men....

~chelsea~~_2

not really a newbie

BillScarab

So you think you're othe half is cheating on you and so you title your thread "men...." because, obviously all men are the same.

As for your problem, dump him, it's clear you don't trust him.

bookduck

I've know my female friend since 1986, long before she had met her husband. I'm currently in a tight spot and she has offered to lone me money too. It never occurred to me she want my body!

... he hasent told me anything about her or the money and due to a lot of distance between us we dont spend that much time together.

I would not worry about her. The problem seem to be more the relationship with him.

The reason why he has not mentioned it to you might be a problem, but to be fare in some situations it is just better to keep quiet, it avoids nagging, contant 'discussion', fights, arguments and generally a grumpy family life for a few weeks.

One thing for certain is that you have a trust issue. - "All seems Infected that th' Infected spy, As all looks yellow to the Jaundic'd Eye."
~ Alexander Pope ~

ameliarate

I assume ?(presume never sure of the difference) from your posting that you are not married or living together?

Certainly sounds like it might be time to get out; contact with another woman, getting money from her and apparently other things well hidden. Presumably you found out about the woman and the money in a slightly devious way so already had issues with trust?

Certainly time to take a long, hard look at what you are doing and where you are going with this relationship.

amyandoli

if you dont feel you can trust him, id leave, never mind anything he's up to. i think trust is vital in a relationship of any sort, once it's gone what's the point? x

~chelsea~~_2

no we are not married.

maybe i do have trust issues? i found out as he left himself logged in on pc and i didnt realise untill i open messages.. the one with the strange title made me open, i didnt read any other wish i had now,,

bookduck

~chelsea~~ wrote: »

... the one with the strange title made me open, i didnt read any other wish i had now,,

Yeh, right! Nosey Vixen!

Long distance relationships are hard a the best of times.

If you had trust issues with your last few relationships, then the problem may just be you, or what you look for in men. We all have friends that can't keep partners and we can all see why things fall to pot, even though they can't, or, you just choose the apple with a worm it in?

Go on, move on and visit a few dating sites and I'm sure you'll end up with 100's of invites/points!

foreversomeday

Why can't you just ask - be honest and explain how you discovered it. Perhaps she owed him the money from a long time ago?

Okay, it is unlikely, but it seems strange and it might be a surprise for you rather than a secret from you.

Don't just walk out or decide to end the relationship without at least trying to find out what's going on!

CB1979_2

that great old art of communication!

ASK him, why all the cloak & dagger stuff??

if he denies it, ask him to log on and show you.

Errata

If you don't see much of each other, perhaps you are one of several girlfriends? I can't see anything wrong in that.

tigtag02

Errata wrote: »

If you don't see much of each other, perhaps you are one of several girlfriends? I can't see anything wrong in that.

How helpful :rolleyes: