What should I tell my daughters school about the seperation

streetgirl74

Hi I want to inform my daughters school that me and her dad have seperated, does anyone know what sort of thing I should put in a letter to them or does anyone know any links to any draft letters, thanks.

candygirl

If she's at High School, just ring and speak to her form tutor, or head of year/house.
If at Primary speak to the class teacher.You don't need to do a formal letter, just make the pastoral team aware, so that any upsets are understood and dealt with sensitively.;)
Don't worry about any gossiping, we all see it every day hun, and many of us have been through the same thing too:o
The kids in my form usually tell me chapter and verse of what's going in at home anyway:rolleyes: , but the usual thing is to have an informal chat on the phone

welshnoonoo

I would definitely say give them a call. My hubby and I separated a few years ago (temporarily) and I sent in a letter because I couldn't face talking to anyone about it - they never received the letter and I didn't find out until a few weeks later! Awful!

Paparika

If there is someone in the school you get on well with tell them, they'll let who ever needs to know.

I told my DS head teacher when my son was 4 when i split from ex, only because we were making a break and i didn't want him to pick him up from school and do something stupid.

Baybee1984

Yeh, if you can, speak to your childs class teacher as theyll be the ones dealing with them on a day to day basis. Or if not, give the school a call, or write a letter and hand it to the teacher yourself.

streetgirl74

Sorry I should have said that we have been apart for a while and her teacher does already know, I was thinking more along the lines of a letter to say who should be dropping/picking her up from school etc as I have got it into my head that hes gonna run off with her instead of taking her to school (he wont, its just my over active mind) I would like to think that they would call me if she wasnt at school and I hadnt phoned to say she was sick.

Baybee1984

In that case ask to speak to the teacher after school, or write a letter.. or even both?! explaining that under no circumstances must anyone other than yourself pick her up from school, unless you say so. xx

streetgirl74

Thanks Baybee.....things have got a little nasty now that I have invovled a solicitor and my mind has been working overtime :-( She went to her dads last night and he drops her off at school, so lets hope shes there when I go to pick her up at 3.15 !!!!!

ellies_angel

If you are/were married or not married but he had parental responsibilites then even if you tell the school he isn't to pick up your child, the school cannot not release your child to him unless you have an actual court order to stop him.
I worked in a school for many years and we had this time and time again and because he is the father we couldn't follow out the instructions, however if you weren't married and he hadn't gone to the trouble of obtaining parental responsibity then there should be no problem with the school carrying out your instruction.

Hope this makes sense

Strapped

How old is your daughter? I'd suggest giving the school a timetable of who is dropping off/picking up on which day, although, as has already been pointed out, the school wouldn't prevent a child's parent from picking her up on the say so of the other parent.

Is there a particular reason why you think that he might "run off" with her or are you completely over-reacting?

Loretta

streetgirl74 wrote: »

Thanks Baybee.....things have got a little nasty now that I have invovled a solicitor and my mind has been working overtime :-( She went to her dads last night and he drops her off at school, so lets hope shes there when I go to pick her up at 3.15 !!!!!

You can have a password that you give in case you have to phone to say someone else is pciking her up so that it is really you on the phone