Single and in debt.

marleyboy

m1978 wrote: »

I think the most disappointing situation im in at the moment is, not wanting to settle down because of the worry of not being able to afford a relationship. Now i know using the affording a relationship sounds silly, but you have to do something in life together eh..holidays etc etc.. but know at this time i cant afford so am staying single til i can afford.

The idea of doing things together, is supposed to be because its what you both would want. I can afford to stay single, I dont have any debts to worry about. But I dont want to. Ive been single for just over a year, Im comfertable, but Im certainly not happy, im lonely, and the longer im single the more reclusive I will become, to be honest, spending the rest of my life living this way scares me, I dont want to die old, and be forgotten, or worse nobody even aware that im rotting away in some tower block.

Single blokes, particularly me, dont look at a partner with a view of wether or not they or I can afford a holiday. I could be just as happy spending a day walking hand in hand in a park, as I would going away on a holiday. Its not about what one or the other can or cannot afford, its the feeling of being happy together, regardless of the pitfalls of life, couples go fru thick n thin together, because they know at the end of it, theyre happy just being in each others hearts (love and happiness need not cost a thing).

bunzee

Marleyboy, that post is brilliant, I think it's really good to get a male perspective on the whole thing. I don't understand men at all, I need instructions for them lol

m1978

whilst agreeing with 99% of your post, im looking past the affording the holiday bit..was thinking more down the line of a house together etc...all in all though top post

Ossireo

Clearly we need to find some kind of way to clone Marleyboy so we can all have one, who has the test tubes???;)

PrincessPeach_2

m1978 wrote: »

It does become difficult I have to be honest, i spend most of my time worrying that my father has enough £££ each month...we both earn over £23k a year...im in the police and am hoping for a move to london in the next 6 months...salary up to 31k with loads of OT available...think that my life will definately start then....just wish id not had to wait til 30 to start it you know.

I wish i had the salary i'm on now a couple of years earlier - it would have made such a difference to my debt.

PrincessPeach_2

Ossireo wrote: »

Clearly we need to find some kind of way to clone Marleyboy so we can all have one, who has the test tubes???;)

ha ha - we'll have to find a way to make them age too.

rugbymum

Hi guys, I'm back after an unbelievably lazy day. I hope noone got sunburned today. I saw the worst case I've seen for ages today. Young girl (well bout 19), little vest top & short shorts, as pink as a lobster. OUCH!

rugbymum

Ossireo wrote: »

Clearly we need to find some kind of way to clone Marleyboy so we can all have one, who has the test tubes???;)

I'm with you on this one Ossireo.
As well as test tubes won't we need some chemicals and suff?
Any of you teachers work in the science department?:rotfl:

marleyboy

Ossireo wrote: »

Clearly we need to find some kind of way to clone Marleyboy so we can all have one, who has the test tubes???;)

The idea of hundreds of Rik Clones is scary for me although it would prove useful should I want a day off work.

I can think of a way that doesnt involve a test tube Id have to be honest to myself tho and say I dont think I have the energy for mass production

.................Oh what the heck....Form an orderly que ladies, no pushing in at the back, and one at a time please lol

marleyboy

marleyboy wrote: »

The idea of hundreds of Rik Clones is scary for me although it would prove useful should I want a day off work.

I can think of a way that doesnt involve a test tube Id have to be honest to myself tho and say I dont think I have the energy for mass production

.................Oh what the heck....Form an orderly que ladies, no pushing in at the back, and one at a time please lol

Oh I didnt think about the CSA costs involved in this ....welll I WAS debt free