Help just found out my wifes got cancer

belfastgirl23

Just a line first of all to say how sorry I am to hear this. The same thing happened with a close friend of mine. he immediately left work to spend whatever time remained with his wife (though was lucky he could afford it) and in fact in the end she died a year after diagnosis although initally they were told to expect three months. He cared for her a lot of this time with help from professionals. And he felt that there were many very precious moments they shared during this. So first of all think about how you can maximise time together. he also said they made a point of finding things to be grateful for every day which helped them a lot.

On a practical note, Cancer Bacup are good for information http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Home and macmillan nurses are fantastic for practical support
www.macmillan.org.uk/Documents/Support_Material/About_us/Factsheets/Macmillan%20nurses.pdf

macmillan also offer a specialist financial service for people with cancer and their carers http://www.macmillan.org.uk/Get_Support/Ways_we_can_help/Ways_we_can_help.aspx#money

Don't be afraid to grieve with your wife too, you will probably both go through different stages of being the 'strong' one.

And be sure to look after yourself and your own health too.

tattoed_bum

hi, have a word with your gp he may be able to help you ,so that you can help your wife .

my hubby had a brain tumor 2 yrs ago ,i was in a terible state about it ,
it will be surprising how strong you will become when you have to be .

love to you and your wife

SPANIEL36

hi john, i saw your thread and couldn't read and run with out saying at least something.

My thoughts are with you and your wife
take care BOTH of you xxx

i just wanted to add that the McMillan people are very good both in talking to and getting help for various of issues. Try and get in contact with your local mcmillan care team, they do home visits

shellsuit

John, I'm so sorry

Don't know what to say, but couldn't just read and not post something xxxx

Pennylane

John - I can't read and run either! I am so sorry to hear about your wife.I have a very good friend who has exactly the same as your wife and I am so sad about her right now. My heart aches for you, it really does. I hate the flipping word cancer because both my parents had it, both my in-laws, my s-i-l, my niece and me.

John - some people want to talk to people (like Marie Curie, Macmillan etc) and some don't, but it doesn't hurt to try and see how you both go. I wish I could be more helpful but I think it's just whatever gets YOU through. Give your wife a big hug from me.

I will light a candle for you both.

Tulip

John,

sorry to hear the news about your wife,be strong

sending you both a big hug,

Katie xxx

sheilavw

So sorry to hear about your Wife John.............Thoughts and prayers with you and your family x

jeannieblue

Bless you John and bless your wife.

Get as much support as you can - re previous posters, I can't offer you advice or constructive help. But I send you both a whole lot of love xxx

Elmostreet

John I am so sorry-my thoughts are with you and your wife.x

MrsE_2

The survival rates for cancer are getting better & better all the time John, so don't think the battle is over.

You can fight it together.

Get EVERY bit of help & support you can.

Take care of you & your Mrs

XXXX