my partner is worrying if she can/cant have kids??

downs523

hi my partner is worrying that she may not be able to have kids in the future. her mother had problems and her aunt was told she couldnt (but did, had 2 girls)

is there anyway of knowing now if she can have children when we want to try in the future?

continualdiamond

Do the relies have diganosed problems that affected fertility???

Has your partner been told she has a lower chance of having children etc???

Only asking as i am 26 and have PCOS, i will not know if i am affected on my chances of having children until i start trying, but obviously i know full well to expect that it may take longer than i would like. Which is in a way comforting to know, i know that sounds really weird, but id rather know in advance that things could take awhile, rather than get upset and go through tests gallore to find out whats going on.

I got offically diganosed with PCOS when i was 21, but doctors suspect i had it since i was 17 as thats when symptoms started appearing.

Hope thats some help...

foreversomeday

Hi, my advice would be for her to visit her GP and explain her concerns, there may be tests they can do.

I have a feeling from speaking to others that what usually happens is a couple starts trying for a baby and if they haven't conceived after a year, then the doctor will assess them - but I don't know whether you can be seen earlier.

It is worth asking though, surely?

Gingham_Ribbon

Almost all the women in my family, including aunts and cousins have had terrible troubles with pregnancy - miscarriages, still births, horrible complications and one cousin died in pregnancy.

I had problems in my late teens and early 20s and needed a couple of operations which I was told may reduce my chances of successful pregnancies. I have had 2 full term children, though also experienced miscarriages and various complications.

I was even pregnant on my wedding day after advice from a specialist not to wait any longer incase I couldn't have any. We just went for it, deciding that if anyone was sniffy about that it was their problem, not ours.

Only thing you can do is speak to someone qualified to answer your concerns. As far as I know, the problems in my family are not genetic, just horrible coincidences.

downs523

continualdiamond wrote: »

Do the relies have diganosed problems that affected fertility???

Has your partner been told she has a lower chance of having children etc???

Only asking as i am 26 and have PCOS, i will not know if i am affected on my chances of having children until i start trying, but obviously i know full well to expect that it may take longer than i would like. Which is in a way comforting to know, i know that sounds really weird, but id rather know in advance that things could take awhile, rather than get upset and go through tests gallore to find out whats going on.

I got offically diganosed with PCOS when i was 21, but doctors suspect i had it since i was 17 as thats when symptoms started appearing.

Hope thats some help...

my partner doesnt want to ask her mum what issues she had, for some reason i dont know why not...

could you tell me what pcos means please??
we went to the doctors and all they said is they need to know what problems family had then they can do a blood test or something, thing is my partner doesnt want to ask her family of problems.
is there some sort of home test kit?

Paparika

I have a friend who has PCOS and successfully has 2 children.

A question to ask tho, is it the end of the world if she couldn't?

lostinrates

Re PCOS. I was diagnosed by one of the top PCOS specialists who rmeinded me that there is a strong inherited factor to PCOS....and if we inherited it from those who have it THEY managed to have children . His advice was to keep healthy, happy, a good wait and enjoy the pleasure that it might take a few more pleasurable goes to get there

lauranurse

I guess there is a kind of home test she could do which would tell her whether she was ovulating - you can buy these in chemists, they either involve taking your temperature every day and noticing subtle changes or you can get one now which can pick up hormones released when an egg is released from the ovary.

Some women also have very slight cramping when they ovulate, usually about 14 days after the first day of their last period.

But even if she IS ovulating, there could be other reasons why she couldnt conceive. Is there anyway she could write a letter to her family if she wasnt able to ask them to her face?

drowningnotwaving_2

downs, PCOs is polycystic ovarian syndrome - it means a woman has cysts on her ovaries which can interfere with ovulation and hence make it harder to conceive. Many women with PCOs never know they have it and many conceive with no problems but others may need clomid or IVF. Is your partner overweight? Does she have any problems with her periods?

Doctors will be very reluctant to do any tests until you have started trying unless there is a very good reason for it. So many people are waiting for fertility help who are actively trying for a family that they couldn't prioritise a couple who haven't started ttc - after all, you could find that your partner gets pg on her 1st cycle then the NHS would have wasted a lot of money.

As the previous poster says, you need to stay healthy, don't smoke, keep a good weight and a relaxed attitude. If, when you start, things don't happen quickly then seek help and raise your concerns.

Good luck!

Penny_Watcher

downs523 wrote: »

could you tell me what pcos means please??

Google for polycystic ovary syndrome.

milliebear00001

I think you might be off at a bit of a tangent here. Your girlf is worried, but nothing you've said indicates she is likely to have any probs at all. About 1 in 6 couples won't have conceived after a year of trying, but this means 5 out of 6 will! It is actually (for most people) pretty easy to get pregnant and have a baby, and your girlfriend and you are very likely to have a completely positive experience. Putting pressure on yourselves in this way, and worrying about something that is unlikely to be a problem, may actually cause problems! When you are ready, start trying and see what happens, if nothing does after 12 months, go see your GP who will run a gamut of tests on you both. My betting is you won't need to!