Help just found out my wifes got cancer

johnroberts07

We have only been married 2 months (been together 3 years). I cant stand to lose her, I dont know what to do. I suffer from depression, and I am Bi-polar. Everyone says I have been better since we have been together. I dont think I can live without her. Debts seem unimportant now faced with this

princess_loki

i am so sorry to hear your news. nothing like this has ever happened to me so i don't really know what to say.

did you only find out just now? have you spoken to your wife or any other family members?

i know that there are many on these boards who will offer you help - i guess that there are probably support groups out there too.

a friend of mines mum was diagnosed with breast cancer and they operated within the month - i know they were impressed with the treatment they received from their local hospital.

my thoughts are with you

cheekeemonkey

John

I am so sorry to hear your news.

We have had our (un)fair share of cancer in our family and my best friends wife is going through treatment as we speak

Words mean little at times like this but what I will say is that it is totally natural to think your world is coming to an end but cancer is no longer the evil that it once was - it CAN and DOES get cured (I can vouch for that!) and people go on to live normal lives.

What it does make you realise is that life is very precious and yet it the one thing we take for granted the most.

what ever you do, do not face this alone - your wife needs you but you also need someone to talk to - beit a friend or a counsellor - make that call - they are amazing people

My thoughts are with you and your wife

ceebeeby

Hi John,

**Hugs** to you and your Mrs.

C is not a death sentence. It's a challenge! Presume you're wife's going back tomorrow to speak to Nurse Specialist / Consultant about treatment options.
This will also be an opportunity to talk about support both of you might need, you need to be open about this.
Your wife needs you and you need your wife - this is your challenge together.

Keep us updated and again, more hugs

xx

johnroberts07

She had a Biopsy and MRI Scan they said its too advanced (Bowel cancer) and she will have about 6 months with chemopherapy treatment, Thanks for your thoughts, I just lost my sister 3 years ago with liver cancer as well, she was 43. I am trying to be brave for my wife, but I keep breaking down and shes comforting me. I promised her i would try and save up to take her on holiday to America, (shes always wanted to go) thats not going to happen now is it.

ailuro2

But your wife has found something far more precious than a trip to the U.S.

She found out what "us" was, being married to someone who loves her means more than any holiday trip would.

I don't know what else to say, it is breathtaking how cruel this rollercoaster we call life can be.

Mrs_P_Pincher

Thoughts and prayers are with you John.

Mrs P P

feelinggood_2

I'm sorry for your sad news John.

I just wanted to mention the Depression Support Thread in the Health section of MSE. We are a lovely bunch of supportive people, and if you ever need to talk to someone, the thread is always there.

Thinking of you x

Oldernotwiser

Sorry to hear your news. I was diagnosed with breast cancer 6 months after getting married so I do understand how you both feel.That was 20 years ago now.

Do you mean that the chemotherapy treatment is going to take 6 months or do you mean something else?

Do your best; she needs you now.

Yorkshire-Lady_3

I'm so sorry to hear this John,

Y-L x

Sazbo

John I remember you posting from a while back. My thoughts and prayers are with you. As has been said already, your wife needs your support, but you need support too. Take care both of you.

Sazzy x