Please help me - desperately need to lose *alot* of weight to have more IVF

consultant31

Mutter wrote: »

Drinking a bowl of soup from a packet or eating a bar is not setting a good example of healthy eating to your son.

We dont teach them. Our children learn by example.

Do you walk? As in precious son in the buggy and WALK. Walking not only uses excess calories but releases vital Endomorphins, a stimulant that helps relieve depression and gives a good feeling.

Spot on - a healthy diet is not one where you have minimum calories. At the end of the day you can't live on soups and shakes for ever and getting back to real food could well trigger your comfort eating all over again.

Incidentally, I think it's endorphins which are triggered by exercise - endomorphins are an opiate (having just the opposite effect, lol).

tinkerbell84

Hiya -

I've been on the Idiot Proof Diet since January and I love it.

One of the reasons this way of eating is working for me is because the book makes you address the reasons you overeat/eat the wrong foods etc. So now I know that I don't have to reach for the chocolate after a crappy day at work - it feels better not having it than the short buzz of having it (if you see what i mean).

Give the book a read It helps to sort out your head before you get into the weightloss programme

Mutter_2

consultant31 wrote: »

Spot on - a healthy diet is not one where you have minimum calories. At the end of the day you can't live on soups and shakes for ever and getting back to real food could well trigger your comfort eating all over again.

Incidentally, I think it's endorphins which are triggered by exercise - endomorphins are an opiate (having just the opposite effect, lol).

Thanks consultant31, have been back to edit.
Had you not stepped in with the correction, drowningnotwaving, might have felt very tired indeed.:D

tsstss7

I read the idiot proof diet - thought it was ace and then realised that I just couldn't do it ....I could eat that way for a few weeks or a few months even but I would never stick to it for ever....

I've got baby weight too and imoh now is not a good time for you to be worrying about dieting ..baby's are very hard work and when you are regularly losing sleep you will really notice it if you try and diet too much.

I breast fed which is supposed to help you lose weight but did the opposite to me LOL.

My boy is now a year old and I've just started to lose weight naturally as we are now more active together (you spend lots of time feeding and not seeming to do much when they are very little don't you) - I've also stopped most snacking - which was my downfall really as it's so easy to eat the calorie equivalent of another 1 or two meals a day just by having a few high cal snacks.

If I was you I would try to take baby steps and healthy up your life, activity and food wise, bit by bit at least while your baby is in the demanding stage eg if your usual drink every day is squash or juice and you find water too austere try to switch to herbal tea (which is nice when you get used to it my fav is grapefruit) or watered down juice (I like mine with fizzy water).

As another poster mentioned walks with the baby are great exercise and exposure to natural light during the day will help the baby sleep better at night too.

Another thing that I realised about my diet and am trying to change (although not dieting as such) was that I normally eat and am drawn to loads of carbs - easpecially when I am tired...in fact I really piled on the weight when pregnant (both times) because of this. Mostly I think because I am a veggie and carbs are just easier to get in you when you are tired and in a hurry (eg meals were often pasta/potato based with a bit of veg but often no proteins other than a bit of fat/cheese/butter). I'm now making a conscious effort to eat more proteins such as fish and pulses and have correspondingly found that I'm just not eating as many carbs as I feel more full because I'm balancing my meals better...that may or may not be a problem for you but as a comfort eater if you often graze perhaps snacks are more often than not carb based?

BTW I'm not advocating going carb free here - it works I know but it's a lifetime commitment I just couldn't make.....;0)

tinkerbell84

tsstss7 wrote: »

I read the idiot proof diet - thought it was ace and then realised that I just couldn't do it ....I could eat that way for a few weeks or a few months even but I would never stick to it for ever....

You're not meant to. But you don't go back to eating toast and cereal for breakfast, then sandwiches for lunch and pasta for dinner 7 days a week (like I did before IPD).

I eat an amazing range of foods now despite being veggie and almost carb free!

tsstss7 wrote: »

BTW I'm not advocating going carb free here - it works I know but it's a lifetime commitment I just couldn't make.....;0)

I'm convinced I won't ever eat more than 100g of carbs a day again (I'm on about 20g a day at the moment). Once you have the mindset you're well on the way

cupid_s

consultant31 wrote: »

Spot on - a healthy diet is not one where you have minimum calories. At the end of the day you can't live on soups and shakes for ever and getting back to real food could well trigger your comfort eating all over again.

Incidentally, I think it's endorphins which are triggered by exercise - endomorphins are an opiate (having just the opposite effect, lol).

Actually endorphins and endomorphins are both endogenous opioid peptides and they act on the same opioid receptors so should have similar biological effects. It is endorphins that are released during exercise though.

I completely agree with the first bit though, dieting non stop is not heathly and you can't keep it up forever. Maybe an entire change in lifestyle is needed - more exercise and not necessarily less food but more healthy food.

firesidemaid

just thought i'd try and help with my tuppence-worth!

i have always loved my food/drink (i am a similar age) and have never been able to lose weight until recently - i had decided enough was enough and for me i wanted to wear the clothes i liked rather than what i HAD to wear, plus there was also a health issue too.

i have just changed my mindset and gained willpower where i have never had it before, which has in turn given me some control. i am also reducing portion size (we just do not need it) and eating really slowly - it is amazing how little we actually need. i also like variety. i have lost a stone in a short space of time.

it's about eating to sustain or if i feel hungry, rather than eating for comfort etc. for example, i used to eat (and would still like to:rolleyes:) 3 weetabix for b/fast plus a couple of biscuits - now i have just one weetabix. it is much easier to control and i am not hungry before lunch. i find having an early lunch and early dinner help too. if i start to waver over the biscuits i just think 'is that biscuit really worth it?' and the answer is no!

again, lunch is a couple of ryvita with philly plus a yoghurt. or o/wise i will have half a sandwich and half a low-fat pack of crisps. make everything as yummy but as low-fat/cal as possible. just because sandwiches are supposed to come with 2 slices of bread and crisps are 30g packs, it does not mean we have to eat it all. by halving everything it means you can have a rich tea later.

i literally halve every thing/treat and eat everything slowly/nibble it. if it takes ages to eat i think that i have eaten lots! so i break my rich tea in 2 and pretend that i have 2 biscuits to eat.

but for tea i eat with my partner, i just have less and of the healthy but yummy variety - use herbs/spices etc not fats. i also have to have some choc after my meal. again i control this with half choc bar portions ie. half a twirl, one finger - i break it in half and nibble slowly with my cup of tea.

by having half of everything, if you do have a bad day and eat 2 halves at least you have only eaten one choc bar and not two!

when i go out i really like beer etc but it is full of cals, so i have started drinking spirits and diet mixers - i hate artificial sweeteners but i feel it is a necessary evil so that i can enjoy myself without the cals.

on top of this i walk as much and move as much as possible - just think every little extra move etc you do is losing you weight! walk up and down the stairs 10 or 20 times - it's free, quick and inside.

make your own yummy soups for lunches too - entirely out of veg and so good for you. also, the baby can have pureed veg when he starts eating.

i do feel for you, but you need to eat proper healthy food and address the reasons/trigger why you comfort eat. be happy with yourself and become strong by having the power to change your own weight/life.