ex retains his name.

I have tried to reason with him that it must make the child feel 'odd' within his new family set up and wait to see whether he will back down!

COPPERHEADJACK_2

you were contacted in 1998 and told you would be paying that amount each month. whoever told you that you could write cs off against debt was very wrong indeed.
Did you not think to contact the csa when you went bankrupt to change your circumstances and ask for a new assesment on your new circumstances???

The arrears have come about by not changing your circumstances and the amount has built up over 10 years.

What you need to do is contact the CSA and tell them waht has happened and then they should ask you for proof of your change of circumstances.
I think they will only go back 5 years though.
You Should of also of changed your circumstances when your son was born as you had another child living with you.

They won't keep writing to you and telling you that you are in arrears because they think you should know that you haven't been paying them so why keep reminding you.
They will see it as your own fault. You will have to pay the arrears back at an agreed amount or they will send the baliffs in.

Sorry.

ekkygirl

alison999 wrote: »

I dont see why his ex's 'situation' is so relevent. he had sex with her, got her pregnant and has to support his son, whether he was on benefits or not, his son still needed feeding and clothing.

Read my post again. Dont post judgemental things without facts. They wanted the baby and who are you to assume they didnt. He wanted to support her but objected to paying more per week than she was receiving in benefits for her and 4 children and who wouldn't object. She would have benefited from his massive payments if she was working but she had 4 children to consider and couldn't afford to.

Really his ex's situation was the most relevent thing in my post.

alison999

ekkygirl wrote: »

Read my post again. Dont post judgemental things without facts. They wanted the baby and who are you to assume they didnt. He wanted to support her but objected to paying more per week than she was receiving in benefits for her and 4 children and who wouldn't object. She would have benefited from his massive payments if she was working but she had 4 children to consider and couldn't afford to.

Really his ex's situation was the most relevent thing in my post.

Read my post again. I did not ANYWHERE in my post say or even hint at the baby not being wanted.

kelloggs36

COPPERHEADJACK wrote: »

you were contacted in 1998 and told you would be paying that amount each month. whoever told you that you could write cs off against debt was very wrong indeed.
Did you not think to contact the csa when you went bankrupt to change your circumstances and ask for a new assesment on your new circumstances???

The arrears have come about by not changing your circumstances and the amount has built up over 10 years.

What you need to do is contact the CSA and tell them waht has happened and then they should ask you for proof of your change of circumstances.
I think they will only go back 5 years though.
You Should of also of changed your circumstances when your son was born as you had another child living with you.

They won't keep writing to you and telling you that you are in arrears because they think you should know that you haven't been paying them so why keep reminding you.
They will see it as your own fault. You will have to pay the arrears back at an agreed amount or they will send the baliffs in.

Sorry.

This information is totally incorrect. If the OP has not informed the CSA of their change in circumstances, then it will NEVER be taken into account. He can of course request one be done now, but it will be with effect from now. There are specific limits on revisions and supersessions - not telling them of a change is not one of them.

COPPERHEADJACK_2

kelloggs36 wrote: »

This information is totally incorrect. If the OP has not informed the CSA of their change in circumstances, then it will NEVER be taken into account. He can of course request one be done now, but it will be with effect from now. There are specific limits on revisions and supersessions - not telling them of a change is not one of them.

Really. I have just had all this information off the CSA.
I have fought for 8 years for my CS and they gave me the information on what will happen if he ever says his circumstances were different.
I would have to pay all the money back if he can prove the assesment was wrong for a period of time.

kelloggs36

There is no time limit if the NRP had deliberately failed to disclosed information they were required

kelloggs36

There is no time limit if the NRP had deliberately failed to disclosed information they were required to do, or who knowlingly provided false info. IN short, if they misled the CSA then that is different to having had a change in circumstances. If the NRP had a change in circumstances and didn't tell them and they later try and say that they had the change before, it is too late for the CSA to take it into account - they should have reported it at the time it happened.

kelloggs36

COPPERHEADJACK wrote: »

Really. I have just had all this information off the CSA.
I have fought for 8 years for my CS and they gave me the information on what will happen if he ever says his circumstances were different.
I would have to pay all the money back if he can prove the assesment was wrong for a period of time.[/quote]

If it was wrong is not the same as having failed to report a change in circumstances though isn't it? If the information provided was correct but an error was made, then that is not the same as the NRP trying to claim a retrospective change in circumstances.

jacklink

one consolation

'I also found out that she had changed my daughter’s surnames to her new husband’s name which I did not give my consent to and would like to find out if this has been done legally. I registered both the births so it’s my name of their birth certificates.'

she has done this illegally, take her to court she will be made to change their names back to their own original names.

she can only change their names with your consent