Evicting a lodger

6022tivo

Feel for you...
Has to be the thread of the week. The BBQ and Kyle comments had me chuckling..

Good luck in what you do...

I am in the position to have a tenant, but do not have the balls to do it, in case of, well, your issues..

I am concerned that your solicitor can make a two grand error.. Or in the case of my solicitor when she makes a error, it is called a "oversight"..

msmicawber

Hi - this sounds pretty horrid, and I hope you get it all sorted soon, but please take ceridwen's advice about assertiveness training. True assertiveness isn't rudeness and isn't keeping things reasonable up to the point that you go ballistic, but is about putting your point across clearly and standing up for yourself precisely without resorting to either of those things. Good luck.

paddy's_mum

I think this is disgusting behaviour on the part of the lodger! One wonders why your friend is friendly with him - did your friend know what he was like and didn't warn you? If so, I'd be giving that mate the boot at the same time as the lodger!

Your lodger has a mother close enough to be giving him a cheque for your rent. Tell him he has 48 hours to leave, make sure you are there every minute of that time, and send him back to his mother- there is no reason on earth why you should be having to put up with his obnoxious attitudes, prejudices and slovenliness!

Better luck with the next one. You sound like a decent sort of chap and there are potential lodgers out there who would love to fetch up in a clean, tidy and fair billet.

amcluesent

<northern accent>
It's 08:06am and in the house only the lodger is awake. He's selling all the landlords stuff on eBay to fund his drugs habit.

missile

Lodger is taking the pizz
Solicitor screws you over
Party guest breaks your furniture
and you don't know what to do? You said you were ..... how old?

Get a grip, throw him out, if you can't hire someone who will and sack that cleaner.

Photoshopguru

Well I went and had words.. I repeated what I said before. I have put it plainly.. I've always put it plainly, I've not beaten around the bush - but if someone simply wont do as they are told, what do you do? resort to force? I don't like force.. I'd need him to try and hit me first in order to justify it, and I'd probably have to provoke him to get that reaction.. which again goes against the moral code.

Anyway, I told him exactly what I thought of him.. I must have hit a nerve as he started to cry.. gave me some sob story (again, his business so won't repeat it here). I was pretty harsh.. told him I didn't care, and to ship out. He's going to call his Mother..

As for the broken chair, that genuinely was an accident - the person who broke it fell over. They feel bad about it - and I'm not that bothered by it. What did annoy me was the lodgers reaction to it. As for not knowing what to do - I just needed to find out what I could do to lawfully remove him..

As for the solicitor - it's awkward because she's friends with my Mum.. Buying a house etc is such a daunting task I thought it best to go with people who were recommended to me by people I trust...

Scousebird_2

I have been in a similar situation and it is never easy to say ''get out''-no matter how old you are. I really do sympathise and I think it is discusting that someone can treat you like this.

I would throw his sorry !!! on the street before it gets any worse. I eventually had to change all the locks and dump my lodgers stuff onto the street to be picked up so I think that is the way forward-yes it may be a cowardly way but trust me, it's worth it when you get your home back and you can settle into your home again.

Take my word for it and move forward.

Good luck xx

summermummy

I believe the lodger has much fewer rights than a tenant under and assured shorthold tenancy. As a lodger I believe his rights fall under something called a 'license agreement' which means you are able to get him out much more easily. Check it out on google as I think you need to clarify what a license agreement allows you to do.

flower_72

That's it. It's done. It's never nice to told someone to leave.
Even more so when one is unsure of where one stands as regards to the 'law'.
I bet you're glad, you got it confirmed that a logder can be asked to 'ship out' with hardly any notice.
I'm not sure all lodgers do actually realise how precarious their situation is. I have also seen it on numerous occasions where the lodger behaves as if he was in a house share. Not quite the same dynamics, not quite the same security as regard to the roof above their head.

ceridwen

Hi

On the assertiveness training front - actually that is exactly what those courses are about - "finding the happy medium". Ie not going "nuclear" because you have bottled up your anger for so long on the one hand (so finally acted like a human pressure cooker and exploded) or letting someone walk all over you on the other hand. Its about politely stating whats what - and, if need be, repeating it. There is a technique called "The Broken Record Technique" - which is that if someone is insisting on doing something that is not fair to you - you just keep repeating your one sentence message "I'm not going to, I'm not going to....etc" or whatever. That actually got me out of a very nasty situation.....after I'd repeated myself about 12 times!!! LOL!