Can he take things from the house??

mazuk1981

My partner has left me and is threatening to come and take nearly everything out of the house.

The house is in joint names and most things were bought from the proceeds of our previous house, alhough most things were bought in my name with my debit card.

Does anyone know is he allowed to do this.....can I do anything about it??

Thanks

CarolynH

Change the locks?

alwaysonthego_2

CarolynH wrote: »

Change the locks?

She would be breaking the law if she changed the locks because he has right of access to the property.

To the op do you feel threatened if so call the police or women's aid for further guidance.

mazuk1981

he will just kick the door in!!!

mazuk1981

Yeah i do feel threatened...and he is a policeman!!!

he tells me that he has every right to take whatever he likes out of the house even though I can prove its in my name....i don't know if this is actually true or if he just thinks i'll believe him cos he knows the law

alwaysonthego_2

If you can prove you paid for the items then lawfully they are yours.

What concerns me is your safety and Women's aid would be able to advice you appropiately.

lisssa

mazuk1981 wrote: »

Yeah i do feel threatened...and he is a policeman!!!

he tells me that he has every right to take whatever he likes out of the house even though I can prove its in my name....i don't know if this is actually true or if he just thinks i'll believe him cos he knows the law

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then he should know better !!

If he turns up at your house attempting to 'kick the door in' ring 999, tell them your ex partner is trying to kick the door in, you fear for your safety etc etc. They should treat it as urgent, the police have to take a very positive approach to domestic incidents !

In relation to to your belongings, it really is a civil matter and you need to get some advice quick from a solicitor. You can normally get an initial free half hour meeting , make sure you write a list of everything you want to ask , as you are bound to be nervous and wont remember everything.

I would also re-iterate what others have said about contacting organisations such as womans aid, they are fantastic and will provide you with all the information and support you need.

good luck and take care xx

debs66_2

go round the house now and take photos of everything, and get the camera/photos out of the house to somewhere safe (a friend's, family house?). also, any proof of ownership, manuals, receipts etc, get out of the house somewhere else too.

i would not put yourself in any danger from a man who you think may kick a door in, and who thinks his position puts him above the law.

he will not want to jeopardise his career, but red mist can turn many people's natural logic. if he comes round, tell him he is not allowed to take the items but you will talk through a solicitor about dividing things up fairly, if he did buy anything.

if he disregards, don't argue. go outside and phone the police from safety.


btw, you say things were bought in your name with your debit card, but was that account a joint account with joint funds? if you are trying to take jointly paid for furniture/items on a technicality because you did the shopping and your name and card was the one used, then no wonder he's angry. if you PAID for the stuff with your money, that's one thing. if you paid for stuff with his money, or joint money, then you have to consider a fair division of assetts. although you can prove you bought it, if it went to court they would look at the account situation and who put the money in. a solicitor will inform you what you are each due to and how best to negotiate.

please see a solicitor asap.

fawd1

I'd also suggest getting someone in to value the belongings and then you can split them evenly according to their worth. If you need to, contact an insurance company for a quote on contents insurance and get them to do an inventory and valuation, and send it to you in writing. That way, it's all down in black and white and you can go to a solicitor stating how you'd like to split the goods. I would also suggest changing the locks but informing the police first as to your reasons why, so they will know and if he wants to come in, I believe they will send someone round to escort him to protect your safety if you feel threatened.

marcus45

No if he comes around call the police .. and change the locks just in case he comes around when you are out.. mind you if its he clothes, a few books and personnel things you should give them to him.. be a little fair... arrange to have other people in the house at the time you want him to come and collect his things.... or have them arranged and put them in the garage ...good luck

CB1979_2

marcus45 wrote: »

No if he comes around call the police .. and change the locks just in case he comes around when you are out.. mind you if its he clothes, a few books and personnel things you should give them to him.. be a little fair... arrange to have other people in the house at the time you want him to come and collect his things.... or have them arranged and put them in the garage ...good luck

as discussed that's illegal and if he wanted to he could kick the door down as it's HIS property too!