Desperate Housewife and New Mum

Merlot

Your son is absolutely beautiful, you are making me broody :eek: .

I had my son almost 10 years ago and he didn't sleep at all during the day and it was one of the most stressful times in my life considering I had an 18 month old to look after as well.

s*d the housework, the time passes by so quickly and no sooner you will be turning around looking at your child and they are off to high school (just like mine in September), Make the most of it.

My top tip, make a huge pan of soup, like curried carrot or potato and corguette, and if you can be bothered HM rolls in a bread maker, it takes 5 mins to prepare the soup and shove the ingredients in the BM and for the other 5 mins your son is sleeping during the day sit down with a coffee and look at him sleeping peacefully.

Merlot.x.

Sarahsaver

Dr Karg's organic crackers (?) they must be full of nutrition cos they are full of seeds - essential fatty acids - and have cheese in them. They are a bit like flooring tiles but you get used to them, if you are a nibbler it is better to nibble something with more nutritional value. They go well with soup, houmous or veggie pate. Hang on in there, you will probably be advising ME in a few weeks LOL.
BUT my midwife told me when I had DD that the first baby is the one you practise on:eek: I am awaiting nio.4 so hopefully i will have remembered something :rotfl:

Sarahsaver

I looked through my babypics on Monday and I had sevral 'sleeping' pictures. good for personal brainwashing

liney

The Baby whisperer book is brilliant. She deals with colicky babies in that too. If you get your baby ina routine the rest of your problems will fall into place. I used Infacol with my son at each feed until he was about 6 months - i think you can use it from birth.

Quick easy meals - Jacket pots and toppings. Do a batch in the oven and they will keep in the fridge ready for you to reheat them.

Mixed salad (undressed) ready in the fridge to pop on plate with some cheese or cold meat sliced.

Cook your casseroles overnight in the slow cooker. You can prepare them in the evenings when baby has gone to bed if you really need to.

Pasta with peso and pine nuts, or cream cheese and ham stirred in. Nearly no cooking!

Do a roast yourself on a Sunday even though you go to MIL's then you can use it for DH lunches, salads, or just cook some veg, until Wednesday.

Eggs are filling and a good source of protein - scrambled/poached on toast.

I would make a big batch of 'something like bolagnaise' then ask my MIL if i could store some in her freezer when we went up on Sunday. She might take pity on you and offer some help/loan of freezer.

culpepper

forgot to say(I expect you know anyway) dont have anything with caffeine if you can help it because you are breast feeding and it passes into the milk .

Nicki

I was thinking about you as I wandered round the supermarket yesterday for some reason! On the nights that you are able to have an evening meal, could you maybe cook enough for 3, and plate up the extra portion for your lunch the next day? I know you don't have a freezer but does your fridge have an ice compartment? If so, could you make some sandwiches up when you have a spare moment and stick them in the ice box (they shouldn't take up a lot of room). Then you could pop them frozen into a sandwich toaster or under the grill for a quick lunch. At a pinch you could maybe even serve them up for tea with a pre-washed supermarket salad. If no ice box, they'd probably keep for a couple of days in the fridge anyway, as it doesn't matter so much if the bread is a little stale if you're toasting them. In an emergency, some cans of soup or baked beans in the cupboard might be a good stand by.

Your baby is gorgeous by the way. If it wasn't for the fact that your OP puts me off, that pic would prompt me into having no 3!

Sarahsaver

culpepper wrote: »

forgot to say(I expect you know anyway) dont have anything with caffeine if you can help it because you are breast feeding and it passes into the milk .

The annabel Karmel site says only one percent of the caffeine passes through to the milk:D
My mum was told not to eat oranges, cabbage and vinegar, but apparently guinness was ok, in the good old 1970's :eek:

gracesmummy

Your son is gorgeous!

You are doing really well by the sounds of it so don't be too hard on yourself. I believe we all have moments where we cry, I certainly do (especially so in the early days when she was feeding so much). Like Liney, I found Infacol very good, didn't stop the colic completely but definitely helped. It will pass.

Like you, I buy loads of baby stuff on ebay - you can get some great bargains and you don't even have to leave the house - moneysaving and timesaving! I bought a load of nursing tops too.

I'm extremely impressed you managed to make flapjacks! They look yummy!

maypole

Katgoddess wrote: »

Haven't managed much the past couple of days. Have kept up with washing and general tidying which is better than nothing. Brought some more sleepsuits off ebay to help me keep up with the washing. Need to buy some more bibs now.

I tried a microwave flapjack recipe. Was really easy to do and so impressed I took a picture.



Luckily I took the picture before I dished it up because I forgot to grease the plate and it all fell apart. :rotfl:Didn't taste quite right though. Seemed to be lacking something. Don't think it was sweet enough. I'll have to play around with the recipe. This is the one I used if anyone can think of anything?

OH has taken baby to his mums for a couple of hours so I can have a break. He was having a grumpy evening and by the time OH had come home I'd had enough and was in tears. Lack of sleep turns me into a demented woman. :eek:

Hopefully going to Bluewater tomorrow if I can be organised enough to drive OH to and from work so I can have the car. Have loads of vouchers to spend but I can't think of anything that I really need (other than freezer :rolleyes:) Will definitely treat myself to an M&S sandwich and a decaf coffee.

Here is a picture of my little one in case anyone is interested. He sleeps so little I take a picture every time. :rotfl:Looking at this photo (and the one on my avatar when he is awake and smiling) gets me through the bad times when all he does is scream or I have no clean clothes left because he's thrown up on them all. That is my top tip for every new mum.



Maybe I'll make the chilli on Friday?

Oh my god! what a beauty, cherish him colic and all. My grandson had colic and it is so distressing for the parents to hear the baby cry in pain, but just comfort him, he is gorgeous,ooh I could just pick him up and cuddle him.

Also, say to hell with the housework, spending as much time with your baby is what is important.

I have become a perfect mother since I became a Granny!!!!!!!!!!!!

Aril

I wonder if a lavender room spray might help sooth him - you can get ones you spray in the bedroom I believe. I used lavender when my son wouldn't settle. Have you got anything that changes colour eg lava lamp that will give him something to watch? I know when they're very young they can't focus at a distance. My son started off busy and is still so 10years on. I found putting him under the baby gym at 3 weeks he could already reach up and bash the bits. It's surprising what they can do at such a young age. With regards to cooking- pasta and pesto? stick some sausages in the oven? baked potatoes with baked beans and cheese? The one tip that helped me was my friend suggested loading up the washing machine the night before so that I could run it first thing. It was an absolute godsend. The first few weeks are very hard [I had PND so didn't cope very well] and it is difficult if like me you have ridiculously high expectations of what you should be able to achieve. I remember my Mum saying that a newborn is a bit like having a pet...it helped me to think along those lines some days when all he did was wail to remind myself that he wasn't doing it deliberately but it was the only way he could let me know that something was wrong. It will get better but just be kind to yourself and when you do achieve something like your flapjacks give yourself a big pat on the back.
Regards
Aril