I am SO stupid!!!!

notenoughcash

I know this probably isn't the best place to post this but I've had so much support from DFW I decided to put it here any way.

I've done something really silly today and looked at a photograph I know I shouldn't have looked at and I really didn't want to look at it but I just couldn't help it.

It's of my ex, we've been split for 13 months for very good reasons, I haven't spoken to or seen him for 11 months, I don't want him back, I'd be lying if I said I didn't miss him, but I thought I was doing ok. I got to 1 year and passed it no problem and now I feel like a right idiot cos I can't stop crying over one stupid rubbish photo of him! I'm so much better and stronger than this. How frustrating!!!!

Fortheloveofmoney

Aw hun it's only natural to feel upset. Just have a good cry and a bar of choccy. Tomorrow is a whole new day

marksandsparksgal

No you're not stupid at all, you're human! And it's ok to miss someone, if you were together for that long it's obviously odd to be without someone. I know it took me well over a year to get over my ex (we were together nearly 2 years and I honestly thought he was marriage material lol).

You're only human, go make yourself a nice cuppa, hot chocolate or whatever and have a good cry and I'm sure you'll feel much better afterward.

*hugs*

CherylOB

You're not stupid, I miss my ex although deep down I know he's not right for me.. its hard.. as the others say, have a good cry - always helps.. maybe arrange a night out/in with some friends, these things always seem worse when you're on your own.. x

notenoughcash

Well we'd been together on and off for 10 years (although I'd been in love with him from being old enough to remember liking boys) and we split 2 weeks before our wedding day. I knew he wasn't the right person for me to commit to but it didn't stop me loving him any less and no matter what I can't stop! It's one of those where you think, get over it, be sensible! Shame life isn't that simple eh?

marksandsparksgal

Awww you poor love. You need a GIANT bar of chocolate and a nice hot bath with lots of bubbles, and also a phone call to a trusted friend /mum.

Yes in an ideal world you'd get over him, but things just don't work out that way.

Big (virtual) hugs.

notenoughcash

all hugs greatly appreciated!!! I know for a fact my friend(s) would happily listen to me but sometimes think I might be starting to sound like a broken record! Although I haven't phoned upset for a fair few months now. I can say I am now feeling a lot better though, a problem shared and all that. That's what I love so much about this site, always someone willing to listen without judging

Witsend_2

Take it easy notenoughcash don't be so hard on yourself. So you cried over a photo you're allowed to, everything/one that touches our lives becomes part of what we are. Take count of the good and the bad. Remember the good with fondness the bad as a learning curve, if you feel disappointed with the way the photo has made you feel then find the strenth to rip it up and move on. Big hug and smile for tomorrow is another day take care x

notenoughcash

I burnt a lot of stuff last year, cards, letters and stuff and took photos of them burning, sometimes i think I regret it and other times it makes me feel stronger. I also sold my engagement and wedding rings on ebay, half through desperation and lack of money, half through anger. I'm glad I did as I kept putting them on and making myself feel worse but then sometimes wish I still had them. I guess there's never a right answer to anything!

Witsend_2

:think: You are so confused, just remember the reason why you split, was it down to him or were you ready to finish too? we all have regrets but if things were not right then you can be strong and one day you will feel happiness again. Remember every waking moment is the chance to turn it all around. Be strong I send you chocolate:EasterBun , vodka and Chakkakan! (however you spell it Bridget!) P.S. the Vodka turned out bigger than I thought I don't suggest that you drink this amount well at least not tonight:D x x

notenoughcash

He was very very violent and very very controlling and we only split up because someone called the police on him when he came after me with a hammer and he got sent to prison for it and womens refuge rescued me! I'm too strong and sensible to put up with it, but I did because I loved him so much if you know what I mean. I should never have put up with it, but I couldn't help it. I wouldn't take him back for love nor money but I'm not sure that I'll ever be able to stop loving him.

I have discovered that alcohol is not the answer, but only cos I can't handle hang overs!! But that amount of vodka and chocolate and the chance to stay in bed for a couple of days may be a temporary fix..... Not really, I'm only kidding. It's just one of those blips, won't be first and won't be last, and as long as he never finds out that I've ever shed even one tear over him it'll be ok!!