Self employed ex who doesn't want to pay - any point getting the CSA involved?

frugallass

we protect our kids for such a long time but when they reach 'a certain age' they sometimes need a few home truths. I was quite lucky because the revelation came when she was actually staying at her dads, so it didn't even come from me.

My daughter loves her dad to bits but is also fully aware of the lengths he has gone to in order to pay less maintenance for her and she is also very aware of how selfish he is (making her buy a cheap dress then spending over £200 on clothes for himself).

Jet your suggestion about claiming IS is a good way of saying to your ex that the CSA being involved is out of your hands.

Keep us informed !

Sensemaya

Jet wrote: »

I'm thinking of telling him I've had to reduce my working hours (he knows the company I'm working for is not doing well) and had to claim income support and therefore had no choice but to get CSA involved. If he feels I haven't "done it on purpose" he might not be so mad at me and try to use our son as a pawn.

Been watching this thread with interest as I have the "pleasure" of a SE ex too.

I think this is a very good idea. You can always "come off" IS once the assessment is finally done.

frugallass

We should start our own 'club' :cool:

Loopy_Girl

Oooohh.....can i join too!!!! Since my ex is supporting him and his wife and 2 kids on his s/e wage of £150.00 a week!!!!!

Loopy_Girl

Jet wrote: »

I'm thinking of telling him I've had to reduce my working hours (he knows the company I'm working for is not doing well) and had to claim income support and therefore had no choice but to get CSA involved. If he feels I haven't "done it on purpose" he might not be so mad at me and try to use our son as a pawn.

Do you think there's any chance of him knowing the new rules regarding I/S and CSA? As from now, any new claims do not need to go through CSA and from next month all existing claimaints can 'opt out'

I just wouldn't want you to say that and have him sneer at you and then your poor son would suffer

candygirl

My friend is currently pregnant to a bloke[STRIKE]loser[/STRIKE]who owns his own house, works as little as possible as he reckons he can live off 5k a year.She has contacted the csa who reckon she'll be entitled to nothing.Is there no way his assets, ie his house will be taken into consideration? ETA she should know better at 40, but it was her last shot at having a baby, and she will be working 3 days a week and earning a reasonable salary, but thinks he should contribute too

Loopy_Girl

They will assess him on his income and if he doesn't pay that ( no matter how little the amount he is told to pay) then they may take it further with legal action.

If he is working and she is working then there is no need to get the CSA involved. Can't they come to a private arrangement?

candygirl

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

They will assess him on his income and if he doesn't pay that ( no matter how little the amount he is told to pay) then they may take it further with legal action.

If he is working and she is working then there is no need to get the CSA involved. Can't they come to a private arrangement?

He said he's not paying anything as she earns a good wage, and he refuses to work more than 1 day a week:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: What a great catch he is:mad: :mad:

Loopy_Girl

Oooh yeah!!! Sounds a right one!!

Basically if he doesn't change his work pattern to avoid CSA (i.e go from working 6 days a week to 1) and if he is only working 1 day a week and has proof of this and can live on it then there's not much the CSA can do...was it a wee 'happy accident' your friend's pregnancy?

candygirl

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Oooh yeah!!! Sounds a right one!!

Basically if he doesn't change his work pattern to avoid CSA (i.e go from working 6 days a week to 1) and if he is only working 1 day a week and has proof of this and can live on it then there's not much the CSA can do...was it a wee 'happy accident' your friend's pregnancy?

No believe it or not she tried for a baby with him, believing him when he said he'd live with her.Now he's refusing to budge from his safe little house, and she'll be left with all the hard work.Prior to this she had a lovely bf who wanted kids, lived with him for 15 years, but apparently he was too boring:rolleyes: :rolleyes: I'm happy she's having a kid, it's her first one, but worry about how she'll cope:o