£75 for a hen party??

Steel_2

Personally I think it is expensive but then I don't like hen nights anyway. The last hen night I had to go to was when i was a bridesmaid.

That particular wedding I ended up paying 1/2 for my dress, all of my accessories (shoes, costume jewellrey, bag, underwear), over £130 for the hen night, £70 for the hotel on the night of the wedding plus extra for the drinks on the day and £40 on a present.

Now I would never spend over £50 for the hen night and £25 for the wedding gift.

I have turned down an offer to be a bridesmaid since then in no small part due to me finding out the 'hen night' was going to be a £400 long weekend at centerparcs, and refused to have a hen night of my own.

pamelab21

I would make my excuse also. I think its a bit of a cheek these days with things costing so much. My DH went to a stag do recently and because the stag wanted to go to Edinburgh, a bus had to be hired, then it had to be a certain restaurant, then all the expensive bars.....he had to fork out 180.00 :eek:
not money we had to spare but then he was a part of the wedding party so had no choice but to go. Struggling for the rest of the month because of it.

I chose not to have a hen do when we got married as it gets out of hand and some people cannot afford it.....however when you do say to someone you can't afford it you feel like the outcast, somone may offer to pay it for you and you can pay them back (missing the point!) or some will look at the fact you have maybe made another purchase (hair, car, something for the house) and ask you how you can afford that and not the hen do......some of us have different priorities......any sorry to ramble on!

I would say a polite, sorry I can't make it that night, I have sensitive skin/nails and can't have any treatments.....that should be enough for some people.

pamelab21

Dinah93 wrote: »

Expensive wedding things in general are my pet hate. I don't have a lot of money spare at the moment. Have a wedding in September to go to where we are invited to the ceremony, but then not the meal after, but then invited back at 7.30 to the reception (no food there).

I would def not be going to the ceremony....I think anyone would have a cheek to ask you to attend the ceremony, then leave, then come back at night. If you have to go, only go in the evening and tell her you can't get the time off work, or blame your other half.

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k8te

My maid of honour, arranged for 2 beauty therapist to go to her house for my hen night, everyone could decide what they wanted, and if they didnt want anything done, it didnt bother me. I of course wanted loads as i never have anything done like this, so had 45 mins shoulder,neck & back massage, mini manicure ( to match my wonder women outfit ) & pedicure, and my eyebrows waxed. I think it cost me around £35? I didnt expect my mates to pay for it. MOH also did loads of food, chocloate & cocktail fountain, it was yummy and i was very spoilt, before we headed out for the evening.

I went out for a friends hen night, which we had a limo and stripper, hit a few bars then a club, one of her friends come up to me in the club quite drunk and said "have you got the money?" What money i thought to myself, so asked, and she said for the limo & stripper, which i didnt mind paying, but would of been nice to be told before the night, and not when she was drunk and only asked for it when her money had run out :rolleyes:

What i am trying to say, is if you can afford to spend it go for it, but find out what other extras will need paying for the rest of the night, if you are going for a meal aswell, and cant afford both maybe explain to them that £75 is alot of money, and you will meet up with them for the meal,and give them something towards the brides treatment, i honestly wouldnt pay that much for 3 treatments, i couldnt justify spending that much money even as the bride x x

ema_o

MrsTine wrote: »

I'm going to a wedding in Nov where we'll have to cough up well over £100 for a room for the night - I won't be able to drink as pregnant so seriously thinking of saying sorry we'll drive the 100 miles home afterwards thanks... There isn't a hen do but a baby shower so again 100 miles there and again back in one day - then gift for baby shower and another for the wedding... well... Have to say I'm tempted to just send the present to be honest - I'm not even particularly close to the hen/bride and I already spend way too long in the car every week - 200 miles+ extra is NOT filling me with joy...

I would definitely not go to the baby shower - if you're not that close to her it's far too long a journey! I have friends that live that sort of distance but would always stay the night with them to make the journey worthwhile!
I would be tempted to drive back from the wedding too, either that or find a cheaper hotel nearby so you can stay as long as you want and don't have to worry about driving back late.

SandC

Oh gawd, we haven't inherited baby showers from over the pond as well have we?

*Louise*

SandC wrote: »

Oh gawd, we haven't inherited baby showers from over the pond as well have we?

Looks like it

I just wish they had started here before I had my 3 - I would have liked some pampering :rotfl:

SandC

I think all my friends who are going to have babies have finished now, so there's a big 'phew'.

I know that sounds tight but I'm a bit Carrie Bradshaw on these matters. Need some sort of party for myself to make up for all the hen nights, wedding presents, baby presents, christening presents, engagement presents etc. that I have shelled out for but not received myself.

Bah, humbug.

Lemon_Tree

I think £75 is a bit steep. My hen night certainly didn't cost that much and was planned around pay days.
I do remember a few years ago telling a friend i couldn't go away with her group and stay for the weekend but would join them for the day's shopping which i could drive for, she wasn't impressed and didn't understand but she accepted it in the end. Though she didn't really have much choice.
Funnily enough the same friend went very cold when i started saying i couldn't go out lots on evenings, probably because i drove all the time and saved them a small fortune in taxi's and they have to start paying for them