Can you help me ? want to check see if my partner is telling porky's :)

elisebutt65

redpoison wrote: »

not sure if i believe him? i can not talk about this to him again as he has said its none of my business? !!!!!! ? and its his house 100%, and he even said i sound like i am gold digging? !!!!!! we argued obviously.. nothing else been said..

See right there - I would be running for the hills!!! Of course it's your business - You're going to be living there on a daily basis bringing up the family.

Oldernotwiser

I think that the most worrying thing about this is the fact that your partner has said to you that the question of the house finance is none of your business and that you're a gold digger! This doesn't sound to me like a basis for a relationship and I think that you should think carefully about your family's future with this man.

redpoison

How do i find the registy? do i pay to get it? (worth it) when i know the truth then i will decide

neverdespairgirl

redpoison wrote: »

I know i would have right over his home,

no, you wouldn't necessarily have any rights at all.

Superheavy

With a MIL like the one you're describing there, are you sure you want to move closer to her, or is that the best place for your OH to live cause of work etc?

Sounds like an absolute nightmare to me, and added to that the argument, maybe take a little more time before leaving the council house to somewhere unstable.

Incisor

redpoison wrote: »

How do i find the registy? do i pay to get it? (worth it) when i know the truth then i will decide

As I suggested, that will result in you knowing the facts.

But once you know the facts:

• If there is an issue over ownership, then you should get yourself out of the situation
• If there is no issue over ownership, you have now created a large trust issue

Save yourself the effort and the fees. If this is the only way you can get to the truth, then logically the relationship is dead in the water!

lotto-dreamer

redpoison wrote: »

How do i find the registy? do i pay to get it? (worth it) when i know the truth then i will decide

http://www.landregisteronline.gov.uk/

It will cost you £3 for a copy of the Register and it looks like you can now download it straight away or view it online.

There are 3 Parts to the Register - which very simply put are as follows

A) Description of the property (and any rights and reservations etc)

Who owns it and how they own it (either jointly - if 2 or more owners - which means if one dies it automatically reverts to the survivor - or with a restriction that it cannot be sold without consent of all owners names on register)

C) This reveals any mortgages (and sometimes restrictive covenants which is to do with how the property is used)

wymondham

I'd keep your house if possible as a plan B as if these issues are at the start of your relationship, then you're probably always going to need a solid plan B.

As others have said, you need to discuss these issues with him directly, explaining your fears. If you then do not trust the answers, then that is another issue between yuo and him...

Good luck, I hope things work out.

Rabiddog_2

Get a grip girl , your the clueless one. Run a mile.Get married or get split.

redpoison

Thankyou for all the info guys, i am just a very inscure person, not just down to this relationship (past too), and i hate fibber's. Need to check for my own reasurance.

he did say to me though, when i start work i can help with the mortgage, by that i think he means put me on the deed's ? like i said, we split i dont want nothing, only maintanence

wil check tommorrow with that website, it's unavailable today.

i just don't want to move in like a fool and to be told she does have claim over it! (the mother), i can not stand her! but feel sorry for oh as he feel's he in the middle, as they helped him alot! but now i am goign to be there their help aroudn the hosue is not needed! dont think she will like that though. Just his sister telling me one thing he telling me another!