Please help me - desperately need to lose *alot* of weight to have more IVF

LillyJ

Try weightlossresources.com, it is sooo good. I use it for working out if I have eaten enough calories in the day rather than to lose weight, but a girl at work used it to lose weight and it really worked.
You can sign up for a day free trial - then sign up again the next day!
You just type in the food that you eat (it has every food for sale in the UK, own brands, branded, restaurant food etc) and it works out calories, fat content etc.
You can really see how some foods are "costly" and other foods aren't so bad. When you can see it in numbers on the screen it makes you see that that digestive at supper time is a bad idea. You can also put in excercise cals - great for me as I do lots of excercise and therefore can eat lots of food!

Might as well try it, it is quite elightening when you see how much you have eaten, and there is no calculating involved, it does it for you. It also counts portions of fruit and veg for you.

And the trial is really free - no credit card details needed.

You put in your weight, height etc and it works out how many cals you need per day to lose weight, stay the same etc.

I am fairly slim but put on weight VERY easily, and I am pretty tall so can look "big" if I'm not careful. So for me I have to be really careful and only eat what it says. If I eat too much then I put on weight. It isn't a lot of calories, but then that is what your body needs and what you have to do to lose weight (as you know having lost it before).

Is there a chance that you could conceive naturally? Because being a healthy BMI is often the trigger the body needs to conceive on it's own.

Good luck!

PS having "fun" in the bedroom is great exercise!

belfastgirl23

LillyJ wrote: »

Try weightlossresources.com, it is sooo good. I use it for working out if I have eaten enough calories in the day rather than to lose weight, but a girl at work used it to lose weight and it really worked.
You can sign up for a day free trial - then sign up again the next day!
You just type in the food that you eat (it has every food for sale in the UK, own brands, branded, restaurant food etc) and it works out calories, fat content etc.
You can really see how some foods are "costly" and other foods aren't so bad. When you can see it in numbers on the screen it makes you see that that digestive at supper time is a bad idea. You can also put in excercise cals - great for me as I do lots of excercise and therefore can eat lots of food!

Might as well try it, it is quite elightening when you see how much you have eaten, and there is no calculating involved, it does it for you. It also counts portions of fruit and veg for you.

And the trial is really free - no credit card details needed.

You put in your weight, height etc and it works out how many cals you need per day to lose weight, stay the same etc.

I am fairly slim but put on weight VERY easily, and I am pretty tall so can look "big" if I'm not careful. So for me I have to be really careful and only eat what it says. If I eat too much then I put on weight. It isn't a lot of calories, but then that is what your body needs and what you have to do to lose weight (as you know having lost it before).

Is there a chance that you could conceive naturally? Because being a healthy BMI is often the trigger the body needs to conceive on it's own.

Good luck!

PS having "fun" in the bedroom is great exercise!

I've used WLR too and I did lose a lot of weight with it. Then I stopped using it - my bad

It does really help you to understand the relationship between what you eat and what exercise you do...why not sign up for a 3 day trial?

LillyJ

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

I've used WLR too and I did lose a lot of weight with it. Then I stopped using it - my bad

It does really help you to understand the relationship between what you eat and what exercise you do...why not sign up for a 3 day trial?

Sadly they have cut it down to a 24 hr trial now!

THere is also a great forum on there, you can post when you feel like eatin rubbish and someone will post quickly encouraging you not to!

teaspoon1

I was hoping you could help me, you all seem to be very knowledgeable.

I am considering hypnotherapy for weight loss, the therapist recommended 2 sessions at £50 each and said that they had a full money back guarantee if it didn't work.

Does anyone know anything about this?

I am also considering buying the Allen Carr 'Easyweigh to Lose Weight' book - has anyone read it and did it help?

Thank you.

belfastgirl23

I've read Allen Carr and he does make some good points I think but I don't think it had the effect on me that the smoking book did on smokers. You can see he's just following a formula in it.

To be honest if you can afford it I would go for the hypnotherapy. I've had it for fear of flying and while the fear is still there a little, it is much much better than it was. What harm can it do?

Would be really interested to hear how you got on if you do go by the way!

grey_lady

I've tried Alan Carr, Marissa Peer, Paul Mckenna, hypnotherapy and none of them worked for me for more than a week so back at weightwatchers but finding it much harder to stick to this time round, but at least you can eat what you like with WW as long as you dont eat to much of it, dont think i could last more than a day or two on shakes.

WW is working for me just much slower than i'd like - about a pound a week.

There's a book called the Beck Diet Solution, which i'm using
its not a diet plan though its a workbook of cognative behavioural techniques
to train your brain to stick to whatever diet your on, takes about 5 minutes a day for 6 weeks, its got some good reviews on Amazon - has anyone else tried it?

Ted_Hutchinson

You may be interested in my posts here and here if you want more detailed examples of the research that supports those ideas then do ask.

Similarly the science to support a low carbohydrate way of eating is considerable and growing rapidly. I personally found it extremely easy to follow this plan there are others who find they need the induction period suggested in the Atkins diet but it certainly wasn't needed for me. The main advantage I found was it cut my cravings for food almost straight away and once I wasn't craving for my next meal as soon as I finished my current meal the temptation to snack or booze was gone and therefore it was as easy as turning off a switch. I just don't eat those foods that disrupt blood glucose levels or raise insulin. The fat came off at 2.25lbs a week until I reached my target weight and I returned to having a regular glass or 2 of wine.

The only times I've cheated badly and put on more than a couple of lbs I've skipped a breakfast /lunch on a short Intermittent fast and that has dropped the extra LB off straight away. So not only has eating this way allowed me to lose weight quickly without having to exercise but it's also kept the weight off.

I do eat plenty so am never hungry. so never need to snack between meals.

I seem to have found this way of eating more successful than some others who have tried. That maybe because I have corrected my Vitamin d status with 5000iu/daily/D3 (I've recently raised this to 7000iu/daily) 1.5g of omega 3 daily (that's 3 concentrated omega 3 capsules daily or 6 normal ones) and I take 600mg daily magnesium, I also drink Green tea as my main beverage.
All those have some impact on insulin resistance and it's raised Insulin that drives fat accumulation.

So to cut insulin you need to
1)Avoid grains (especially wheat and its derivatives), keep carbohydrate intake low for weight loss.
2)Avoid all sugar in any form (look for ose on the ends of words in the ingredients list ie fructose) except occasional fruit.
3)Exercise. ( I know I've posted a lot about not NEEDING exercise for weight loss but extra exercise is good for those who don't HAVE to avoid it)
4)Intermittent fasting. A 24-hour fast once a week is a good way to start.

Mutter_2

Hi drowningnotwaving, congratulations on the birth of your son.
Have you discussed losing weight so soon (10 weeks!) with your GP or Health visitor?
I have no medical knowledge but your body has been through a lot and hormones are probably still all over the place. Also, has your specialist
said it's ok to start IVF as soon as next Spring?
Lighter Life seems to work as total abstinence does to a drinker, or smoker. Perfectly until one lights a single cigarette, has one drink or in the case of food tastes the real stuff again.
A young person spent a weekend staying with me recently, she was on LL. I was dreading serving good food in front of her, but she didn't care. She stuck to the bowl of Veg soup and a glass of water.
Quite what will happen though, when she tastes "real food" again", I've no idea.
As for Hypnotherapy? Why not, as it seems you have an underlying issue with comfort eating.
Research a good one though, make sure they are a member of a recognised body and question them first on the phone. How long have you been practising, what is your success rate, do you offer any guarantee?
Some more thoughts on LL. I see Anthony Worral-Thompson has jumped aboard the LL wagon. He who "wrote" and sold a book on Low HG and lost loads of weight. Tart I say, like so many celebrities, go where the money is and Hell to principles.
Daily Mail carried an article on LL here,http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1085217/Dying-The-diet-craze-sweeping-Britain-allows-just-500-calories-day.html
Yes I know they love to scare us, it sells more copies, however the low calorie versus teeth health would scare me.

Oh, just a thought. How are your muscles? The more muscle, the leaner you will be. My OH started indoor rowing three times a week,4 months ago, he is only half a stone lighter, but his body is transformed. http://www.concept2.co.uk/rower/?gclid=COrp_c_39JYCFQXtlAod6GkWXw
We purchased ours when they did an interest free payment installment. Looks like that's finished.
I never intended posting so much, but good luck. I'm off to my "Body by Jake" machine and then the rower. I have 3 dress sizes to lose.

Mutter_2

Just re-read the OP.
It's admirable that your husband loves you no matter what. However, this from your OP.

"and he also wants us to be good role models for our little boy so he's going to do all he can to help me."

Drinking a bowl of soup from a packet or eating a bar is not setting a good example of healthy eating to your son.

One thing that I discovered on parenting.

We dont teach them. Our children learn by example.

For instance, I never taught my daughter to say please or thankyou and nor did I ever have to prompt her to say the same.

She grew up saying those words in context, as I'd always used them with her.

A last word DNW, promise I'll go.

Do you walk? As in precious son in the buggy and WALK. Walking not only uses excess calories but releases vital Endorphins, a stimulant that helps relieve depression and gives a good feeling.

Idiophreak

drowningnotwaving wrote: »

every diet I started I failed miserably at as

I know this probably sounds somewhat patronising, is contrary to most advice on this thread etc, but I'm surprised nobody else has said this yet....the whole idea of "dieting" is probably as much the problem as the "comfort eating" is. Just in the other extreme. Yoyoing is not the way forward.

There's no substitute for proper healthy diet and plenty of exercise - a more sensible long term solution (which I'm currently working at).

As someone else said, start by removing the temptation. Get everything bad out of the house - and get yourself out of the house, too...but away from food...if you're busy, your mind won't wander to food so much...leading neatly onto:

More exercise - use your OH's support to allow you to get out of the house to exercise as much as possible. Either join a gym or start running/walking/cycling/swimming/dancing/sports - anything that gets your heartrate up a bit for a min of 40 minutes at a time. Importantly, find a kind of exercise that you enjoy...you'll keep doing it more.

There are plenty of threads on here you can pop into for support and advice to keep your motivation up.

Nutrition wise...I started with 3 meals a day, cutting out everything else but the odd bit of fruit here and there. I try and make the meals healthy, but don't worry about it too much. I have the odd curry/!!!!!!/meal out...If I start eating stuff I don't enjoy all the time, I won't sustain it...Sustainability long term is more important than short term gains. I try and control portion size, but again - I don't worry too much. If I fill up on, say, veg, it's a lot better than being hungry again and eating the same weight of chocolate/cake. I'm being sure to drink enough water - makes me feel full more of the time. Have ditched other drinks, especially fizzy ones...Even switching from beer to scotch is a step in the right direction (in some ways )

Holding to this routine, just being more aware of what I was eating, whilst upping the exercise (probably a total of 3 or 4 hours a week, initially) - I lost something like 2 and a half stone in the same amount of months. Since then, I've felt much happier with my weight, so have relaxed things a little..I have the odd mocha here and there, allow myself a pudding every day (although I don't always have it...)...the occasional beer...and I'm still maintaining my weight / losing slightly - although I now run something like 20 miles / week, as well as playing football once a week, and sneaking in golf / the odd bike ride at weekends...I guess it's an hour a day, on average, my exercise costs me - but I think it's sustainable and a price worth paying for a healthier, thinner, me long term