Self employed ex who doesn't want to pay - any point getting the CSA involved?

Jet

candygirl wrote: »

Awwww ((hugs)) to you and your son, some men are sooo weak and selfish:mad: :mad:

this same man's 2 daughters (from his first marriage) both gave birth to sons last Friday. One doesn't want him to know. :-( We went and visited yesterday and it was lovely for my son to see his new nephew. :j His eldest children don't have any time for him either now they are grown up. Apparently "grandad" is going to spare some time to visit today, nearly a week later. He's been sitting at home babysitting new girlfriends 2 year old but hasn't had time to visit his new grandson.

My poor son tells me he's sad for the baby. He's only 10 years old. Why should he be thinking like that?

candygirl

Jet wrote: »

this same man's 2 daughters (from his first marriage) both gave birth to sons last Friday. One doesn't want him to know. :-( We went and visited yesterday and it was lovely for my son to see his new nephew. :j His eldest children don't have any time for him either now they are grown up. Apparently "grandad" is going to spare some time to visit today, nearly a week later. He's been sitting at home babysitting new girlfriends 2 year old but hasn't had time to visit his new grandson.

My poor son tells me he's sad for the baby. He's only 10 years old. Why should he be thinking like that?

well as long as you let him know that's not appropriate behaviour he'll be fine hun.My DD's 21.I divorced her violent Dad just before she was 2, but allowed him reasonable access.He moved to the other end of the country and chose to never see her.She's never had a card for birthday or xmas off him, but we did get maintenance cos he was in the forces and they made him pay.:D
Now she's older she says she's glad she was spared the hassle and weekend Dad scenario, and she is currently preg herself so has it all to come, even though her bf is ok at the moment:D

Jet

Re: tax credits being taken into account as income.

As he will be the main earner - will he be the one to claim the tax credits or will they be in her name as the carer of the children?

I presume if they are in her name, then they wouldn't be taken into account?

Loopy_Girl

Jet wrote: »

Re: tax credits being taken into account as income.

As he will be the main earner - will he be the one to claim the tax credits or will they be in her name as the carer of the children?

I presume if they are in her name, then they wouldn't be taken into account?

It would need to be a joint claim and as your ex's name is on the claim then they would be taken into consideration.

Only way for them to be in her name is for a single claim (i.e declaring they are a single parent)

Jet

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

It would need to be a joint claim and as your ex's name is on the claim then they would be taken into consideration.

Only way for them to be in her name is for a single claim (i.e declaring they are a single parent)

I'm actually allowing myself to believe I might get some money for my son if I do this.

Keep thinking of all the scheming he will do to get out of it.

Think he might try and claim he is unemployed and put the business in her name, but having texted the bloke who pays the majority of his income, he has confirmed to me (he likes me and not my ex:j) that he pays the person who does the work. So unless he is going to be a stay at home dad and bring up her kids, then I don't see how he can get round it.

The only down side is him cutting the contact but I'm even starting to think that might not be a bad thing anyway - if he can't be bothered to see our son then our son is better off without him.