How do you know you can afford a baby?

djdymond

thanks everyone with your answers

by the way, there is no way in HELL i would trick my other half to get this. i also, wouldnt want to start a marriage with deception.

i obviously should be waiting till january i guess. its just so hard, as any woman who just "clicks" that they want this will tell you. its not like ive just decided hell lets have a child. something inside me told me its the right time. and that was 2 YEARS ago! i wanted to be married before kids came along and now its nearly here. other half wanted stability of a bought place, thats also now in place.

i just feel if its always going to be a bit tight and weve been together nearly 6 years, why not.

i realise ts alot financially for my other half to take on and i realise thats the only problem. so it looks like ill be clearing the debts till theres no tomorrow.

my OH has said "lets wait till january, get the move wedding and christmas out the way, THEN we will look at our money situation" so he might by then decide no we still need to wait.. and thats what im worried about....

totmalysh

Hello.
There is never a good time to have a baby. I would suggest that you move in, live in your new place for half a year and see how it goes. In February I moved into a part-buy, part-rent flat, since then we had trouble with our bathroom (that leaked, the cracked floor tiles, etc., which need an expensive repair), we had 2 salaries then but did not start any of repairs as I lost my job. 6 months into living in a new place we do not have money to spare, not that we ever had any take-aways, but it is hard.
Life is too unpredictable, the least you can do is ensure you have a good roof above your had and everything else will come at the right time. Having a baby is a big responsibility, and we are 27 and 29, both studying and not sure that are able to afford the baby.
Good luck with your life, and believe me, everything comes at the right and best time!

jennywren1976

Don't forget that if you were to start trying now you could get pregnant straight away and therefore could be in the throes of morning sickness when your wedding is here!
I know it might not seem like that big a deal but having had morning sickness I wouldn't have wanted to have my wedding during it.
xxx

Jenn

Eccle_2

djdymond wrote: »

thanks everyone with your answers

by the way, there is no way in HELL i would trick my other half to get this. i also, wouldnt want to start a marriage with deception.

i obviously should be waiting till january i guess. its just so hard, as any woman who just "clicks" that they want this will tell you. its not like ive just decided hell lets have a child. something inside me told me its the right time. and that was 2 YEARS ago! i wanted to be married before kids came along and now its nearly here. other half wanted stability of a bought place, thats also now in place.

i just feel if its always going to be a bit tight and weve been together nearly 6 years, why not.

i realise ts alot financially for my other half to take on and i realise thats the only problem. so it looks like ill be clearing the debts till theres no tomorrow.

my OH has said "lets wait till january, get the move wedding and christmas out the way, THEN we will look at our money situation" so he might by then decide no we still need to wait.. and thats what im worried about....

I do sympathise with how you feel, and I know it's hard waiting when you feel ready. I was ready before my H, then when we did decide to try for a baby ended up having to delay for a year due to external factors and then took 18 months to conceive.

But January will be here before you know it, especially with all you've got on with the wedding and move, and hopefully if in the mean time you do all you can to pay off debts and save up some money your H will then be happy to go ahead with things then.